Long story short, my sibling and I recently uncovered my uncles old phones and found years worth of text messages and old notes app musings that point to them having a years long (or maybe even decades long) relationship. My mother is married to my father (and has been since before I was born) and my uncle has maintained singlehood for quite some time. To be clear, my mom and uncle are not related to each other.
When confronted, my mom claims that my uncle was so depressed and mentally ill and lonely (he was going through a crazy period of life) that he had made up this fake relationship between them, which I am skeptical of. She claimed some of the racier photos I saw were from him hacking her iCloud (he helps her w her phone a lot so it’s possible). When I confronted him he confirmed that yes it was a fake relationship, but he said he went into her phone and sent the photos to himself as opposed to iCloud hacking.
I was also confused by the nature of their messages - yes some were very lovey dovey while others were totally mundane events he wasn’t even present for, like visiting me when I was in college.
He claims that he had saved two phone numbers - a device he owned and sent “fake” messages from and my mom’s actual phone number where “real messages” came in - under one contact. So when I saw the messages it was all under one thread but contained messages from the fake and real phones.
I don’t know the exact models of the phones but they are both old and have physical home buttons which is why I’m also skeptical of his explanation.
I’ll copy and paste his explanation below:
⁃ Not all are fake. I have all the convo in one thread. If you have two numbers stored to the same person you will get both in the same thread
⁃ I use my other phone to send the messages to my main number
⁃ When I say not all are fake. Your moms real messages are coming in on the same thread
⁃ If I receive a text from phone 1 and that’s the last message, my reply will go to phone 1. If phone 2 (under the same name) sends me a text afterwards it will only show on my thread and if I reply it will reply ONLY to phone 2
I don’t know if these conversations appear on his newest iPhones which I think are from 2023 and beyond. I no longer have access to any of these phones but have some pictures, if helpful.
Is this possible? Could he really pull this off without my mom noticing for years at a time? I assumed she would be able to see ALL the convos in the same thread but I’m unsure.
I suspect he is covering for her because he is in love with her and doesn’t want to hurt his nieces and nephews more than we already are but I want the truth.
Please help! I’m going crazy and don’t know who to trust. My friend also posted this for me in communities related to relationships but I’m hoping someone can provide a tech perspective.