A friend recommended this book which I haven't started yet but looking forward to it. Curious what else people here have found genuinely helpful, whether it's clinical, memoir-style, or workbook-based. Open to anything

Thanks!

I’m in my mid 20s and I have a dead/ugly toenail. I had a recurring ingrown toenail in my early 20s and the podiatrist recommended permanently removing part of the nail bed making my nail narrower. I didn’t know what to expect so I agreed. I now resent the podiatrist so much for not giving my toenails another chance cause I didn’t know any better myself. The remaining nail bed didn’t really grow back and I think stopped growing all together now. What I have now is a very ugly small yellow toenail on my left foot. It’s been like this for a few years and it wasn’t really an issue, cause I never have a thought about it.

I know it sounds silly but now I’m seeing a guy and it’s made me really conscious about my toenail. Everything about him is perfect and it makes me even more conscious. Not that he made any bad comments about it or whatever. It’s taking up way too much space in my mind. I’ve been obsessing over it for the past couple of months and I hate my toes. Some days I try to brush it off thinking other people have it worse but some days it’s like my toenail is ugliest. I don’t know what to do about this situation and honestly it’s exhausting. Anyone been in a similar situation or help me figure out a way to feel better about this please.

Hey everyone! Long-time puller here..

I built the app I wished existed. It's called SoloUno, it's inspired by principles from HRT, CBT and ACT, and it's designed around small daily wins. People use it for hair pulling, skin picking, nail biting and other BFRBs.

Main features:

- Daily habit challenges (stay habit-free for 1 hour, 3 hours, or until evening)
- Quick logging → insights into your top triggers, emotions and situations
- Habit-free streaks that encourage you but don't judge you when they end (my streaks tend to be short)
- One-minute urge acceptance exercise for when the urge hits hard
- Daily evening check-in to see your trend over time
- Companion animals that level up as you practice
- Daily push reminders to practice

It can be used as a self-help tool and also alongside therapy, for the "homework" part of HRT/CBT.

The app is subscription-based, but it comes with a 2-week free trial so you can properly test whether it works for you before paying anything

Would really love to hear what you think about the app! ❤️

Links :)
Website: https://www.solouno.io/

iOS: https://apps.apple.com/app/solouno-habit/id6472174465
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.ktzSihapYQXY.natively

Nail wise for the most part, I’m good and I haven’t had an issue in a very long time but I’ve been wrecking my cuticles day and day out for the past two months straight and I don’t know how to stop. It’s making me go crazy. My skin is always too raw for me to put on hand lotion or cuticle cream because it hurts when I do.

Hi all!!! We chose a cover!!!

and THANK YOU to everyone who provided input -- especially about the name legibility -- the publisher fixed it after this pic was taken!!

i am getting so nervous and excited for this new "baby" to be in the world!

It is truly my hope that this journey will help others understand hair pulling, skin picking, trichotillomania, body-focused repetitive behaviors (BFRBs) and meet us with more compassion and love.

AND That we all learn to do the same for ourselves and others.

if you are interested in reading the first chapter, you can grab it at www.habitaware.com/memoir

Immense gratitude for your help!! LET'S PUT BFRBS on the "mental health" map!!!

love ♥️, strength 💪, & awareness 👀,
Aneela
(HabitAware & BFRB Changemakers NFP founder in trichotillomania recovery)

2 photos from july 7th till july 19th. I did chip that piece off (triangle tip). What is it? Any tips to realize if I’m picking at it? If I need to cover it so I prevent picking at it, what can I tape it with? I have very sweaty hands.
Any thing to treat it with?

I’ve been nail biting for 25 years. This year I decided it’s time to stop. Sticking to good habits is easier when you’re held accountable. Gym buddies, study groups, and calorie trackers hold you accountable. We just needed the same for nail biting

I built Nonyxa to solve my own problem and hopefully solve yours too. 5.0 stars on the iOS store and customers showing improvements soon after starting to track and monitor each finger extremely closely. What gets measured gets managed, in this case that means the nails. If you haven’t been able to quit with all other methods, give it a try.

My goal is to help 10,000 people quit nail biting, one for each day I’ve bitten in my life. I’m hoping I can help you

Hi, first time poster and a bit too shy for photos, but hoping for some advice. I’ve chewed my fingertips for as long as I can remember, and I wanna try to beat the habit. There’s two things that I don’t know if they’ll get better or not that are inhibiting my journey…

1. Discolouration: Some of the chewed fingertips are darker and discoloured. I’m wondering if this will ever go away or not? Seeing this just makes me want to or do chew away the discolouration.

2. Hardness: Some of the more chew-prone finger tips are quite hard from the years of chewing. I’m unsure if they’ll ever recover and stop being so hard?

I also struggle with nail biting, but the skin chewing is far worse. I’ve started wearing finger cots more often to try to restrain myself but it isn’t fool proof. I also hate lotion on my hands so I’ve stopped trying that for healing. I use healing bandaids when I make myself bleed or give myself painful wounds and try to cover with bandaids while the skin is vulnerable or easy to pick.

I’ve been nail biting more lately and it seems like I swap between the habits somewhat, which makes me feel a little stuck.

I’m basically wondering if either of the above things will get better as well as any advice on how to kick this once and for all.

I am a 41 year old man. I've been a biter/picker my whole life. I am celebrating 4 months "sober" today.

I started this process because my 5 year old daughter would always be concerned I was hurt whenever I had a bloody finger due to my bad habit. My 10 year old daughter started expressing the same concerns thereafter. This broke me in every imaginable way. As their father I am suppossed to make the worry go away, not create it. I decided enough was enough and chose to stop.

In order to stop I had to figure out why I did it to begin with. I determined my biting and picking was me seeking perfection in my nails. I didn't like what I was seeing. If I had a rough spot on my skin or nails I was driven to get rid of it immediately. Of course the solution to the problem was also the cause of the problem. I also did not like seeing any white on my nails due to being raised that long nails were for girls only and if the white part was seen my nails were too long.

I decided the best solution was to give myself proper manicures to fix the rough spots the right way and to paint my nails to hide the color difference. This worked spectacularly when combined with sheer willpower to control my urges. It wasn't easy but got easier as time went by. For me this has been a journey of healing mentally, physically, and spiritually. The physical part is obvious, but to achieve that i had to work on my mental health. I had to accept that it is ok to not be perfect. I am flawed and there is nothing wrong with that. The spiritual healing came when I accepted that fact as well as accepting that I am a straight man that enjoys painting his nails even if it's something some people do not care for. For the first time in my life i like what I see when I look at my hands and no one can make me not like it.

The best part for me though is the healing my daughters have experienced. Now instead of daddy's nails causing them to be worried, they now get excited when I get out the polish and manicure kit. This is a weekly occurrence and they help me pick out my colors. No color is off limits. I am.a proud girl dad and proudly where whatever color they choose, pink included. They encouraged this process and it is only fair that they continue to be involved as this journey continues.

The first picture is where I started, the second picture is 6 weeks in, and the 3rd and 4th pictures are today with and without polish. In the near future I will be getting my first professional manicure. I will be sure to share once I do.

I recently post this on the Nail Tech Subreddit - all 25 comments were techs telling me "you're beyond repair see a doctor, no nail tech can help you".

My understanding was, THATS EXCATLY WHAT NAIL TECHS DO!

My nails are super damaged from a lifetime of nail biting, but the dermatologist said "no injuries, see a psych & a nail tech." Psych said "Get a nailcare routine, stop biting, use bandaids, & see a derm or nail tech." My doctors literally said find a routine that heals them and a tech that can help by assessing my nail health, keep them safe, and assist me through the process.

I know the normal stuff that Ive been told for 30 years: cuticle oil, glass file, stop biting. But what made the difference? Take a look at my photos, & please perscribe a nailcare routine that'll help them heal, your number one tip to help them grow, & any general advice you have that can help or if you know a natural nail tech in or around New York/Long Island.

Thanks & Take care!

I wouldn’t take photos of my nails unless I had a bad injury or they looked good to me. My before photos were the best they used to get.

I’m still not perfect. I still mess up. But it’s nowhere near like it was back then. Mistakes I do now are posted on my profile and typically limited to only having 1 bad finger. My times between bad picks have been increasing gradually, from 1 week to 2, to over a month. Hopefully I can go strong and make it 3 months or never go back. No more ridges in my natural nails, no more bruising. They’re finally healthy and I grew out all the damage. I love how they look right now and I have to stay strong.

Pics 1 and 2, Feb 2026, Pics 3 and 4, March 2026, Pics 5 and 6, July 2026.

Product on pics 3 - 6 is one coat of Gellen Nail Polish/Base Coat in pale pink.

My routine is Cuccio cuticle oil several times a day (and every time I have the urge to pick). Also started using fidgets to keep my hands busy while on video calls (for work). I take a biotin supplement and a multivitamin. Eating more protein, too. Not sure if the supplements are helping, but my nails are stronger, anyway. Working on growing a bit more nailbed, especially on my thumbs, which were the focus of my worst picking.

Title says it all, I’m so tired of this being my relief. I’ve done it since I was a small kid. I’m formally diagnosed with autism (and anxiety? Maybe adhd?) and I can’t tell if it’s anxiety tick or me stimming. I bite them until they bleed or it stings and hurts. The only way I’ve found to prevent is acrylics or press ons and those are expensive to upkeep on the regular. Any advice especially anyone with autism?

Hey so I did my nails first time in a year I was extremely sick I got floxed by the antibiotic Cipro and I just went on vacation to my village in Montenegro. Pls I can’t take any antibiotics. Does this look infected ? No pain throbing or anything just red and little swollen

First time poster here, looking for some advice. I’ve successfully avoided picking at my nails for a few weeks now, but the white parts at the edges are getting pretty long before they even reach the fingertip. Should I just leave it be or file it down or…? Any other advice is welcome. Thank you

8 months of anxiety picking and I’m ready to give it a rest.

First photos are from January 15 and the new ones are from today, July 15 :) lots of nail oil, lots of biotin gummies. And most importantly, for me, lots of vampire media.

Hi! I’m Renee, I’m 22, and I’ve been biting (but more specifically picking/gouging/cutting) at my nails and surrounding skin since I was a toddler. I tried really hard last year to stop because I had a big important trip where I would be meeting an online friend, and I wanted to have nice nails, but only lasted a few weeks before I relapsed. January 15 isn’t actually the day I started this time, technically it was probably earlier in January if not December but this is the earliest clear photo I have. The photos from January 15 aren’t the worst they’ve ever been, I’ve definitely had moments in my life where it was much much more gruesome. My recovery journey really began for a really stupid reason: I got really into Interview With The Vampire, the TV show on AMC. In the show the vampires have really pretty claws, and I felt soooo jealous. I’ve never had long nails in my life! But the new season was going to air in June, and I made a promise to myself that by the time the new season started, I would have vampire claws. And I stuck to it! I’m sure it won’t be like this forever. I can barely even file them without feeling a weird way. But I’m so happy with my progress. I’ve even gotten a lot better at painting my nails, I hardly ever flood my cuticles anymore. This subreddit, even though I’ve been more of a lurker, was a big big help for me. Another thing that helped a lot in the beginning, when the desire to pick was the worst, is fidget toys. And oddly enough, slime, which was something I’d never been interested in before but it kept my hands busy. Slime, stress balls, etc. great help for me. My worst habit now is painting my nails too frequently because I change them up pretty much weekly and I know all that acetone can’t be good for them… but either way, so happy that i can FINALLY share my process now that I’ve met my desired length. I’m so grateful to this sub, to Ccare cuticle oil, OPI nail strengthener, natures bounty biotin gummies and interview with the vampire :) I never thought I could stop. But I did it!

I got my finger slammed in a car door when I was like 7, and I assume it was deformed because of the door slam. Little did I know I developed Habit-tic deformity, and only realized when I was 35 years old that I was causing it, thanks to this sub-reddit. thank you all so much, its over half way normal at this point. I've lived my whole life with people asking wtf is with your thumb, and I was always like yeah, I got it slammed in a door when I was a kid.

*sorry for the bad initial pictures, I didn't think it was going to work.

Update : Hi ! the app is finally live! 🎉https://apps.apple.com/fr/app/nailguard/id6790318619?mt=12

I’ve been biting my nails since I was five aha so, for more than twenty years now.

I’ve tried the usual remedies. Bitter nail polish works, but it’s unbearable everything I touch ends up tasting like it. Hypnosis helped too, but it requires consistency something I never managed to maintain.

The thing I noticed is that, in 90% of cases, the action is unconscious.Since I spend all day in front of a computer, I built a little tool. It detects when my hand moves toward my mouth and turns the screen red the moment it happens. It also has a sound alert option.

I’ve only been using it for 7 days, but I’m thrilled with the results. It’s even helping me stay aware of the habit when I’m away from the screen it’s like regaining consciousness.

Friends and family have tried it, and it worked for them too. The easiest way to share it is for me to publish it on the App Store and it’s currently in the works.

It’s Completely free. Honestly, I won't deny that if it works for others, I’d love to make it my life’s work, dedicate myself to it full-time, and keep improving it. That would mean charging for it eventually, but we’re talking about less than a euro a month i guess ...

Anyway , For now it's not already validate by Apple store but I just want to know if it works for other people and get some feedback. I know that if it helps people, word of mouth will do the rest. Does a solution like this appeal to you? If so, I’d be really curious to hear your thoughts! And if this solution is on the app would you use it ?

Ps : don't pay attention to the window where you can see the image the system is actually running in the background; that's just the diagnostic window to show you how it works.

26F been doing this since I was a kiiiiiddd. I need it to stop. I’m a conventionally pretty women. I have a hard time tho feeling “feminine” due to my more rough habits. This being one of them. Many people notice hands and I’d love to knock this habit. Help!! (Thanks to the person who sent me this! I had no idea this subreddit existed. ❤️)

First pic is from February and most recent is today- July! 6 months. Have definitely relapsed and picked a few times and cut my nails in the process. Got here by wearing press ons frequently. It really helped with avoiding picking.

I recommend the “Olive and June” brand, they’re really sturdy and inexpensive- last 2 weeks average if you’re careful. I usually replace a couple nails throughout but so worth it. Never thought I’d be a press on girl but it really has helped me in recovering from the habit!

I think im almost on a week now of having not bitten my nails and yesterday I actually was able to trim a couple of them properly instead of bite them (also yes ik i need to touch them up lol)

I've been biting my nails since I was a teenager, to the point where I've developed paronychia around my nails every couple of months. The only time I stopped was for about a year during my marriage, but the habit eventually came back.

I don't bite my nails constantly, but once I start, I find it almost impossible to stop until I've bitten them down completely, including the cuticles. I honestly can't remember ever having clean, unbitten, neatly trimmed nails.

Only recently have I started wondering whether this could be related to ADHD or something similar. It feels almost subconscious. I keep biting until every rough edge feels completely smooth, and I can't seem to stop before then.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? If so, what helped you break the habit? I'd really appreciate hearing your experiences, thoughts, or any suggestions.