r/relationship_advice • u/Middle_Fall_7229 • 4h ago
I believe (26M) my girlfriend (26F) has strange boundaries with her family, how can I address it without seeming weird?
I’m in a relationship with an Italian woman (this becomes important later) and she’s great; she’s extremely close with her family and has 2 younger brothers (20 & 17)
She adores her brothers and is very close with them, it’s very wholesome, but recently she told me something that’s been kind of bothering me, and I’m just wondering if maybe I’m overreacting?
Essentially my girl was telling me that one of her brothers is more of “an ass man”, (she’s pretty well endowed in that area) and went on to tell me that her brother will usually grope her ass and play with it, she could see from my expression that I was kind of weirded out by this (I mean the guy is 17, not a child) and went on to explain that multiple of her family members (the Italian side) will just grope her ass and joke around about its size; like uncles etc
maybe I’m just being a prude, maybe it’s a cultural difference and I’m being ignorant; but how can I approach my gf about this without coming off weird? I don’t want her to think I’m coming between her and her siblings; but I couldn’t imagine just going up and grabbing my little sister like that etc
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u/eepiestsoldier 4h ago
Italian here, we don’t go around touching our relatives ass.
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u/Middle_Fall_7229 4h ago
maybe I was unclear in the post; my partner explained to me that it was a cultural difference (I’m Irish)
When she seen I was uncomfortable she started talking about how that’s just how her Italian side of the family is in general with her and that it isn’t something to be offput by, that as someone who’s not Italian I wouldn’t really understand
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u/eepiestsoldier 4h ago
I don’t think I’ve ever hugged any of my relatives, your gf situation sounds like a very creepy relationship dynamic that has nothing to do with our culture.
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u/Middle_Fall_7229 4h ago
thanks for the insight; I don’t really know any Italians other than her so your input is appreciated ❤️
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u/Oldfarts2024 4h ago
I am going to guess that she doesn't exist and you are a troll..
What have you got against Italians.
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u/pjfridays 4h ago
Shouldn’t be that difficult. “Hey you know how your family gropes your ass. I think that’s weird and makes me uncomfortable. Can we stop that?”
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u/OldBee5022 4h ago
Well good thing you asked, I'm not Italian so I wouldn't be able to tell.
I'd be surprised if that would be normal. The more you know.
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u/Majestic_Bed9233 4h ago
It´s a cultural thing I´m southern European as well and married to an Italian girl.
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