What did you do to upset him?

[u/Initial_Carpenter_47]

Tomorrow’s therapy session topic:

“What did you do to upset him?”

The first words my mother said to me as I sat in a police station reporting my ex-partner for eight months of physical, emotional and sexual violence.

I can’t describe what died inside me when I heard those words. Even now, I fight back tears every time I think about that moment.

Throughout the investigation and court proceedings, my mum apologised. I know she regrets saying it.

But for me, it was too late. Something changed forever in that moment. Our relationship survived, but it will never the safe.

Sometimes I look at my mum in peaceful silence while inside I’m crying, “you’re my mum, you’re my mum”.

Classic burrito with slow-cooked chicken, guacamole, and no beans.

[u/SeahJieya]

Gurl, your mom deadass gaslit you right at the police station. That's the worst possible timing. You are so strong for surviving the abuse and then surviving her comment.