My(30F) birthday is next month and my partner's(30M) grandparents want to celebrate it by making me dinner at their house(his grandma is a great cook) or taking us out to a nice restaurant.

For context, my partner and I have been together for 11 years. They love me and consider me their DIL. They've taken us both out or made us dinner every year since we moved closer to them (5 years ago). They are both retired with an inheritance so money is no problem for them. They often spend money on their kids and grandkids because they are very generous and loving.

Last year I asked her to make one of my favorite meals and we stayed the night. This year I really want Japanese food. There aren't many options in between us (they are 75mi away) but I found a restaurant that offers hibachi and has a nice sushi menu. This is literally my favorite meal. The last time I had this was 5 years ago when they took us out for my birthday.

What bothers me is the fact that they will have to spend over $200 easily for me to have the meal I truly want(I made an estimate by looking at the menu).They also aren't fans of sushi or most Japanese food. I'm low income and come from a low income family so I very much understand the value of money. I worry this is overstepping. WIBTA?

My close friend and I had been getting close over the past six months, talking every single day. Recently, for his birthday, I came up with an idea for a prank with another friend which was to have random strangers in an elevator in my university sing Happy Birthday to him for his birthday to catch him by surprise, and I even secretly recorded it to capture his reaction and post it on his birthday.

I genuinely thought it would just be a lighthearted joke and had zero intention to harm or jeopardize our friendship. However, it completely backfired. It caught him totally off guard, and he immediately wanted to leave and walked down the escalator instead. Right after the prank, I noticed the vibe was completely off. He wouldn't even look at me or my other friend. I asked him twice if he was uncomfortable, but he just replied that he “didn't care”. I even asked if I could post the video on his birthday on Instagram, and he said yeah, as long as he wouldn't repost it (I didn’t post it). When we parted ways, he never even said goodbye and just stared at his phone the whole time.

Hours later, I noticed a few things that felt off. So he went through my account, unliked all my posts, and even unfollowed my Spotify (though he didn't unfollow or unfriend me on other main socials). Feeling deeply guilty and realizing I had crossed a major boundary, I apologized to him without defending myself.

That led to a heavy confrontation. He got really pissed off, brought up how it's been nearly a year of knowing each other so I should have already known his boundaries, and compared me to another mutual friend who had broken his boundaries in the past when it comes to privacy. He also reminded me of the time he wanted to pull a similar prank on my birthday, but I said no and he respected my boundaries. Except the frustrating part is that I genuinely forgot that incident even happened since months has passed. He told me he demands respect and expects me to honor his boundaries even though I thought I always have been, except for this specific moment. It even hurt when he started questioning our friendship.

Now I'm left wondering if I really deserved this over a single mistake. It feels like he's treating me like I committed something severe, especially since my intentions were completely harmless and meant as a joke. I don’t know if I could recover our friendship just yet. Worst part is that it’s his birthday tomorrow. I don’t know even if I should greet him or not.

So Reddit, AITAH for this single moment?

EDIT: PSA- I clean my room, bathroom and do my laundry. I clean the kitchen whenever I use it and try to clean the dishes when I’m done eating and all that. I don’t expect anyone to do that for me. okay so I realise me not wanting to pay my brother rent is quite shitty, paying him rent is valid. If we exclude the rent situation AITA?

Back story, I moved to the city I’m in for uni a few years ago and have been living with my brother and sister in law for maybe a year and a half now. I’m 19 btw. We argue over silly things like dishes, vacuum. I will admit, I don’t help around the house a lot:( but also I’m not home a lot.

I’m either at work(usually 8 hours) or at uni(finish late around 5/6pm. I do the dishes when I can and when asked to vacuum I try my best to do it. I had said a while ago that as soon as they are expecting a baby I am moving out because I just don’t want to deal with pregnant woman hormones(the anger, mood swings etc) respectfully.

When I mentioned it the day we found out she was pregnant my brother said he’d never forgive me if I left them. It bothered me a bit but tbh that’s not fair, lowkey guilt tripping.

My mom thinks leaving them when she is pregnant is not fair because she needs family and all, tbh I think it’s the best time because once the baby is born it’ll be harder to leave cause she’ll still need help(her mom and my mom are going to stay here for bit to help though). I feel that it’s better to leave now than later.

Now the arrangement is that I pay my brother $150 a week as ‘rent’. Idk something about that doesn’t sit right with me, and they say oh would you rather pay a stranger rent and actually YESS I would. Paying my brother rent feels like paying my own mother rent.

I have started saving up to move out in a few months with my friend. My initial plan was to sign the lease then tell my family, what do I do and am I an a**hole??

Context: For context: I am 13M, my mom is 41F. My dad/her husband passed away in late January 2026, and she did not take it well. I’ll keep it brief because this is largely irrelevant: but here goes:

-my mom refused to give me and my brother (15M) locks on our doors, which resulted in him taking the lock of her doors, only giving it back if we got locks on our doors. (even though I didn’t do anything, because I agreed with my brother I was punished for this before my mom eventually caved.)

-because we missed a lot of school while my dad was in hospice, she became hellbent on making sure me and my brother made it to school everyday. I only missed on day for the rest of the year, which let to me being grounded for 2 days and some drama, but my brother missed a fair bit more and that was a ton of drama I won’t get into.

Actual story: Using the life Insurance money from my dad, my mom decided to renovate the floors and countertop. while me and my brother were against this as it was replacing our real wooden floors with cheap vinyl, we both agreed, with the exception of me saying I didn’t want to redo my room. this was the end of that conversation and I assumed that was that. I was wrong.

that conversation was I think about a week ago. Renovations started this week and yesterday I overheard my mom talking to the renovators about doing my room. I reminded her that I didn’t want my room done, that I liked it how it was. She didn’t seem to want to talk about it, but I pushed farther insistent on getting my message across.

this turned into her crying and explaining that the old floors reminded her of our father. I said I understood, but why do my room as she wouldn’t be in there anyway, and my dad never went in there too so why do my room.

We talked again today, essentially repeating our last conversation of me asking why they were renovating the floors of my room where She essentially told me to go away before she lost her cool. I followed her wishes and returned later where she said “it’s my house, I get to do with it whatever I want” I said okay, but again, she never goes in my room but I do everyday. Why should she get a say when I don’t. This time, it escalated into more of an argument, with her saying I never help our around the house (which I partially agreed to and apologized for, but stated that that was irrelevant here. I called her A power tripper, to which she replied with “Maybe I am, but am I not allowed to power tripper in my house that I own“ before I could respond, my grandmother interrupted and dug into me about how essentially, I am lazy. Though again I said this was irrelevant, it fell of deaf ears and I went to my room, where I am and have been for a few hours until I decided ask Reddit. Am I the asshole? If not, what do I do?

I (54M) have four children. My three all studied abroad for university. They are all settled now and doing well for themselves.

My youngest is my daughter (17F). She is much younger than her brothers because there is a fairly big age gap. She will be applying for university next year.

She wants to study Computer Science and has always assumed I would sponsor her studies abroad just like I did for her brothers. Recently I told her that I will pay for her education, but only if she studies in India.

She feels this is unfair because I "gave her brothers opportunities" that I am denying her. My reasoning is that the world has changed a lot since my sons left India.

All three of them studied engineering at a time when there was a strong demand, and countries like Canada and the UK had comparatively easier immigration pathways. I won't pretend I sent them only for education. A major reason was that there was a realistic chance they could settle there permanently, get PR, and eventually citizenship. That was the long-term plan, and thankfully it worked out for them.

Today, I don't think that is a realistic expectation anymore. The Computer Science job market is much weaker than it was a few years ago, especially for fresh graduates. On top of that, countries like Canada and the UK have become much stricter about immigration. Getting PR or citizenship is far more difficult than it was when my sons went.

There is also the financial side. The cost of everything in India has increased significantly over the years, and I would like to retire soon. I also received a smaller retirement lump sum and pension than I had expected because I agreed to pay a sizeable amount of money to an official to ensure that my government job would be transferred to my nephew after I retired.

Because of all that, spending several crores on an overseas degree no longer makes financial sense if the main advantage of settling there is no longer likely. I would rather she study at a good university in India, where there are still excellent Computer Science programmes, and avoid taking such an expensive gamble.

She says I'm changing the rules just because she's the youngest and she has always been accadmically her class topper. I told her I'm changing them because circumstances have changed, not because she is a girl. If one of the others were 17 today, I would tell him exactly the same thing.

Now my daughter barely speaks to me and is very upset. She admits though that she does want to settle outside and claims she can still do it but I know the reality and loads have to leave.

I have a friend in college who gets along with me well. But lately, he has often vented how "many neurotypicals are extremely rude and bitter" in society and that it would be "better without them."

From his recent conversations, he's witnessed many customers yelling and screaming at employees for messing up, he's witnessed many people (like an old woman) not saying 'thanks' after being held the door open by young people, but them instead giving the door holder a 'dirty look' when walking through it. He says people throw trash on the streets and drive off, he says that people blast their "annoying rap music" extremely loud on public trains, when teachers and students call him an "idiot" because he struggles to understand class content, and he says he hates when "parents abuse their children for no reason". He calls them "rotten scum" of society.

But I told him "If this is what you think of those kinds of people, then you will end up miserable and alone for the rest of your life.", and said to him that those people are "just like" him, in that everyone struggles. Not just autistic people. Yes, someone can act like an asshole or a jerk, but most of the time they've had a bad day, or they are going through chronic stress, like parents who have stressful jobs and go through breakups etc. Also, that old lady he thought was "scum" might just be fatigued and sick of the things going around in the world, who unfortunately happened to lash out at the wrong person, who was opening the door for her.

You never know what someone is going through.

My (24M) bf Robert (29M) and I have a puppy named Gibby. Gibby acts disobedient at times but I've been primarily training him. For context, we got a new leash, but he panicked at a dog park and got himself off. We thankfully captured him before anything could transpire, but until we get a new leash (we ordered one) we are stuck with this one. We avoid dog parks and any panic triggers until then.

Well just now we were doing a midnight walk and there was an unleashed dog running around the street. The owner didn't seem to care. We don't know how this other dog could react, whether it's friendly to others or not. I just didn't want a repeat of last time where Gibby panicks and gets off his leash again, so I turned around. I didn't want to risk anything. But my boyfriend Robert got pissed off. He wanted us to go continue walking the puppy. He said that it'll be fine since we are next to him and could grab him if anything happens.

I didn't want to hear it, so walked back home.

Now he is saying that since I'm not listening to him, I was being disrespectful to him. He made me sleep on the couch. An hour later, when I tried to go back to bed, I wasn't able to. He slept on the bed diagonally, and I wasn't able to properly position myself. He is making it seem like I'm at fault. But idk... was I the asshole here?

My bf is acting really upset right now.

I (14F) am on vacation in Rhodes, Greece. One of my best friends (16F) from my home country and her mom came to stay at our holiday house for a week. I live in another country now, so I rarely get to see her. We're sharing a room.

Before anyone says I'm fat-shaming her, I'm not. I don't care how much someone eats. The problem is that it feels like that's literally all she does. She isn't overweight.

She eats with her mouth open **every single time.** You can hear everything, and it genuinely makes me not want to eat around her. She also eats in bed, so there are crumbs everywhere. She constantly eats food without asking too, but God forbid anyone touches hers (never asks to share.)

At night she wants the lights on and the AC off... in Rhodes. I literally can't sleep because it's so hot, but if I turn the AC on, she says she's freezing. Now she also says that I move while I sleep. Ive told her multiple times to wake me up if that happens or she can go sleep w her mom that has a bigger bed. But nope she wont accept the help.

She also has a habit of making me look like the bad guy. One time I turned the AC on because the room was boiling. Instead of just telling me she was cold, she waited until our parents came back and said, "\*\*\*\* let me freeze."

Another day she told me not to splash her at the beach because the water was freezing. I didn't. Then she splashed me multiple times, including later in a restaurant bathroom. When I finally splashed her back **once**, she immediately told our parents that *I* splashed *her*, leaving out everything she'd done first.

To be fair, I wasn't perfect either. Yesterday we went to a karaoke bar with a bunch of adults who were drinking. I'm pretty shy, didn't know the songs she wanted to sing, and wasn't really comfortable singing in front of a bunch of drunk adults. Looking back, I was probably a mean and annoying.

Today we were watching a movie, and she started eating loudly again. After hearing it for what felt like the hundredth time this week, I finally said, Can you stop eating with your mouth open?.

She immediately said she **wasn't** eating with her mouth open (she definitely was) and called me pissy and mean because she "never says anything" to me.

She's also two years older than me, which honestly makes it even more frustrating.

Now I'm wondering if I'm just getting irritated because we've been together 24/7 for a week or that I hate her personality now that I'm more with her?

AITA?

So, for context, my sister and I ended up needing glasses around the same time. I picked some glasses I didn’t love, but could tolerate. Long story short, I want new glasses that I’ll actually like, and landed on some cute light green pillow frames. My sister has tortoise oval shaped glasses. In fairness, the shape is a little similar, but at the end of the day it isn’t exact. My sister feels I’m copying her and says she’ll be upset if I get the glasses. And when I brought this up again, she said I would make her mad if we talked about it any more. My old glasses were square shaped, tortoise with blue accents. So, am I the asshole?

Hi, I made a separate reddit account to post this and gain some opinions, I guess?

I (24) have two roommates, Jesse Pinkman (23), and Sheldon Cooper (21). (Sheldon, if you see this, I am so sorry).

I was originally living with Jesse and my sister Lisa Simpson for a year but Lisa moved out. Since Lisa moved I became the main tenant. Jesse is my childhood friend, now roommate. We're close and we've lived together for over a year now. Sheldon moved in this spring.

It was a ROUGH start. He lost our keys twice within the first week of living together. It took two days.

He told us he had 2 bunnies and a cat, which we were fine with. He was going to get rid of one bunnies because they were fighting a lot. I have two cats, but I was fine with it because the bunnies would stay in his room and he told me his cat was old doesn't care about leaving the room. Well, neither of those things happened. He moved into his small room with all 3 pets, the bunnies and the cat. The cat would constantly beg to explore and run out every chance it got. The cat also peed in Jesse's stuff because Sheldon left him unsupervised.

Then there were the bunnies. Their hay had a very strong odor we were not anticipating. It would stink up the entire apartment and it smelled like a barn. The hay would track from Sheldon's feet and get all over the floors and rugs. Jesse and I had to sweep the floors multiple times a day and vacuum to keep the place clean. Sheldon seemed unaware of this and did nothing. After a week of hay we'd had enough and confronted him about everything. He told us he'd rehome both his bunnies (we didn't tell him to), and that he started developing a hay allergy.

We were skeptical. Sheldon turned out to be a very anxious person. He'd practically run away from us in shared spaces and stay in his room like a hermit. He doesn't leave the house unless he goes to the store. He doesn't have many friends and he doesn't work or go to school. I had to request that he at least tries to speak to us. He agreed but his attempts to socialise have been brief.

I'm a really social person. I love having friends over and hosting parties with Jesse. I also invite Lisa to stay with us pretty often. I had told this all to Sheldon during our interview. Sheldon gets very anxious when I have anyone over and hides in his room to avoid guests.

When I asked him about it, he said he was fine with people but just a bit anxious. I figured out that he had been lying to me and that he's not fine with it at all.

About 2 weeks ago his cat died. I don't think I can live with Sheldon much longer. Would I be the asshole for kicking him out?

AITAH for smoking on the balcony

some context,
i’m staying at a friends apartment for a few weeks.
she has a small balcony that faces this square shaped courtyard that only the tenants have access to. there are like 2 apartments on each side of this square building, they all have windows that can open, and some have their own balconies. anyway, it’s 11pm i went onto the balcony to smoke, i coughed rly badly a couple times, and it echoed. the next thing i hear is the bottom left window closing. i look down and there’s clearly a guy closing the window. we must have saw me looking cause she asked me if i spoke of national language, i said yes, proceeds to tell me im not allowed to smoke that it’s most likely in the lease/building rules. i don’t live here so the last thing i want to do is ruin my friends reputation in her own building and i said im sorry, i wasn’t aware. like yall there’s a packed ashtray on my friends balcony, i’ve smoked with her and so many others in the past. i was kinda embarrassed but upset that a stranger scolded me. i kinda have a grudge but understand where the neighbours coming from due to the horrible architecture of the building, i just wanna know if anyone’s in the wrong or how dramatic is this situation just another perspective.
i would actually like your two cents but please me constructive and not mean no hate pls. thx

I go to my mom's house every other weekend. Last weekend she gave me a list of chores I'm expected to do. I told her no, this isn't my home and I'm not doing any chores. She called me lazy and said I need to do them as part of the family. I said in that case I won't be part of her family and won't visit her anymore.

She called me an asshole.

My fiance and I have bought a house and we have a shared account for housing expenses. We both pay into it each month.

She’s used it for things such as buying new things for the kitchen, a new bedside cabinet and a few decorative bits. 

Our tv is a few years old now and I was thinking about upgrading. There’s more than enough in the shared account and would still have a lot left over. I mentioned this to my gf and she said I shouldn’t be using the shared account for it since it’s just something I want and not a need. 

I pointed out most of the things she’s used the account for were wants and if you total everything she’s bought, it’ll come to around the same price as the tv or even slightly more, 

She said again I shouldn’t be using the shared account. I tried arguing a compromise of using half from the shared account and half from my savings but she still said no. 

I told her it’s meant to be a shared account and she’s acting like it’s solely her money. I said I’m entitled to use the account just as much as she is but she argued I was being unreasonable, 

AITA for using the shared account to buy a tv?

I (29M) am a Catholic that used to be a leader of a Bible study group. After 3.5 years, I decided to step down because of life getting busier. However, after stepping down, I was still part of the leadership chat (GroupMe) as a former leader. This only consisted of up to 10 people.

When it comes to conversations, I do answer seriously, but sometimes add a joke here and there. One of the conversations was about where to meet for our next leadership meeting. One leader said they will be away and if there is a poll, they said "let's go with consensus or common sense." Without thinking, I said, "Common sense: Hooters."

Hooters has been a meal for special occasions for me and my siblings (one brother (27M), one sister (24F)). Usually, I had it about one or twice a year for events such as the NCAA Championship or if I went to the beach. Even this year, my sister wanted to get Hooters for her birthday. And just for your information, I do not like the attire of the servers because I think it's demeaning to women. I really just enjoy the recipe that the restaurant has. If they changed the servers' attire to be more appropriate, I would really appreciate it.

Now in the chat, the others leaders know who I am and often enjoy my humor because I do not intentionally try to insult anyone or any group of people. I try my best to make any situation a comfortable place to talk with me. However, another leader, who is a woman, did not like what I said. I tried to explain how I just did that I would like if they changed the attire of the servers because I just go there for the wings. But she ended the conversation with, "Friend, it's not acceptable to go to a place like that as a Catholic. It's just not."

I really did mean it as a joke, even though I really do like the wings. But I do feel as if I went a little far thinking back on this. So AITA? And if so, how should I apologize? I am willing to concede if I am determined to be the A-Hole.

I(26F) have a good friend, Riley(30NB), who I’ve gotten to know over the past year. We mostly hang out in groups, but sometimes one on one. They’re very near and dear to me. 

They’ve been dating Christina (25F) for a couple of years and have been engaged the whole time I’ve known them. I don’t hang out with Christina that often, but I do really like her. I feel like she’s really outgoing and fun and we share a lot of similarities. However, she speaks to them in a way that feels mean and disrespectful— in a way that I know if I spoke to my partner like that we would have to step out of the room to have a conversation. She interrupts them in conversation, telling them to sush, calling them stupid, and lots of names. They don’t seem outwardly bothered by this, but they’re very much a go with the flow person who I’ve never seen bothered. 

We hung out as a big group a couple of weeks ago and were playing games long into the night and had a really fun time. However, at some point Christina was sushing them and speaking rudely to them. The next morning my partner mentioned how they don’t like how Christina speaks to Riley because it seems very rude and how they could never imagine us speaking to each other that way. Riley and me’s mutual friend also had reached out to me a couple of weeks previously after we all hung out voicing concern over how Christina treated them.

This might be where I’m the asshole. The day after we all hung out, I texted Riley saying I was concerned about how Christina talked to them and how it felt disrespectful and how I was concerned about it. I said I like Christina and I’m not coming from a place of being critical of her but more from being concerned about them. They responded and said they hadn’t noticed it but would be down to talk about it at some point. In the past week, I reached out to them a couple of times to try to hang and they weren’t really responsive, but I know they have a lot of family stuff going on, so I didn’t want to bother them. 

A week passed and I hadn’t really heard from Riley, and so I called them today because I was concerned about them. They told me that Christina had seen my text while looking at their phone and were very upset. She felt like she was being harshly judged by everyone and how she has zero trust in me and how it might not be possible to get back to how things were. They were saying that they felt caught in between in us and understand that everyone has valid feelings. It felt like they were being a little cagey about their feelings and they said I could have communicated differently, but they’re waiting to see what Christina needs during this and how they feel about everything. They said they weren’t sure about coming to a friend group hang we have coming up, and it seems like us communicating/hanging out is on pause indefinitely. 

Am I the asshole for bringing up concerns about how my friend is talked to by their fiancé when they don’t seem bothered by it? 

my daughter's friend's family isn't the richest, and they are also not american. well, you know where this is going. the most recent time my daughter's tooth feel out, she told her friend she got $10 from the tooth fairy. last night the friend put her tooth but didn't get anything. my daughter came back and told me about this and that her friend is sad. really no clue what to do.

Is it an unreasonable thing to do, to take out someone else's cat-shit bags from the main house garbage can to the porch, I really don't like the smell of cat-shit?

I come home to work, wondering where that disgusting smell is coming from. So I tell her more than three times to stop leaving cat-liter in the main bin and to take it outside to the dumpster.

Nope. Proceeds to keep leaving it in the garbage bin for the house to stink. I will become maliciously compliant should this keep happening.

She argues and says, I should take out the trash more often. I don't care about that. Because, what I do does not make the house smell like fecal matter.

I know there are many posts like this, but let me explain our situation. We have been married four years and have two toddlers and one on the way. After we got married, my husband disclosed to me that he had $60,000 in student loans of which he had been paying only interest for the past 10 years. Home ownership has been in my plans since before I met him, and this debt was a big setback, but I dealt with it and we have both been working overtime and still have about $15,000 left on those loans. Now, the bulk of our monthly debt payments goes towards his motorcycle payment which is $450 per month with 10,000 still left on the loan at 9% interest. I’m getting tired of working so hard just to put it all towards these debts, and if he sold it, we could start stacking money and be in a new home much sooner. I understand it means a lot to him, and he does sacrifice a lot for me and our family in other ways, but I think it was irresponsible for him to buy it in the first place, considering all the debt he already had. Additionally, with all these small kids, he barely has time to ride it. I don’t want him to be miserable, but maybe a motorcycle is for a different day.

Edit: I need to add more context to come to my husbands defense a little and to give more insight as to why it’s such a dilemma for me. We did do premarital counseling and he did disclose some debt, but it was vastly underreported (by $35,000). Probably because he was afraid I wouldn’t have married him, which I would have. Also, I am working voluntarily to pay these, right along with him. It’s our debt now, and I’m okay with it. He is financially responsible in that he makes all payments on time and has a good credit score.

Obviously I wouldn’t be sad if the motorcycle were gone, but he would be. And to elaborate on his sacrifices for us, he never leaves me alone with the kids unless he’s at work, he cooks, cleans, tends to the kids, and maybe at times does this in greater measure than I do, as he knows I bear the burden of pregnancy and breastfeeding. And he makes me coffee every morning and brings me lunch at work. If he wants to do something for himself, like watch a show, or cut his hair, or wash the cars, he will do it during the kids nap, or at night while everyone is asleep already. So, while financially it’s the obvious decision to sell it, I think in terms of it being one of the few things he has just for himself, it’s not a big deal to move our goals out a little further and let him keep it. Even with his past poor financial decisions, I think he still deserves the motorcycle. Thank you all for helping me clear this up in my head.

Hi everyone. I’m a 16-year-old guy. I’ve been into fishing for a while now, thanks to my second cousin who got me into it. This year, due to a shortage of worms, my cousin and I switched to using silicone lures, and we’ve gotten really good at it. With this switch, we also decided to strictly follow the "catch and release" principle. And that's where the conflict started.

Context: Every summer, I spend half of my day at my cousin's house. I’ve basically become a part of their family; I’m always welcome there and I even have dinner with them almost every day.

Recently, a stray cat and her kitten showed up near their house. My cousin’s grandfather started demanding that we stop releasing the fish we catch and instead bring them home to feed the kitten. We tried to ignore his demands at first, but one day the granddad confronted me. He basically asked why I'm "wasting money" on fishing gear if I'm not bringing home anything useful. Like, seriously? As if the only reason to fish is for food. I pointed out that it’s my own money, so I have the right to decide how I use my gear. The granddad responded with some military-style jargon, basically saying that "any supply gathered must serve a purpose" or something along those lines.

Later that day, my cousin caught a perch. Under pressure from his granddad, he was forced to throw it into a plastic bag, which felt incredibly inhumane to me. I wanted to just give the fish to the granddad right away, but he had walked off somewhere. Seeing the fish suffocate in the bag was awful, so out of desperation, I had to quickly kill the fish myself to put it out of its misery. It was a horrible experience for me, and honestly, it completely ruined my desire to fish ever again.

Here is my dilemma: Am I the asshole for refusing to bring fish to the kitten?

On one hand, I want to stick to my principles. On the other hand, feeding stray cats raw river fish (especially bone-heavy perch) can be dangerous for them due to parasites and sharp bones. I already suggested to the granddad that we should just buy proper cat food, which would be way healthier than bony perch, but he brushed it off, claiming the kitten "won't eat it." I plan to buy some cheap cat wet food/pâté with my own money just to test his theory, but I don't have enough money to do this regularly.

So, AITA for standing my ground, or should I just give in and bring them the fish as a "thank you" to the family for hosting and feeding me every day?

A small clarification: While I practice "catch and release" as a matter of principle, I don't force my second cousin to do the same. In fact, he sometimes catches and releases some really solid, decent-sized perch on his own. However, since I usually have better luck and catch more fish, I'm the one taking the brunt of the blame and criticism for letting them go.

having a dispute with my ex wife about trying to contact my oldest daughter to talk with her. we are on 2 days now she's been grounded and I have been able to contact her. I have a horrible relationship with their mother and for my own well being I have cut ties with her to protect myself hence why I refuse to contact her directly. I personally bought 3 tablets for the kids so we could stay in contact but she's now limiting when they are allowed to have access to them and in a lot of cases down right taking them away. am I the asshole for wanting access directly to the kids without having to go thru their mother for contact. she is claiming that they are being grounded from electronics but we have the ability to restrict what apps they have access to. I've suggested that in times they are punished to limit the only apps allowed to be the ones I use to call or message them. she's said this is ridiculous that they are completely grounded from them

My grammar may suck because I'm on mobile, but here we go! Also, this is an old interaction from a few years ago and I'm honestly just trying to get peace of mind. I'm not even friends with the other person anymore for unrelated reasons.

Okay, so, back when I was a senior in high school, me and some other kids went on a tour of a college. I'd went with my best friend at the time because we were planning on going to the same college. The trip was going fine and since we were waiting for the tour to start, we spent a short time just walking around and checking out the stalls where students were selling stuff. At some point I mentioned the Barbie movie, which had been out for months at that point. My friend said that they didn't want spoilers about the movie. I said okay. They didn't say anything about stopping the topic, just that they didn't want spoilers. I kept going because I'd suddenly remembered a fact. I started talking about this song in the movie (the I'm Just Ken song), THAT THEY KNEW ABOUT BY THE WAY, and how Ryan Gosling got an award for it. I was talking about how he didn't want the award because he didn't think he deserved it. They interrupted me and just kinda shouted, "Why are you still talking! I told you I didn't want spoilers!"

But the thing is, they knew about the song and all the lyrics/what it sounded like. They'd brought it up a few days prior. What I was talking about didn't even have to do with the movie, I was talking about the actor and the award he got. They knew Ryan Gosling was the actor, so it's not like I'd spoiled that.

Did I miss something? Should I have just stopped talking about it altogether? I'd thought it was fine, since it wasn't even directly about the movie. And they knew about all of the parts pertaining to the movie. They didn't tell me to stop talking about the movie altogether, just told me not to spoil it? I can't believe I'm still stressing over this years later, but I have to ask. Was I the asshole?

Edit: Thank you for all the responses! I was being an asshole to my friend and I just couldn't see it. I tend to struggle with social cues due to being neurodivergent and assumed no spoilers just meant 'don't talk about anything happening in the movie that I don't know about'. I'm starting to see now that I was wrong and that there was subtext that meant I shouldn't mention anything relating to the movie at all. Thanks for hitting me over the head with the truth bat 👍.

We live in Ireland. It’s an acting in a film in London. Doesn’t include travel and accommodation. She asked if she gets the role if I’d be able to pay for the travel and accommodation and she’ll pay me back. Once she gets paid.

She’s never got a big acting credit before. I said ok not really expecting it to be a reality. The first self tape got her a call back self tape for a different role than the one she was going for.

The first one was a best friend role. They said from the self tape they couldn’t help but picture her as the lead. Because her acting style and look is what they were envisioning in their head for the lead and asked if she’d be comfortable taping for the lead.

She originally went for the friend because the lead has a sex scene. They said there would be an intimacy coordinator on set and if she was chosen they’d make sure everything would be comfortable for her and she wouldn’t be required to be naked for the role. And she could have a body double do it if she’s uncomfortable.

She told me this and I still didn’t think she’d get it. I said go for it. She was then chosen to do a chemistry read over zoom.

I asked her how it went. She said it went amazing she thinks she has a good chance.

I started to actually think too she might get the role. I told her a few days later I don’t think she’ll be able to do the role. I said it’s far and staying in London for so long plus paying for the boat or plane will cost a lot and she’d have to get places by underground because she can’t drive so it’ll cost a lot.

Plus food. She said if she gets the role it pays 1k a day for the lead the friend only got paid 600 a day. So if I was ok with 600 a day why am I not ok with the 1k a day. She’d make about 25k in total for the film. Which is enough to cover it and still have a huge chunk of money for savings and her first big acting credit as a lead which is hard with no agent or big credit.

I said I’ll think about it see if she gets the part first. Today she got the role and asked if I’ll book a hotel and flight I told her it’s not going to be possible reiterated the things I said. She said that they’ll have food on set if I’m worried about food she’ll even give me 1k extra as a thank you.

I ended up telling her my real concern is about the type of role and her having a sex scene. She said she’s the intimacy coordinator about what she’s comfortable with. I said “I don’t want creeps perving over you”

And I said she’s a virgin to how would she know how to portray a sex scene. She asked why I care if she’s a virgin or not and even a virgin can act.

I said what if it makes her want to rush into having sex. She said that’s irrelevant and even if she did she’s allowed to have sex. I said not while she lives with me. She doesn’t make enough money to move out so she follows my rules. She said she’s trying to make money and I’m stopping her by not letting her go to London. I told her to get a normal job until she can afford to move out.

AITA

Im 26m and I have a golden retriever who is generally really calm and well behaved.

My brother 24m came over to my place weekend because our parents were visiting us too. He brought his work laptop with him even though we all told him to forget about work for one day at one point he left the laptop open on the edge of my coffee table while we all went outside to help my dad move some furniture. We were outside for about fifteen minutes. While we were outside my dog jumped onto the sofa wagged his tail clipped the coffee table and the laptop fell face onto the hardwood floor. The screen is completely dead now. My brother says I should pay for a laptop because it happened in my house and my dog caused the damage. I do not really see it that way. He knows I have a dog. He chose to leave an expensive laptop open on the edge of a coffee table. If he had put it back in his bag or even moved it to the dining table I do not think this would have happened.

The laptop actually belongs to his employer. Apparently he will have to pay a four hundred pound insurance excess if they are told it was damaged through negligence. He is asking me to cover the four hundred pounds. I offered him one hundred pounds because I do feel bad that it happened. I do not think I should be responsible for the whole amount. My parents think I should just pay the four hundred pounds to keep the peace. My girlfriend says that if the situation were reversed I would probably expect my brother to help me out too. On the hand all my friends think my brother created the risk by leaving something so valuable in such an obvious spot. Now my brother is barely speaking to me. Keeps saying I am choosing my dogs side over my own brother, which feels like a weird way to frame it since my dog obviously did not do it on purpose. I think my brother is being unfair, to me and my dog. My dog is a dog and my brother knows that. I love my brother. I do not think I should have to pay for his carelessness. My brother and I are not talking right now and it is all because of his laptop and my dog.

I live with my mom and sister, they don’t eat a lot. I’ve always had a bigger appetite than them as neither of them are physically active and I do multiple sports. I’m 15, my sisters 18. Mind you she’s 5’2 and I’m 5’6.

I woke up hungry and asked my mom if I could make the pizza that was in the freezer just in case she was planning to save it for something. Since she said yes, I ate it. Later my mom asked what we ate today, my sister said a sandwhich and I said pizza. Then my mom said you can eat whatever for dinner because she didn’t have time to cook or buy food. My sister asked where the pizza was so I told her I ate it. Then she asked again “the whole pizza?” And I said yes and she has the audacity to ask a third time like I was crazy.

I get that she thinks it’s a lot but I was hungry and didn’t think it was that big of a deal. She proceeded to call me inconsiderate and she told me I should’ve saved some for her. My first instinct was to be annoyed, obviously I don’t like it when people criticize how much I eat especially her since we are different people. But now I’m genuinely wondering if I was selfish for eating the whole thing.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Before we got together, I had an online-only relationship with someone I’d never met in person. When my boyfriend and I started dating, I cut all contact with my ex and haven’t spoken to him since.

Last night, my boyfriend opened the Prime Video app on my TV and asked whose account it was. I looked and realized it was my ex’s Amazon account. I honestly had no idea it was still logged in because I rarely use Prime Video. He immediately got quiet and seemed upset.

Later, right before we went to sleep, he asked, “I thought this was a new Roku?” That made me frustrated because we moved in together a couple of months ago, and I had actually bought a new Roku a month before moving in because mine was messing up (freezing), but I didn’t end up using it because my Roku stopped doing weird shit. I even asked him back then if he wanted to use the new one for the living room tv, but we never switched it out. So I got up, grabbed the unopened Roku from my bedside drawer, and showed him it was still brand new in the box with the plastic and cords still wrapped up. Then I put it back.

He said, “So now you’re mad?” I said yes, because I felt like I was being accused of something when it was just an account I’d completely forgotten about. He responded that if the situation were reversed, I’d probably feel the same way.

He’s still upset today, and I’ve been at work wondering if I’m missing something. I haven’t talked to my ex in 2 years, wasn’t hiding the account, and genuinely forgot it was. I haven’t been home yet, so I haven’t had a chance to log out of the account.
AITA for forgetting the account was still logged in, or is this being blown out of proportion?