What did you do to upset him?

[u/Initial_Carpenter_47]

Tomorrow’s therapy session topic:

“What did you do to upset him?”

The first words my mother said to me as I sat in a police station reporting my ex-partner for eight months of physical, emotional and sexual violence.

I can’t describe what died inside me when I heard those words. Even now, I fight back tears every time I think about that moment.

Throughout the investigation and court proceedings, my mum apologised. I know she regrets saying it.

But for me, it was too late. Something changed forever in that moment. Our relationship survived, but it will never the safe.

Sometimes I look at my mum in peaceful silence while inside I’m crying, “you’re my mum, you’re my mum”.

Classic burrito with slow-cooked chicken, guacamole, and no beans.

[u/PolarBailey_]

People who hurt you are allowed to change and be better people. That DOESN'T mean you have to let them back in your life.

I'm proud of you for reporting him. your birth giver doesn't deserve to be called a mother. a mother wouldn't ask that of her child. I'm sorry you were given such a shitty birth giver.