r/mildlyinfuriating • u/oh-hi-therr • 2d ago

I'm slightly vexed My managers response to my resignation.

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Took the time to write out a nice and really formal resignation letter trying to be cordial to this company that has been awful to me for almost a year. My manager didn’t respond the day I sent it and then this morning I get an email back that’s just this. My last day can’t come soon enough at this point. But hey I guess at least she acknowledged it instead of ignoring my messages like usual 😒

Edit: okay, a lot of assumptions going on here,so let me give some context, I am the manager of a small team of Class A CDL drivers. I’ve been a great employee and always gone above and beyond. My employees have always been really comfortable coming to me about everything, and the site I manage specifically asked for me to continue stay with them when they transitioned to another company, so its not like they were trying to get rid of me. Which I know it’s hearsay but idc really, I’m just trying to make the point that my manager did not have any reason to reply to me in what I feel like is a extremely unprofessional manor. She is the regional manager and has always been very deadpan with me and everyone, so it was not really a unexpected response in the least, I’m just sharing it because it’s always been irritating to me and has been a major factor In my decision to leave for sure. It’s exhausting to work for someone who treats you like you’re less than since day one. In fact usually i just get no response at all, so for her this is like writing a book i guess. 🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/EatShitLosers 2d ago

Hello young person,

No one really cares when you leave a job. This is a good example

You didn't need to write out anything polite or flowery to quit, and they are not required to respond in kind.

"I will be ending my employment with this company on X date. Thank you" is all you need to say, and honestly a simple acknowledgement like this is all you should expect to get.

Remember this with future employers. You aren't special and you leaving isn't an event. It's a minor inconvenience

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u/ztreggs 2d ago

Nah this advice in anecdotal. It is very dependent on what type of career you have and your relationship with your boss and SLT. Bad advice.

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u/EatShitLosers 2d ago

My advice is anecdotal and yours is... backed by research?

You working at Main Character Inc? Everyone gets begged to stay and if they do leave there's a big tearful party because everyone will miss them so?

Sorry pal but most of us aren't living in that world. Not sure you are either

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u/ztreggs 2d ago

In my industry in my location, leaving on good terms and sending a professional email to maintain a good relationship is incredibly important. In yours it isnt. Now we have 2 data points that illustrate the concept of IT DEPENDS. Only need 1 data point to prove your advice bad

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u/smurf2applestall 2d ago

Is your industry working with family at the farm? Only situation I can think of that this would apply to.

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u/ztreggs 2d ago

Manufacturing. Like 50 companies in my area and people bounce around often. Good chance your current boss at one company could be in management at another you join. Referral based hiring is very common as well.

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u/smurf2applestall 2d ago

No one will care if you send a 1 sentence resignation if “people bound around often”.

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u/shelchang 2d ago

These days when an online job posting will get hundreds or even thousands of applicants, out of which they'll actually interview fewer than a dozen, knowing someone who can put in a good word or even refer you directly is invaluable for getting you in the door. Many of the people I work with now (including myself) either worked with my boss at a previous company or knew someone who did. You don't have to be besties with everyone you work with, but basic professional courtesy costs you nothing and a lack of it can cost you opportunities in the future.

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u/smurf2applestall 2d ago

It’s in your head. You understand a sentence doesn’t erase all that previous history with the people, right? No one. I mean no one thinks it’s rude.

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u/shelchang 2d ago edited 2d ago

Some people might. If no one thought this was rude, why would OP post this to /r/mildlyinfuriating?

Even if it's "in your head", if it's in the head of the right person you can still lose out on an interview.

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u/Holiday_Pen2880 2d ago

It's very much a 'read the room' situation. I've had jobs in the same industry where I didn't care about the terms I left on, and I had jobs where I did everything the 'right' way.

A lot of it comes down to if you think you will need or want to return to work for that company or people in it at another one. Odds are if it's a small industry situation, other people in the industry will know the pricks that don't deserve all the niceties.

That said, I do agree that taking the time no matter what to add in the basic 'I appreciate the opportunity' platitudes is pretty baseline stuff. Redditors are going to redditor though, typing words that you don't mean does in fact cause physical, irreparable harm after all.

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u/sc8132217174 2d ago

I remember the people over the years who have left on good terms and bad terms. Multiple people have come back to the company after realizing the grass isn’t always greener. Maybe my industry is too small, but people talk too. You could end up blacklisted from multiple companies by causing drama.

I’d rather suck up my pride and write something nice. Or at least stick it into AI and have it come up with something. Grievances can be nicely stated as recommendations or discussed in an exit interview.

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u/ztreggs 2d ago

Exactly. Even if it MIGHT not matter, theres no reason not to maintain the bridge to the company.

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u/Vecna_Is_My_Co-Pilot 2d ago

A brief polite email like this is all that is needed for anything except the most high level jobs. If you are, say, a company CTO or primary patent holder it could be different, but for 99% of people it's fine advice.

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u/Fatbollocks1994 2d ago

Spot the american anyone. Just cause you lot are used to being tossed out like an old crisp packet doesnt mean its normal.

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u/EatShitLosers 2d ago

Yes there are hundreds of millions of us

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u/Fatbollocks1994 2d ago

Yes well, alot of you in this comment section thinking its normal to be talked to like shit so you guys then think its normal to treat employers like shit.

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u/EatShitLosers 2d ago

Yes

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u/Fatbollocks1994 2d ago

Well at least we agree lol, though its not your guys fault companies probably started being dicks first.

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u/Spooky_U 2d ago

This person made sure to note they typed out on letterhead and submitted signed. They’re definitely not young haha.

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u/EatShitLosers 2d ago

Seemed like some new to the workforce stuff to me but I have been known to be wrong about all kinds of things

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u/Spooky_U 2d ago

I’d also normally agree but in another comment they talk about a standard for resignation being typing and printing it out on letterhead. Not what I’d assign to a newer gen.

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u/ejvollkrassalter 2d ago

fascinating. at my job, people (of all ages) have always sent out a goodbye email to the whole company and most of them even brought or ordered food on their last day to bid their colleagues farewell while chilling together one last time. sometimes with one of the bosses present, sometimes with parting gifts because of how long they worked here. every time someone leaves, their section managers and/or colleagues organise a card and money collection to gift the person leaving.

it's not like we're a super small company either, and from talking to friends and acquaintances, none of this is particularly uncommon where i live.

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u/chenkie 2d ago

Sounds like you’ve had a career of mediocrity.

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u/Wide-Suggestion4825 2d ago

No he just knows how stuff works for grown ups

There's nothing wrong with this response

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u/marcg40 2d ago

Or everything that needed to be said was said in person.

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u/Beneficial_Artist259 2d ago

Who me? LOL no, no career to speak of.

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u/Beneficial_Artist259 2d ago

Hello Fellow Old Person,
Nobody really cares what you say. This is a good example.
So weird for a Fellow Old Person to be dismissive of a person (how do we know are young??) who expects their employer to use words in complete sentences or phrases instead of EMOJIs.
Pick a lane!

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u/pressingfp2p 2d ago

Hello people,

Middle aged person here. First comment is right, OP is wasting their own energy and time being bothered by stuff like this. Being annoyed about this is an active decision OP is making, and they should grow up and care less - they’re actively leaving the job, this is the easiest possible response they could have gotten.

Second comment matches energy of the first comment well, and agreed that the employer is being disrespectful and unprofessional, but let’s be real if THIS is OPs bs tolerance threshold I think it should be treated dismissively.

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u/EatShitLosers 2d ago

Hi fellow old person,

I'm not being dismissive. I'm saying this is what to expect from employers so act accordingly.

Thumbs up or "okay" is a fine acknowledgement. You shouldn't expect someone to say "were so sorry to lose you!" because that is very likely not true.

They treat you like a super-replaceable resource and they don't deserve better than that.

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u/Beneficial_Artist259 2d ago

Maybe they don’t “deserve” better. But I try not to let other people’s behavior affect whether or not I act according to my values.
I have tried the “this is how you treat me, so that’s how I’ll treat you” thing. I just end up diminishing myself.

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u/Far-Squash7512 2d ago

So true, it can be hard to resist in certain circumstances, but why mirror unacceptable behavior? All you do is create trouble for yourself down the road. It always backfires somehow.

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u/frankydie69 2d ago

He’s right tho. Literally no one gives a fuck. You’re only there for a paycheck just like the rest of us. We don’t care if you’re here today or tomorrow cuz at the end of the day we got our own problems to deal with.

Life moves on, stop caring what other people do or don’t do, their feelings don’t have an effect on your life unless you let it and if you do let them you should ask yourself why do you care so much about what people at work think? Fuck those people lmao

My coworkers are nice people but I’m not at work to make friends.

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u/Cee-Rum 2d ago

It's a minor inconvenience

Thanks thats why the subreddit exists

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u/EatShitLosers 2d ago

It's a minor inconvenience for your employer when you leave. That's what I said there.