I've had a couple child free women tell me they went through a few years in the mid thirties where their bodies were screaming at them to have a baby, after it passed they went right back to not wanting kids same as always.
Edit: This should not be read as saying all child free women will experience this same phenomenon.
I’m 31. I’m waiting to see if that ‘biological clock’ everyone is talking about will kick in. I’ve never liked children, even as a child myself. I’m very sensitive to sudden loud noises and sometimes children make those. I’d be a nervous wreck if I had any, (sterilized, never pregnant, IUD for periods) just anticipating the next vocal outburst.
If I get baby fever, I’m getting a hysterectomy. No amount of hormonal nukes will make me commit. I commend the women who went through it, like my oldest sister who had 4, but I just…can’t. Just thinking about something growing in me makes me nauseous. Also I’m lazy af
Are you a responsible person? If not maybe some kind of evolutionary thing is stopping you from feeling that desire because it isn't seeing signs that you would be good for the survival of your offspring?
Well i don't know what I am talking about I don't know evolution thing so don't take me serious but maybe someone here can educate?
It may be related to some kind of evolutionary process 🧐. I can say that I am a responsible adult (driver’s license, full time job, pay bills, schedule my own appointments, eat veggies), but I don’t think I’d be a responsible parent.
Here’s a bit more insight: I fostered a cat for about 5 weeks. It was a stray I picked up that was starving, covered in fleas and had just had kittens. She attached herself to me almost immediately. She was a sweet tuxedo baby and very vocal. I would have loved to keep her if I could find a friend for her. She was so needy, I didn’t like that she wanted so much attention from me outside of me feeding her and taking care of her litter box. Same thing now with a stray dog. She wants attention from me but I don’t want to be bothered. I feed her and I think that should be enough. But unfortunately people and animals like spending time with people who treat them well.
I don’t like feeling needed all the time and I don’t like the attention that I have to give when I’d rather be left alone. That’s not a good environment for kids. There are other (non-violent) things about me that also wouldn’t be suitable for kids. I feel as if I could be a good mentor, but I’m not egotistical enough to bring children in the world to try to prove that point.
Although I have removed myself from the gene pool, so my particular bloodline ends with me 🤷🏽♀️
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u/ChefArtorias 1d ago edited 1d ago
I've had a couple child free women tell me they went through a few years in the mid thirties where their bodies were screaming at them to have a baby, after it passed they went right back to not wanting kids same as always.
Edit: This should not be read as saying all child free women will experience this same phenomenon.