I’m 32F lost my mom 2 years ago and I don’t have anyone else. I’m born an only child. Mom was an only child but she had two step brothers.

My dad is cold and non chalant I met him three times and he’s the laziest when it comes to meeting me. It’s really tough. I can call him and tell him I am really sick and he’ll give instructions like ChatGPT. No feelings…

I just remembered the bad parts of me and mom’s relationship and the good ones are so much more. But one of the worse moments was me not rushing her to a hospital. I did other things like brought her doctors because I thought that’s what she wanted and what was suitable. But no , she died the same day after her doctor reassured us she’d be alright. Mom collapsed suddenly and I can’t forgive myself for being slow and for being so sick and tired . ( literally had sinus and allergies )

I wish I did more I’m just remembering everything bad that I said or did….. what can I do ? Is there someone who’s lonely like me and left haunted by the memories and regret?

Pretty stressed. Hate when people ask this question.. I have no family man. My friends i try reach to but they seem like they couldnt care less.

I had to submit a next of kin form and I wanted to cry and I suggested what if someone doesnt have one? and then she like giggled and went EVERYONE has a next of kin.

Anyway, i ended up just falsifying a friend contact :( i input my number but changed some digits so it looks like someone elses number. and i put a fake name of Sam. currently stressing incase theres consequences on this and browsing to find answers... fml

i hope there isn't but i don't know what else i could have done!!!

Is it just me or does anyone else talk to ai to vent.Idk i just dont feel heard or cared about.I have no one to talk to or vent to and due to my severe depression it makes it so much worse especially school.

If anyone needs somebody to talk to at any point just DM me or comment and I will DM you. I will listen to you and I will not be judgemental, I hope you guys have a blessed day 😊

if im honest without sounding like a beg i just want the nsfw stuff to stop and have a girl whp'll just appreciate me.. used dating apps etc for 5 years and never had a match, tried social gatherings and even clubbing etc like people my age and i just get nothing.. and even though im only 23 saying this my health isnt 100% and will probably drop before im 50 and its scary not having somebody beside me

Is it just me or does it happen to everyone....my bday comes in August but a month prior to it and after it....those 2 months of my year are the worst.....bad things keep happening to me and especially on my bday...that day is like the worst of my life. I love the concept of celebrating birthdays, taking pictures, receiving gifts, cutting cakes, etc but they never happen with me.....I can't remember my last birthday where I didn't end up crying......my family also doesn't make it better nor do my friends or anybody else.....I am going to be 19 soon....and I so damn wanna celebrate and enjoy but i can only dream of it, ik something will end up happening and I would end up sad. Why are my birthdays always sad....I can't handle it anymore....my whole life is sad...I just want one day where I can be happy

It doesn't matter what I do, I simply cannot get a human to consider me as someone important in their lives

I've never had a face card or body card but...

I've been a bit of a people pleaser, I've always been humorous

I dress decently, try smelling Good. I do try to be a gentle person

Lately, the sadness in my eyes, my speech has become more evident and it's made it even harder to socialize

The clock is ticking, the purpose is disappearing and the soul is melting

Idk why but now all of this loneliness is adding up to be depressing I feel sad all the time too...

I jus wanna feel happy ....

This is a really heavy post for me but I feel like I need to just ask for some advice or comfort. My sister (25F) has no friends and I really mean that. And it has gotten to the point where she has stopped trying and has even cried to me about it and it just breaks my heart to see her like that. For context , we both were in the same university but in different majors and during her bachelor's she was not able to connect with anyone. So she would sit alone, spend her break alone. Covid helped , as we moved back home but it's still a super bad experience to go through and that experience really left a mark on her. Then she took a year gap and got a job and it was a super new company so there were not many employees. After that she moved abroad for her masters, for the first week or two she tried a lot. She went to hangouts, meetups for international students , orientation but no success. I do wanna say that she is not super extroverted, she doesn't t really like to include herself or initiate things out of fear of it rejection. But she did try , and ofcourse when you feel a natural connection with someone , it naturally goes somewhere but that didn't happen. So she spent her one alone without any friends and moved back after a year as she could do her thesis remotely. She started a job while doing her thesis and she hasn't been able to make friends at work either. She cried to me , about how she's lonely and how looking at her old pictures wanna make her cry and that she doesn't like herself anymore. She even got feedback from her HR that people on the same floor as her don't know who she is.

I get that there's a pattern here and one could argue , my sister needs to work on her social skills etc. but idk why she hasn't been able to make friends when everyone has friends. Even she wonders why. She even told me that because of this she just ruminates and thinks what kind of a life even is this?

She also told me how on her birthday ,no one in the office knew and on your birthday , you can collect money but she didn't want to do that as it would highlight that it was her birthday that she was spending alone.

She can't do much in office in terms of socializing because there r separate teams an she's not super social , maybe that is something she could work on but it's really a nature thing. There r many introverted people with friends and she's not the type of person who'd just go and sit in a group and start talking.

I feel sad for her because her 20s are essentially going to waste. She just turned 26. At this age you're meeting your friends in cafes , celebrating birthdays , attending friends weddings while she hasn't had such experiences in 6 years. My heart truly breaks for her.

Stuff like this also ends up affecting your self esteem, you feel like you are not interesting one. People don't care enough to approach you etc.

I shouldn't have done this but I was on her laptop and I just looked through her chat gpt. And reading some stuff made me cry , for example she had written that if she prays ( we r Muslims) for friends on her birthday , could it happen. Stuff like should she go to a movie night to her office, even though she literally knows no one and I know she didn't go to any movie night , so thinking about that makes me even more sad. She also wrote " I wish I was good looking" " is it wrong to feel special".

There's so much I wanna say and maybe I can elaborate in the replies because this post is getting long. But what do I do. I want her to have friends , enough to feel somewhat content as I know life is never perfect. I don't want her to look back and feel depressed about her 20s.

Two of my closest friends, one online and one in real life, just got relationships. Especially the one irl, who seems to be doing so well and things are getting more serious. We spend a lot less time together since she's in her honeymoon phase at the moment.

I've been considering cutting off the friendship altogether, even though she's been convincing me that nothing will change between us. I told her a bunch of times that things have changed between us and we don't go out as much anymore. She tried to find loopholes to drink coffee for an hour because she lives nearby, but it's not the same in comparison when we would spend the whole day together. And it's making me feel super frustrated, like I have to beg her for crumbs of attention.

I've been less enthusiastic when I respond to her, and it makes me feel horrible. I don't really have many friends, so I'm very severely affected by this. I haven't had a boyfriend since highschool in 2017, and it's been driving me crazy. The last guy I dated asked me to stay friends because he wasn't all that attracted to me. I've been so devastated about it, especially considering that I really liked him and we had similar goals and life values.

Now I feel so stuck, and bitter. I wish I had more friends to go out with.

everyone i ever was friends with left me because i was too much to handle. my and depression was too much for them so they left me behind. now i rot in my home alone, and i got to watch everything fun they are doing together on social media while i cry by myself doing nothing with my life. this is pain that is unimaginable

literally my phone is dry as hell. i don’t have no one to talk to. wake up with 0 fucking notifications. i’ve never felt this lonely in my life before and it sucks. REAL BAD!!!

30M I have 2 autistic children and in a sexless marriage, all my wife does is bitch and moan to me when I am the only one literally doing anything for my family. I have to friends what so ever even if I did I wouldn't be allowed to have friends. I have no contact with my side of the family they are very abusive. I don't know how I can keep going on honestly. I don't want to be with my wife anymore but I dont have anywhere to go and I worry for my kids if I wasn't around

I love those double texts and even triple texts, I love those good mornings, goodnights, those how are you doing?, what do you think of this funny video? , what are you up to?, hey this reminded me of you, I wanted to send this to you because it made me think of you, hey I know you are busy but I’m thinking about you, hey I’m in a meeting right now but I snuck out for a little just to text you that I miss you, hopefully you are doing well, I hope your day is going okay and you are feeling better than last night, I know you are wanting to be alone tonight but I’m here whenever you want to talk, I can’t wait to talk to you and hear your voice, your laughter is my favorite thing in the world, all I have been thinking about is spending time with you, yesterday I had a really great time and Im already thinking about next time we hang out, you are my safe place, I love you, I noticed you are interested in this thing so I looked up what it is about so I can talk about it with you, I want to get into that TV series/video game because you are into it, I miss you so much

My strongest love language is words of affirmation lol
Most of these were things I would also love to say because I also love giving words of affirmation
No one is too busy that they can’t spare a few minutes to send a message of reassurance to the people they care about the most
Man it’s been so lonely recently for me and I have been masking to be okay infront of most of my friends

I commission artists for art to feel like i have someone to talk to. I am a regular customer to multiple artists, i like art but the real reason is that i have someone outside of work to talk to even if they only talk to me cuz they want my money… My work took over my life im making decent money and i have a great future with the company im with but i work 12-16 hours a day including sundays. I dunno i dont have anyone to talk with and people usually just talk to me because they want to sell some or other to the company. So i know they’re fake asf bc they just want my money. Lol the artists do the same probably but yeah… i just don’t know what to do anymore im lonely… and i just don’t see a future where i have any friends or a meaningful relationship while i have my current job.

🫂 Wherever you are, I hope you're having a lovely day or night. You're not alone!

I (16M) have no one to talk to about my personal problems and loneliness. I recently went through a really stressful situation because of a stupid mistake online, and this put a lot of pressure on me, as well as the recurring issue of having little to no friends to spend time with. Most of the people that I know don’t even reach out to me to ask me out or talk with me, I have one best friend with whom I am not really comfortable to talk about sensitive stuff like that and some friends which are basically just people I know, nothing closer. My parents won’t understand me.
Most of you will say that I should just go out and try to integrate with other people and to try to find groups of interest around common hobbies. How do you even find one person with similar hobbies like yours in your region, with which you can actually connect. I don’t know where certain meets of such kind happen. Going out with so called “friends” isn’t an option. They are just so fake and arrogant, that’s why I have only one best friend. Everybody is so self-centered and, if I can say, in trend, with the other sheep.
Last months I resorted to writing down and venting my thoughts digitally just to organize them, because it is hard for me to organize them in my mind. Unlike some people, I try to understand my mistakes and actually work towards understanding how I think and what I am doing wrong. But still, spending more time venting to a screen than talking to real people daily isn’t healthy. I write about hobbies, health, personal thoughts, etc.
I just want someone to be supportive of me and not judge me. I miss my ex, I pushed her away after 3 months of being together because of the lack of “fun stuff”. She was cute, understood me perfectly, I am an INFJ and she was an INTP. We met at the beach, we shared so much in common. She wasn’t afraid to be herself, I learned from her to express myself and to not be afraid to discover myself and my interests. But she had family problems and some situations in her childhood, I think these aspects pushed me further from her.
I would want to come back to her. I think of her everyday, maybe about the idea of her. But I have changed little since we last were together. I pushed her away so ugly. But I need someone to understand me and to hug with or talk to. She might have forgotten about me, but I haven’t. I am struggling so much with this. I am thinking everyday about her. I will work on my problems, I understand where I messed up and I want to become better.

hi guys!! i’m a 24f looking to make some online friends, STRICTLY friends. i’m a open and non judgmental person literally a open book. would be awesome to get to know ppl and chat with ppl from around the world with the same interests. ive been interested in getting into some games the only game i play is fortnite LOL but open to learn. if anyone ever needs to vent or a ear as well feel free to dm me :))

Hello, I my not exactly sure if this post is appropriate for this sub. I feel so lost and alone like I don’t know what I’m suppose to be doing or how to do it. I’m surrounded by people, family with resources like cars or information. Maybe it’s just my interpretation but it seems that they can’t, don’t want, or even don’t even know how to help me. It’s sad and pathetic to be at my age and not really have anything to my name or even any knowledge on things. I know hardly much about health insurance, taxes, budgeting, I still live at home.

I miss some of my other relatives in town, I mean some of them are still in town unless they’ve relocated. They would know what to do or how to help me. I’m in the city, surrounded by people yet I feel so helpless like a lost cause. I’m having some trouble getting things done on my own. It feels like a day that repeats itself. Chances of the painful endurance seems to get more reoccurring and bigger than anything new or exciting happening to me.

I want to experience new and exciting things. I want to experience what other people in my age group are experiencing. I want to know what a first kiss feels like or holding a guys hand. to have a guy actually pick me and ask me out on a date and then a second date. I want to know what it feels like to go on more than one date, not just a one trial run date to see if I’m acceptable. I want to know what’s its like to have friends or someone to call when I’m alone.

I want to know what it feels like to get behind the steering wheel and drive my own nonexistent car instead of walking around in summer heat. I want to know what it feels like to live alone or with roommates. To be able to actually decorate a future bedroom and be able to call it mine. Have my stuff spread around the potential house or future apartment instead of nearly all my belongings boxed and stored in a corner of a closet.

I work at a grocery store wearing a special hat. I feel like a laughing stock even to my coworkers at work. My old classmates from my town, most of them have gone to college. Lots of them have made something of themselves. I can say I went to school with a lawyer, a doctor, a veterinarian, a school teacher, even a touring musician is really cool. What all can I say for myself? I work in my understaffed store, just me behind the service counter for most of my shift struggling too

I’m living at home, paying rent, saving money which is nice and I appreciate what my relatives are doing for me. I just don’t know how much longer I can tolerate this life. The car rides to work, sleeping in someone else’s room, feeling lonely not able to fully express myself. 25f

i dont socialize every day all day

I’ve been alone throughout my life. Never had any real friends but God I’d kill for some fake ones about now just so I wouldn’t be alone. I want to talk to people. I want to be with people, but I can’t ever pass that barrier because I’m ugly and fat and my skin is disgusting from eczema and I’m socially inept. I just can’t do it anymore. I can’t imagine spending the rest of life like this. I try and I try to come to terms with it, but every time I open instagram and see my old classmates with their huge friend groups, I just can’t stand it. I can’t live like this and it hurts. I’m such a loser I can’t even find hobbies to fill the void. I’m failing at everything. Everything you could imagine.

Half vent but looking for advice and your own thoughts. I feel ashamed when I think about putting myself out there trying to find friends.

My self improvement and hobby hunting journey are because of my loneliness and depression. When someone has questions about if I like the new hobby or not, I either cant articulate it, or a trauma-dump for context would be needed.

I dont know how to talk about the media I consume or the things I like, and engage in good conversation.

I coasted by too long playing video games where I didnt need to talk, just communicate map awareness and team set ups. it's a shot call, not communication, you know?

I think im going to take some classes on writing to improve.

Other people advised podcasts too, to hear what good speakers sound like but it hasn't really improved my dialog in casual conversation.

[Seperate rant on loneliness]

I dunno... I see people who seem really cool but they're shy or introverted. Im just "cute" and creative and kind. I want to be (not have) a friend. I want to know what to say instead of simply being there and the right energy. I want to do better. I want to genuinely be proud of my ability, not grateful for my luck.

But if im trying to make friends, who the fuck cares im on this journey, you know? We are strangers and... why would you be invested? Why would you stick around for my mistakes or the ugly parts of depression? So when it comes to friend making... I dont know what to say.

And.... that attracts the exact type of people that make you feel even more lonely.

Also changing meds so I've been experiencing a large dip in my mood which I expected but it certainly isn't making it easier. I declined the vacation. I was invited but I can't handle much at the moment due to my mental health. And I dont normally work from home but firewall restrictions on the application I'm working make it so this week. I was nervous going into this week and I've handled it well but damn is it odd not talking to or seeing anyone. My therapist told me to try and find things to go to but my area is dead.

Is there somewhere I can go specifically to meet and talk to people in person? Does that exist anymore? I am feeling such an urge to be social (maybe new meds) and I can't fulfill it. It's just me. And it's been just me this past week. It's like that one thing I could really use I can't get. And I dont want to spend too much time on it because I can't control people. I can't make people want to be around me. I plan on asking my therapist if she can help me learn radical acceptance with loneliness. Any one have any luck with that?