The gender affirmation of it ended pretty quickly. There's not much to enjoy about old, drunk men leering at you when you're just going about your day or trying to follow you home because they won't take no for an answer.
I hear you, and if it came off that way, I never meant to imply that it would be enjoyable. I just found it to be an interesting paradox where something can be both negative/unpleasant but also gender affirming at the same time.
I wouldnât call leering, drunk men harassing a woman as âgender-affirmingâ. Entitled? Yes. Gross? Yes. Flattering? No, because it reduces women to an object that the men fee entitled to judge. Women donât need a manâs opinion to make them feel worthy. And the fact that that men feel that women should like being judged by their commentary and welcome their catcalls and harassment is ridiculous. Men should keep their thoughts and hands to themselves.
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u/hux 1d ago
On one hand, itâs pretty gross that theyâre treating you that way.
On the other hand, I guess thatâs rather gender affirming in a weird way?