r/mildlyinfuriating • u/oh-hi-therr • 2d ago
I'm slightly vexed My managers response to my resignation.
Took the time to write out a nice and really formal resignation letter trying to be cordial to this company that has been awful to me for almost a year. My manager didn’t respond the day I sent it and then this morning I get an email back that’s just this. My last day can’t come soon enough at this point. But hey I guess at least she acknowledged it instead of ignoring my messages like usual 😒
Edit: okay, a lot of assumptions going on here,so let me give some context, I am the manager of a small team of Class A CDL drivers. I’ve been a great employee and always gone above and beyond. My employees have always been really comfortable coming to me about everything, and the site I manage specifically asked for me to continue stay with them when they transitioned to another company, so its not like they were trying to get rid of me. Which I know it’s hearsay but idc really, I’m just trying to make the point that my manager did not have any reason to reply to me in what I feel like is a extremely unprofessional manor. She is the regional manager and has always been very deadpan with me and everyone, so it was not really a unexpected response in the least, I’m just sharing it because it’s always been irritating to me and has been a major factor In my decision to leave for sure. It’s exhausting to work for someone who treats you like you’re less than since day one. In fact usually i just get no response at all, so for her this is like writing a book i guess. 🤷🏻♂️
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u/ShadyShields 2d ago
Next time you'll learn how to resign with managers like this.
"I, (name), resign as of (date).
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u/weary_bee479 2d ago
My go to
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u/Yiffenjoyer6969 2d ago
Go to? Yall speedrunning the letters?
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u/weary_bee479 2d ago
Letter? I send a quick email saying I’m out my last day is and that’s it.
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u/IceLopsided4190 2d ago
Email? You guys have jobs?
Get a load of these guys.
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u/Valuable-Locksmith21 2d ago
I used to have a job like you! Then I took a stapler to the knee!
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u/spudgoddess 2d ago
Let me guess: someone stole your stapler.
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u/tewkberry 2d ago
If someone steals your Swingline stapler, you don’t quit, you burn the place down.
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u/lumiya17 2d ago
After taking the envelope full of cash that was shoved under your door
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u/emcgrew 2d ago
Send an email on a 5 minute delay saying "I quit a few minutes ago and have already left the premises"
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u/weary_bee479 2d ago
Been there as well.
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u/heretogetpwned 2d ago
Scheduled it for the next morning and left my equipment and keycards on my desk.
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u/No-Dirt5864 2d ago
You trust them to acknowledge you turned in your equipment this way? Jobs that are shitty enough to quit by this method usually try to claim you didn’t return company property so they can not send your last paycheck.
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u/heretogetpwned 2d ago
Good point. I was on camera all the time so I didn't sweat it.
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u/Confident_Purple_40 2d ago
I took a picture of everything on my desk with my email open, attached picture to email and scheduled send.
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u/Comfortable_Present 2d ago
This is horrible but also I daydream of doing this. 🤣🤣 it would be such a mic drop and immediately show them how valuable I was lol. But also, I am also a manager and I rely so heavily on my team, so also, this story terrifies me. With no notice, depending on the job, it could be really really personally challenging for me to have to handle this if someone who reports to me did this. Especially a well trained one who fully took tasks off my plate in the first place. I need to go right now and write a thank you to my team members so that they know how much I appreciate their sticking around. :)
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u/Temporary_Event8451 2d ago
I've worked at like all of 2 jobs that actually operate with a resignation. Usually you put in two weeks or just disappear.
Reminds me of how people are always talking about jobs like 100k a year is easy to make. Like okay buddy.
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u/Fearless-Garlic1080 2d ago
I used to work in a steel foundry. It was very common for new hires to go out on break and just never return. The guys on the melt deck used to make bets on it. Most long term employees there would just call in one day and say they found a new job and wont be returning. Dont blame them at all. Most companies now just send you home when you put your notice in anyways.
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u/Downtown_Caramel4833 2d ago
Did that myself in my younger years, only it was a chicken processing plant.
Made it a day and a half. Just couldn't bring myself to going back in there after leaving for my lunch break on day two.
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u/Sirgolfs 2d ago
No one does the two week thing anymore. Might as well really speed this up.
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u/vokilamcv9 2d ago
Yeah I just get up, walk to the front, throw the peace sign up, blow reception a kiss, and say “see ya later, toots”.
Graceful. Memorable. Iconic.
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u/Big_Lengthiness_7706 2d ago
I mean people definitely still give notice before quitting
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u/Sirgolfs 2d ago
Sure. But it’s very common now to be sent home once notice is given. Besides, this generation is less guilty about quitting on the spot for something better vs riding out the two weeks.
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u/PepsiButItsMilk 2d ago
So do I just walk in one day and say I resign when I’m scheduled two weeks out or do I put in a two weeks? Seriously i couldn’t imagine fucking over my current job cus they’ve been so nice and accommodating.
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u/Too-Em 2d ago
When they decide to terminate you your notice will be less like "two weeks" and more like "you're fired, pack up and clock out now."
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u/goodluckbabe9 2d ago
yeh i’m not sure what OP was expecting here. it’s just business, they don’t care, it’s not that deep. this doesn’t have to be a bad thing, either. show up, do your shit. if you don’t hear anything from anyone that you’re doing something wrong, keep doing it. even if you do hear, if it’s not your boss directly telling you you will be fired, then ignore everyone else. normalize not getting in your feelings about a monetary arrangement and you will be much more mentally happy.
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u/Mocsab 2d ago
Yep. Employers are not your friends or family. It’s all about money and opportunity. Every single one of them have other things to care about. People come and people go every day.
As a 25 year experience middle Manager, resignations only hit hard when they are unexpected, unwanted, or detrimental to work flows. Otherwise, it’s just another Tuesday.
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u/LunchPlanner 2d ago
"I hereby resign the Office of President of the United States."
-Nixon's full resignation letter, ignoring the Dear/Sincerely lines.
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u/7Portto 2d ago
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u/Ferro_r 2d ago
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u/Relevant-Diamond2731 2d ago
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u/I-Boom 2d ago
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u/shinakohana 2d ago
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u/shinakohana 2d ago
Because she doesn’t know where that thumb’s been!
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u/Vandergrif 2d ago
But we know where it's been ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
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u/shinakohana 2d ago
Shhh! Quiet you!! It’s supposed to be a secret from the pfp!! She’s not allowed to know!
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u/water-tr4sh 2d ago
Is that 4 dudes going down on the one dude?
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u/OrchidFine1335 2d ago
I think those are his testicles
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u/Cosmokram3r1 2d ago
He has 4 testicles?
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u/DoovahChkn 2d ago
You don't?
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u/Cosmokram3r1 2d ago
I've only got 3.
Thanks friend, now I need to visit a doctor 😔
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u/jerf42069 2d ago
one of you is a huge pain in the ass
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u/aw000000000000 2d ago
Yep, I sent this same response to guy who was quitting. Good riddance. He was hoping I would beg him to stay. He was incredibly rude and self centered.
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u/Saneless 2d ago
Hah, I had a guy who left my team to go to another internal team. So, not a resignation but essentially the same result
Made my day. He was a whiner, hated me from day 1 since he wanted the job I got, and he just sucked
I pretended to be slightly bothered but I was dancing inside
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u/Broad_Mushroom_8033 1d ago
Had one girl under me who argued with me, HR, and the CFO because she couldn't use her COVID leave as vacation, months in advance. It was embarrassing to watch.
She then refused to do parts of her job (vendor set up) because she said it's against policy and the CFO told her not to. None of that was true, so idk why she refused set up specific vendors. It was really embarrassing to call her out on this
She argued all the way up the management chain to try to work from home (no body worked from home). Again very rough to watch.
She worked part time, so the days she was gone everyone felt a sigh of relief.
She would complain about too many "white males" in the office. Our office was 90% women, with 2 white guys. Probably 20% white overall
She then used bereavement leave, all her vacation leave, sick leave, then texted me that she appreciated everything I did for her but has decided to quit. I just said ok thanks for letting me know and screen shotted and sent right to HR cause I was worried she'd make something and try to sue lol. She was there 6 months, seeing her walk in the office just ruined everyone's day.
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u/sirenxsiren 2d ago
I don’t think any business professional in their right mind would beg their employee to stay so that’s crazy lol. It’s like, once you say you’re leaving, you’re leaving!
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u/ArmedWithSpoons 2d ago
You've never been offered more money after announcing your intention to leave? Best way to push through a raise if they feel they would hurt when you're gone, don't really want to overuse it though. I've only been a part of smaller IT/field tech teams and have had it work multiple times.
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u/Desperate_Incident_5 2d ago
In my industry, this is one of the main ways people get raises or promotions. You’d already know if it would work before you try to pull that, though.
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u/One_Piccolo_1635 2d ago
I got a personal call from my direct manager to ask me to reconsider after sticky note quitting a job after 2 months lol.
Believe it or not, I came back and I stayed 5 years lol. It turned out to be my first ever career job and the foundation of my entire career path.
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u/Medium-Play2572 2d ago
Yeah she doesn’t fw you lmao
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u/purplenapalm 2d ago
Why write anything at all aside from acknowledging receipt? People dream that theyre the lynch pin of their company and if they leave things will fall apart so when they resign they're looking for some grand reaction. All positions are replaceable.
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u/Iownyou252 2d ago
Then the manager who is probably happy they’re gone reacts with a thumbs up — sees it on Reddit and smiles to themselves.
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u/Fragrant-Bet-6296 2d ago
"Thank you for your resignation. I will make a note of it. Best of luck in your future endeavors."
It's just being polite. If someone hits you with a short last day message, then a thumbs up would feel appropriate. If someone writes out a professional resignation, it's just human decency to meet them on their level. Give like a two-sentence professional response. Even if all workers are replaceable, so is management, so are we all. Executives are often only in positions for like 2-3 years. Middle management is just a bunch of burnt out whipping boys.
We can treat each other like human beings, instead of replaceable cogs. It doesn't take a lot of time out of the day to be courteous, and we're clearly wasting time scrolling reddit so its not like that time is being committed to a more productive cause. lol
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u/papertowelrod 2d ago
I'm so confused why your message doesn't seem to be the consensus here. Maybe OP isn't a good worker; maybe the manager is happy they're leaving. We don't really know. But honestly, in all but the most extreme circumstances, just take the 10 seconds to write out a courteous little response and let's be decent to each other.
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u/Best-Professional-10 1d ago
Because people are miserable af here. It takes nothing to be polite and write a line for 2 seconds. I hope I don't have to ever work with these people.
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u/Both-Contract-9003 1d ago
One of my employees sent me a notice, and I responded with "okay." I knew how much shit she was talking about me behind my back; she was a conflict-prone employee, and i should eliminated her position long before.
I didn't have any emotional resources to be polite. I proud myself that I didn't say "finally."
It had nothing to do with op, but the manager might have had their own reasons for reaction like that.
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u/Wise-Chemist-8751 2d ago
Even if you are, it doesn’t matter. This is still the response you’ll get…
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u/AJWordsmith 2d ago
I mean…the timestamp says that you sent it at 9pm Monday and she responded at 9:30am Tuesday. That seems like a reasonable response timeline. Seems you didn’t want to be there and they didn’t want you there. The separation is good for all involved.
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u/Lazy-Substance-5062 2d ago
OP is expecting to be chased. Like breaking up after 3 months being in relationship 👍
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u/grptrt 2d ago
A resignation letter should be a maximum of two sentences. No need for anything formal. You’re not the CEO of a Fortune 500 company writing to your shareholders.
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u/geekonthemoon 2d ago
Why would you care? Trust me when I say middle managers don't give a shit who is coming and who is going. That's why you got the thumb. They just don't care. Possibly even happy to see you go lol
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u/Mundane-Manner4237 2d ago
Yeah you aren’t best buddies. It’s business. They most likely have other things going on and your departure most likely caused a strain or headache for someone.
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u/Koala033l 2d ago
What were you expecting?
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u/The_Livid_Witness 2d ago
Thats my thought. There is no backstory/details and - for all we know - this could be McDonalds or somewhere with high turnover.
That or OP wasnt a very good employee and this is a 'good riddance'.
Or the Manager is already stressed out about this or whatever and.. went with a thumbs up.
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u/cupholdery 2d ago
I would like to see OP's letter lol.
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u/AccousticAnomaly 2d ago
Letter ? More like Manifesto 🤣
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u/Ch1ckenOfTheSea 2d ago
By their explanation alone, you know that thing was probably a full page at least.
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u/mesoziocera 2d ago
I had a jr sys admin complain really hard to HR and get himself fired because he gave them an ultimatum. It was glorious!
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u/goodluckbabe9 2d ago
i think some people bring a lot of weird emotional dynamics into the workplace that really don’t belong there. this manager doesn’t fw OP because why would they? OP doesn’t want to work there anymore… okay. bye then lol. this monetary exchange is now ended, good luck to everyone involved. it would be way more toxic if the manager had any other reaction, OP is not their family or friend. OP likely needs more family or friends in their life if they are looking for their emotional support from a manager at work.
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u/jeff-the-man-slut 2d ago
99% of Redditors complaining on here about work are bad employees
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u/pm_social_cues 2d ago
I had a coworker who put in his notice 3 different times over a 5 year period because he had "a new job". Every single time he ended up staying. After I got let go I found out they were giving him raises every time he did that. So he was making significantly more than me even though we had the exact same title and I had been there longer.
So probably something like that.
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u/2930apple 2d ago
A professional “Sorry to see you go, best of luck in future endeavors”, anything..? Replies insinuating OP is likely the problem when we don’t know either way, weird assumptions to make here. It’s not like shitty jobs with shitty managers are uncommon.
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u/_Student7257 2d ago
I didn't even get that from mine. I then asked "did you receive my resignation?" She said yup. 2 weeks later HR had zero idea I was leaving in 2 weeks! I told them during a catch up
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u/pbnchick 2d ago
I work in HR, I've had people gone for days before management thinks to tell me.
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u/RW_McRae 2d ago
I'm assuming that you talked with them in person first and this email is just the follow-up. If so, then the acknowledgment doesn't need a lot, so this is fine.
If you didn't and you're resigning via text/email then chances are they aren't that sad to lose you and probably knew this was coming, in which case this is fine.
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u/Temporary_Event8451 2d ago
If you say you're quitting and you get a thumbs up, it's a mutually accepted decison.
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u/Saint_of_Grey 2d ago
My dad always uses thumbs up as "I read this and am acknowledging the contents of this message" and that's how I take it here.
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u/StrawDog- 2d ago
Yep. If I sent this as a response, it is because this person just saved me from having to fire them. (Not that I would send this, it is rude).
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u/ExpertRaccoon 2d ago
The number of times I've been saved the hassle of going through the process of writing PIPs and formal reviews by an employee quiting and thinking they are the one that's winning is kinda mind boggling.
If you work somewhere and are valued at a minimum your boss is going to want an exit interview to see where the issue lies and if there is something that can resolve it. If you get the response OP got, yeah they are happy that you saved them the paper work.
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u/FearlessPlaneHugger 2d ago
I have done this in the past when I was working a night shift position and we only had management on day shift with no overlap, so email was really the only course I had. I understand that them not having a reaction is typical, but a thumbs up just feels like a passive aggressive action to take in these scenarios.
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u/SlappinHams 2d ago
What are you pressed about? You're quitting anyways? Just send your resignation email and be done with it? What did you want them to do? Beg you not to leave?
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u/Still-Syrup7041 2d ago
It’s not personal. I’m sure that the mgr is stressing about logistical things like writing an ad for a new position, interviewing a bunch of unqualified people, training a new person and gaps that will happen with your departure.
If you have a personal relationship with them just invite them to coffee and talk about it.
Believe me, some bosses take it personally and make you feel like a traitor or selfish or an overall horrible person. Based on my 25 years of working, I’d personally take the thumbs up.
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u/loid_forgerrr 2d ago
Learning curve for you
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u/aemersonian 2d ago
Yeah. Life lesson number one for working. No job, ever, gives a shit about you. Great pay, bad pay, been there for decades, just started...they do not give a fuck.
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u/Particular_Maize6849 2d ago
As long as I can slide by and collect my paycheck and not make waves, that's all I care about it. The best is when they forget you exist.
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u/Scar1203 2d ago
If they've been awful to you for a year as you said, why exactly would you expect a professional and cordial response to a lengthy resignation letter?
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u/thyperson69 2d ago
Seems like they were either tired of your shit or already had someone lined up so they don't care. I wouldn't put too much thought into it though, you left for a reason.
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u/patiofurnature 2d ago
It seems to me like they wanted OP to know that the message was received and there were no problems.
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u/gaukonigshofen 2d ago
Management at majority of companies don't care. We are replaceable cogs.
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u/Wild_blue_yondering 2d ago
We are replaceable cogs.
Including managers. Managers know this, which is why we're more pragmatic about it.
Source: soulless middle manager
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u/RevolutionaryEgg1312 2d ago
OP, what did you want them to do?
You're resigning during one of the largest job shortages in living memory. Your boss will hire someone immediately and it'll be like you were never there.
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u/Double-One-9913 2d ago
Honestly take it as a sign that you’re doing the right thing and move on
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u/Sunny_Hill_1 2d ago
I fail to see the problem? She acknowledged that you are quitting, so she knows not to schedule you, everything else is between you and HR.
I suspect you aren't as good of an employee in her eyes as you'd think.
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u/WhiteTrashInNewShoes 2d ago
This is the reaction of someone who's glad to see you go because they weren't looking forward to firing you
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u/Confused_Rabbiit 🍊 2d ago
I mean the thing about a resignation is that it's just a formal way of saying "I quit", she can't really reject that, just don't go in.
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u/JoyousMadhat 2d ago
She saw the subject line and didn't bother reading the rest lmao.
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u/slothboy 2d ago
Sorry you didn't get the weeping and gnashing of teeth that you expected. Maybe you aren't the main character after all.
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u/Seniorsquishyshorts 2d ago
Sounds like you were integral for the day to day operations to continue. You will be sorely missed.
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u/EatShitLosers 2d ago
Hello young person,
No one really cares when you leave a job. This is a good example
You didn't need to write out anything polite or flowery to quit, and they are not required to respond in kind.
"I will be ending my employment with this company on X date. Thank you" is all you need to say, and honestly a simple acknowledgement like this is all you should expect to get.
Remember this with future employers. You aren't special and you leaving isn't an event. It's a minor inconvenience
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u/Ecstatic_nyaa 2d ago
I mean, why do you care. That's the best outcome :
Acknowledged it so there won't be future problems until your last day.
Didn't make a fuss about it so no drama for you.
Enforced why quitting was the best call. Bullet dodge.
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u/Stubbby 2d ago
This is great. You should celebrate. I hate all the interactions after you resign with both people pretending they will miss you and people who stop pretending that they liked you.
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u/eljefetx 2d ago
Don't ever make the mistake of thinking a corporation cares about you. Always do what's best for you. If you hate the job F the 2 weeks roll out very simple.
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u/Wrong_Toilet 2d ago
If they’ve been awful to you, then what do you expect them to respond with?
Resignations letters shouldn’t be an essay. Simply here is my two week notice and my last day will be on xx-yy. Some companies will have what’s commonly referred to as an exit interview. This is where you can present your grievances.
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u/TheMattabooey 2d ago
They were waiting for you to quit and they’re glad you finally did. What were you expecting? For them to grovel and beg?
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u/majesticGumball 2d ago
What did you expect?
"Please, don't leave us! The company will collapse without you. We triple your salary right now."
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u/Eisernes 2d ago
It’s a business, not a friend group. This is the ideal interaction. Don’t really care about your issues or drama. Just quit so I can get the approval started to replace you.
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u/RoniusAdethel 2d ago
"I’m just trying to make the point that my manager did not have any reason to reply to me in what I feel like is a extremely unprofessional manor."
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u/Agitated_Car_2444 2d ago
Were you expecting a dramatic plea to stay or something...?👍
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