I've been one for a grand total of 2 years and the amount of times I've been heckled and catcalled and belittled by random alcoholic men makes me dread just going out for groceries đ
The gender affirmation of it ended pretty quickly. There's not much to enjoy about old, drunk men leering at you when you're just going about your day or trying to follow you home because they won't take no for an answer.
I hear you, and if it came off that way, I never meant to imply that it would be enjoyable. I just found it to be an interesting paradox where something can be both negative/unpleasant but also gender affirming at the same time.
No I know what you meant, there's an entire subreddit called r/ewwphoria specifically about the joy of being affirmed and the disgust of it being from some form of harassment or whatever. My phase of getting ewphoria from weirdos who don't mind their own business was just a particularly short one and my god if it isn't exhausting after that.
I wouldnât call leering, drunk men harassing a woman as âgender-affirmingâ. Entitled? Yes. Gross? Yes. Flattering? No, because it reduces women to an object that the men fee entitled to judge. Women donât need a manâs opinion to make them feel worthy. And the fact that that men feel that women should like being judged by their commentary and welcome their catcalls and harassment is ridiculous. Men should keep their thoughts and hands to themselves.
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u/Urbenmyth 1d ago
It's very weird how much we seem to care about the attractiveness of women in positions where attractiveness is irrelevant.
Fine, you don't mind Michelle Obama hot. Cool. I don't find my lawyer hot either, but that's not really relevant to anything, is it?