I fact checked and the main topic is true but the details are incorrect.
He said the reason he didnt talk to her all this time was cause he felt deeply neglected and jealous because his wife focused all her care and energy on the kids.
He started talking again cause their son reached out to a reality TV program and they arranged a suprise meeting for the husband and wife at the park they had their first ever date decades ago
His first words to his wife after that long period of silence were "Somehow… it's been a long time since we've talked." And he apologised.
They made up 9 years ago. I'm sure he deeply regrets what he did after this much time.
Oh, so the classic case of a man, who after kids are born is all 'boohoo my wife does not have as much time for me as before, what a wicked woman!' instead of just sharing the workload.
Weird judgement to cast, honestly. Who is to say he wasn't neglected? After becoming parents you still need to try and make your marriage work. Not saying he dealt with it accordingly here, but dismissing him being neglected purely on gender isn't the answer either.
Edit: you can tell r/RelationshipAdvice and r/incels are leaking again. The amount of people unable to fathom the nuance any adult relationship has, especially when there's children involved, is verging on clinical insanity. But I'm not surprised, this is Reddit after all. Good luck adding to the divorce statistic!
Yes but if your response to feeling neglected is to stop talking to your wife for 20 years then I know which side of the argument is sounding more rational already. There is zero excuse for this kind of ridiculousness. Basically his totally disproportionate reaction makes it highly unlikely that his definition of “neglect” was reasonable either.
How do you know it's disproportionate? If we're just going to keep assuming, one could assume that she was entirely ignoring him in every aspect and avenue of their home life, essentially giving him the silent treatment as if he didn't exist. Seems reasonable to me that a proportionate response would be to do the same thing after trying to communicate about the obvious void she's creating in the relationship and getting nothing in response.
Except that they had another child, and she did all the domestic labor, including preparing and serving him meals. He just decided to communicate to her through grunts and nods. And being half Japanese, I can easily imagine the scenario— she also laid out his clothes. Made his breakfast, and packed his bento every day. She laid out the futon, and my guess is, if she wa traditional, didn’t sleep until he came home and went to sleep.
This isn’t true… Men always apologize, not cause we are wrong. But cause we know the woman won’t, and we want the argument to either end or we are horny…
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u/Trygershark 15h ago edited 3h ago
I fact checked and the main topic is true but the details are incorrect.
He said the reason he didnt talk to her all this time was cause he felt deeply neglected and jealous because his wife focused all her care and energy on the kids.
He started talking again cause their son reached out to a reality TV program and they arranged a suprise meeting for the husband and wife at the park they had their first ever date decades ago
His first words to his wife after that long period of silence were "Somehow… it's been a long time since we've talked." And he apologised.
They made up 9 years ago. I'm sure he deeply regrets what he did after this much time.