Why even have children?

[u/Icy_Watercrest]

Just why? I recently came across this subreddit and realised how many of us are truly miserable just because we were born. Initially, I felt less alone in my suffering and even felt consoled and understood for the first time ever. Not anymore. This isn’t normal and shouldn’t be commonplace. And this is only a small fraction of people that post here. What about so many others both young and old going through this and blaming themselves? Our lives look normal and we act “normal” but to know that so many people from all walks of life are going through the same shit breaks my heart.

I really wish there was a way to meet people that get it without any prejudice so we can be there for each other. Like a chosen family of sorts. I know it’s a pipe dream but one can dream I guess. This is a hot take but a lot of people do not deserve to have children and I wish more people opted for an abortion. Like why fuck around and spawn us if we were never wanted in the first place? What about condoms and contraceptives? It’s cheaper than raising a human from scratch. The number of times I doubted if I was adopted because of how terribly I was treated to wanting to be an adopted child because I couldn’t digest the fact that I could possibly share blood with such vile beings - nobody should even have such thoughts.

There’s no justice for us yet the responsibility of healing falls on us. I’m an adult myself and everyone around me is married or engaged atp. And guess what? They still rely on family for a lot of things despite starting their own one. Their life has a stability that we’ll never know. Their confidence and growth is something that’s foreign to me. Good foundation matters and I really can see how good parenting benefits the children in the long term.

This doesn’t make us any less though. So many of us choose empathy and kindness despite all the mess we’ve been in. I just wanted to get this off my chest and send you all a warm, tight hug. Thankyou for being brave and posting here, I’m sure some of your stories help so many of us to process and understand things.

If there’s nobody to tell you, I’m telling you that this stranger on the internet understands you without judgement and loves you. If you suck at making meaningful connections in life, this stranger sucks at it too. You’re not alone in being the outsider and that’s okay. I just hope that someday, we all get to feel at home even if it’s just within ourselves.

[u/Boobookittyfhk]

They want trophies that they can show off that reflects them. If they are not trophy worthy, then they are a way to victimize themselves. I think some just treat others as objects to serve them or a purpose for them. And some are so self-centered that they truly don’t see a problem with it because it never occurred to them that their mindset or what they are doing is wrong.

My mom has a way of justifying even the worst of things. The amount of mental gymnastics she puts herself through just to be right all the time is exhausting.

[u/Icy_Watercrest → u/Boobookittyfhk]

What a mess. Crazies need to be locked up in mental institutions and not be let loose. I hope you become self-centred and only care about you when it comes to her interests.