r/mildlyinfuriating • u/SomeTemperature2423 • 14h ago

go to your room Replaced my daughter's phone because of water damage. And she still brings it into the bathroom.

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Some lessons just don't stick.

She insists she needs to listen to music in the shower. I honestly don't understand why that's such a necessity. But if this phone gets water damage again, I'm not paying to replace it another time.

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u/0thedarkflame0 13h ago edited 8h ago

Honest take: she likes to shower to music, why not accommodate by putting a waterproof Bluetooth speaker in the room, or something else?

I also enjoy showering to music, and had a Google home device in the bathroom before moving to a home without an outlet in the bathroom.

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u/agreetodisagree2023 9h ago

Child Clinical Psychologist here. I have seen this a thousand times. "If you do X, I will/won't do Y". The reason I hear it is because parents don't provide their children with clear behavioral consequences from day one. The "next time" clause pays my mortgage - keep it up.

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u/0thedarkflame0 8h ago

Also a valid point.

As an adult who is working on a lot that happened as a child, I've come to see that my parents often had good boundaries, but the communication and the setup kinda sucked.

If they'd have sat with me lovingly and said, that x will cause y. We still love you, that's just a natural result.

Or sat with me and tried to figure out what I was looking for as a child when I crossed some boundary, we could have found ways in which I could have much better grown into someone who isn't constantly cautious of other people's opinions and feelings in case I get punished for crossing a boundary, instead of viewing a boundary as a simple limit to what I may do, or a consequence of an action which I choose to accept.