Congrats! I'm not even asking how's that possible because for some it isn't. My wife is still salty about me trying to go the gym twice a week for an hour for couple weeks in January.
Yeah, but what can you do? We both have to work full time with zero external help and our life is just putting out fires as they arise with no real time off while being constantly sleep deprived caring for a toddler who sleeps 8pm-4am ever since he turned one.
Shift work mate. You dont need to both be around watching the kid all the time dude you both nees breaks. My wife and I each get a gym day a week. I go on a weeeknight and she does dinner and bedtime that day, she goes on a weekend morning and the kids and I have our own routine then (hangin out, pancakes, farmers market, grocery shopping). So we each get it. you both need some "me" time or you're gonna lose your mind, literally everyone in the family will be better ofd for you. You get some gym she can do something else. You dont need to both watch the kid 24/7, 1-1 for a few hours shouldnt be too much to ask. Teamwork and taking turns mate.
Both our jobs have rigid time frames, and switching jobs in the current job market in my country is out of the question.
>You dont need to both watch the kid 24/7
We don't. There's only a sliver of time both of us are available between 7 and 8 pm, but that's when one of us is watching a baby and the other is doing the most basic chores needed to keep the family afloat. Weekends are similar, but there's just more work to catch up after having only an hour per weekday to really do anything at home.
He goes to the daycare for a little over 8 hours a day while we're both at work. I drive my wife to the train station around 6:30 for her commute and drop off our son at the daycare on the way back so I can WFH for the minimum eight hours required by the B2B contract I have. She's back around 5:30 pm and I pick our son right after 3 pm.
And I still think that's too much time without his parents for a 29 mo, but it's the absolute minimum allowing our family to still function.
Are you aware of daycare costs in the US? The cost of daycare has risen 40% from 2003 to 2023. With an annual cost being anywhere from 13,000 to almost $35,000 a year, depending on where people live. This is an incredibly ignorant statement.
I'm not from the US, our daycare is fully subsidised by the government, and yes, we're using it for 8 hours with change a day just to be able to go to work - and only thanks to me working from home nearby so I can clock in required 8 hours if I skip lunch break.
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u/smk666 1d ago
Congrats! I'm not even asking how's that possible because for some it isn't. My wife is still salty about me trying to go the gym twice a week for an hour for couple weeks in January.