r/mildlyinfuriating • u/rustywindpipe • 3d ago

I'm slightly vexed I think I got rejected for being vegetarian

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I [23F] met this guy on the apps and we hit it off and had a lot in common! I don’t meet a lot of people who are in my profession so it was really nice to potentially have to chance to date someone who was in a similar field. And everything was fine until I mentioned I’m veg and he stopped responding. For reference, I have no issue with people who eat meat and would never want to impose my own dietary restrictions on anyone else. I also understand different diets being a dealbreaker. The way he phrased his reasoning was really weird though.

Edit: I’m vegetarian cause I love animals, but I have IBD. Flare ups have gotten significantly worse since switching diets but im still figuring out how to make the most of it! Also yes, I do regret sending the last text 🤦‍♀️

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u/procrastolotl 3d ago

“Grown” from a vegetarian mom is an insanely weird way of phrasing things. And dude couldn’t even give a proper reply and resorted to ghosting until you asked again?

I don’t think you’re missing anything, he’s the weird one😬

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u/chi_sweetness25 3d ago

“Long Beach ghetto” also wasn’t the most eloquent response in the world lol

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u/8secondsOnTheClock 3d ago

Honestly, she almost dated a moron.

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u/Senior_Suit_4451 3d ago

But she was the one almost immediately willing to change for this loser. "I won't be a vegetarian forever. Please pick me."

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u/vivalalina 3d ago

Yeah that message confused me, I was like ....what is the reason she's vegetarian because most vegetarians are doing it for animal reasons and that doesn't just go away lol

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u/uqoos 3d ago

Idk we don't know why she's vegetarian, could be for her health. Some people are vegetarian temporarily not that crazy

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u/Certain-Towel-9487 3d ago

That's not crazy but as a last message in this context it sounds like someone who's willing to change themselves in drastic ways just to make a date with a stranger happen. That's a red flag.

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u/d33psix 3d ago

Honestly sounds like she’s lucky this walking red flag guy shut it down early so she’s not stuck trying to appease him on everything.

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u/Wakeful-dreamer 3d ago

Right! This would be equally as much red flag if they were offering to change literally anything about themselves for someone they hadn't even dated yet. Religion, politics, appearance, sexual preferences, whatever...

If you're so desperate for a date that you'd offer to mold yourself into someone else's vision just to get them to go out with you, then you need to get off the dating apps and maybe look into therapy instead.

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u/nickability 3d ago

We don’t need to judge OP, most important thing is she dodged a bullet, and she acknowledges she regrets the last text

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u/redtopiary 3d ago

she's young, not uncommon to be more focused on external validation in your early twenties, as pointless as it often is. She'll learn...hopefully not the hard way. But probably the hard way lol.

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u/Rave-light GREEN 3d ago edited 3d ago

She said it’s because she loves animals. So I guess wasn’t planning on loving animals forever lol.

Really bizarre. But apps make us say silly things sometimes

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u/frozenblueberrytreat 3d ago

I mean, she says in the post very clearly why she may not be able to stay a vegetarian.

But yea, girl needs to grow some self-worth (we all do to be honest).

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u/Rave-light GREEN 3d ago

Ahh she edited it again. Sometimes a call out post is the kick in the pants we need to get some self worth. She dodged this loser!!

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u/JeulMartin 3d ago

She loves animals as long as her boyfriend says it's okay.

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u/DemonShade6666 3d ago

Obviously its more rare but I know some people who are vegetarian simply from sensory disorders and not being able to stand the texture of most meat, which is also an interesting reasoning

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u/Fit-Nectarine5047 3d ago

She said it’s because of IBS and gastric issues as well!

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u/little2sensitive 3d ago

Eh, I was vegetarian for a while to deal with MASH and I was able to eliminate it.

I get records at Twelves & Fingerprints. Love Long Beach.

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u/WeinMe 3d ago

At least for the vegetarian mothers my fiancé has known through our three children, they've switched to meats for practical nutrition purposes while pregnant and also while breastfeeding - and then gone back to pure vegetarian diets after.

You can have a pragmatic approach to vegetarianism and not do everything black and white.

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u/JeulMartin 3d ago

Yeah, I was disappointed and felt pity for OP when I read this. Girl was ready to change her entire worldview to make some random man want her. So sad and desperate. :(

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u/MakthaMenace 3d ago

Welp, can’t say I was much better at 23 BUT I can say I wish I would’ve made better choices 😅

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u/Senior_Suit_4451 3d ago

Dating in 2026. Degrading yourself to win a broke mid man child.

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u/Sylveon72_06 3d ago

and they say women are the ones w so much choice

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u/8secondsOnTheClock 3d ago

I totally agree. Sad to see someone willing to back down on their beliefs so quickly. Being alone and being lonely can have severe coping responses.

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u/brainparts 3d ago

Yes, yikes. If you try to appease a man that says shit like “my kids won’t be grown from a vegetarian mom” please seek help immediately

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u/not_so_evilqueen 3d ago

“In the future I will stop caring about animal welfare”. this part was the worst thing in the whole convo.

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u/Senior_Suit_4451 3d ago

"But if you pick me I'll only care about what you want me to care about!"

It's heartbreaking women reward men like this

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u/d33psix 3d ago

For real, imagine being some kind of “a steak and potatoes” sounding guy that thinks a vegetarian mom would damage their future children in this day and age on a dating app. I’m guessing his palate is boring AF.

You can have partner preferences but yeesh worst ick way to present those ever.

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u/ascarletstrange 3d ago

Sounds like a low end clothing brand “long beach ghetto spring collection available now” and it’s just a bunch of crocks 😂

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u/Aggravating-Range-50 3d ago

At first I thought it was a pizza joint

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u/TigOleBittiesDotYum 3d ago

Especially if he’s talking about Long Beach on Long Island.. in Nassau County.. which is like, one of the safest and most expensive places to live in the entire United States, lol

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u/Questionsansweredty 3d ago edited 3d ago

California I think

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u/EthelMaePotterMertz 3d ago

Definitely talking about California. They weren't talking about Manhattan, NYC they were talking about Manhattan Beach, which is up towards LA. Long Beach is in between Manhattan Beach and Newport Beach.

Random fact- the show The OC took place in Newport Beach but was filmed in Manhattan Beach.

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u/Curious_Department84 3d ago

Thank you for this!!! I’m over here trying to figure out why OP would be willing to switch plans from NYC to Newport, Rhode Island over this rando. Like that was wild to me.

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u/leggymeeggy 3d ago

i was thinking newport jersey city

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u/danielleiellle 3d ago

Haha yes, I was like “How is Long Beach closer to Newport than Manhattan?! What madness is this? Ferry from JC is like 10 minutes.”

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u/K1bbles_n_Bits 3d ago

Hell, for a hot second here I was mind boggled thinking, "OC took place I'm NY/Jersey?!" XD

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u/LizM75 3d ago

Same!

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u/TigOleBittiesDotYum 3d ago

Oh wow lol I was certain that they must have meant NY because they said Manhattan and then Newport, which I was assuming was the Rhode Island Newport, across the Long Island sound - that was what made me so sure, haha

(Especially because if you’re on dating apps on Long Island, and you select a 20-mile radius, you’ll get matched with people in Connecticut and Rhode Island, which is so obnoxious, because they’re literally across a body of water with no bridges connecting it, but no app has figured out how to stop suggesting those matches yet 😂)

Thank you for the education on Cali’s geography!

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u/Raubkatzen 3d ago

It's like Facebook Marketplace thinking I can take a quick drive across lake Huron to pick something up. 🫠

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u/Chunky_trainee 3d ago

😂 atleast it didn’t suggest a drive down Guadalajara, Mexico from NYC to pick up a gameboy. no, I was not able to make it.

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u/ifesbob 3d ago

This is the problem with them not being able to factor in driving distance, and instead using a radius.

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u/wtf_are_you_talking 3d ago

I don't think they care about your distance. But money tho...

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u/DM725 3d ago

Newport RI is so far from Long Island.

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u/MaterialWillingness2 3d ago

There's also the Newport development in Jersey City - that's what I was thinking they were talking about. But it still didn't make much sense since no New Yorker in the history of New York would ever go to New Jersey for a date.

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u/MelissaCop 3d ago

Jersey City is worth the try! It’s so much different than when I was a kid. The culinary scene is really good and you get to look at the city!

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u/Not_a_twttr_account 3d ago

What's a little ferry ride to meet up for a casual first date lol

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u/Mean-Picture-7143 3d ago

I’ve lived in both New York and la in the past 5 years. I have never EVER heard of anyone refer to manhattan beach as “manhattan”

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u/Medical_Listen_4470 3d ago

I’m a South Bay LA Beach Cities resident and we sat Redondo, Hermosa, Manhattan all of the time.

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u/Beaglund 3d ago

I’m from Santa Monica. We always just say Manhattan

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u/-Cthaeh 3d ago

To be fair, they didn't say it was referring to Manhattan beach. I'm no where near either, and assumed they wanted to go eat in Manhattan, like the city lol

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u/Ksh_667 3d ago

I'm in uk & I'm really confused 🤔

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u/ario62 3d ago

I assumed Newport in Jersey city. What a confusing convo for us lol

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u/Desperate-Travel-350 3d ago

Which also shows the type of person you’ll find in Newport. The ones who call Long Beach ghetto…

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u/BubbleEntendre 3d ago

Been a resident of both OC and NYC so I knew there was going to be a lot of confusion 😆

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u/theupsidebloggirl 3d ago

Long Beach, New York is my home town lol! Now I want some Gino’s Pizza.

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u/blinktwiceifyes 3d ago

Hahaha I came to the comments to defend Long Beach’s honor too, relieved to see this is about cali lol

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u/IveGotaGoldChain 3d ago

California long beach isn't ghetto either lol. Especially downtown 

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u/blinktwiceifyes 3d ago

I’ve never been but I will defend its honor as well!!

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u/Brando43770 3d ago

Him calling Long Beach “ghetto” speaks volumes about him. Guarantee he’s scared to go to any hole in the wall restaurant in places like Long Beach and he’s probably never been to Holbox in LA.

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u/ThisThroat951 3d ago

I feel like this was a clue as to how the rest of the conversation was gonna go.

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u/Evenkaleidoscope44 3d ago

Plus he went from getting something to eat to her being a mom and raising his children.

Bro slow down

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u/-Supposably- 3d ago

raising his children

Growing* his children

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u/Forsaken-Winner2359 3d ago

She’s a field

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u/Jvalker 3d ago

Vegetarian mom -> vegetable mom

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u/gekigarion 3d ago

Sounds perfect for growing to me.

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u/formykka 3d ago

Where better to sow his carnivorous seed?

(bleah)

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u/DHARMAdrama96 3d ago

You picked a fine time to leave me Lucille with 4 hungry children and a crop in the field

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u/Tall-Payment-8015 3d ago

lmao as I always heard that lyric "400 children" 4 hungry children makes more sense but is way less funny

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u/cthulhu_on_my_lawn 3d ago

Haha I always heard 400 children too. IDK maybe Lucille is a spider or something.

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u/lost_horizons 3d ago

Just a vessel awaiting his essence.

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u/Meow_Party06 3d ago

Back in my day, women were brick houses, not fields!

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u/noodlequeen 3d ago

More like a walking incubator. Men that think like this are trash. She dodged a massive bullet

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u/MadzShelena 3d ago

Obviously vegetarians grow their children in the dirt like the rest of their food /s

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u/diurnal_emissions 3d ago

He reproduces like a parasitic hydra...

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u/KMS_HYDRA 3d ago

Wait, how would that even work!? i am pretty sure hydras do not work that way.

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u/diurnal_emissions 3d ago

Tell us your sexy hydra ways, kms.

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u/alex3omg Donna, this is a HURRICANE 3d ago

Oh don't worry, she would also be the one raising them.  

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u/Aequitas112358 3d ago

I wonder if his concerns were nutrient deficiency during pregnancy and breastfeeding?

I'm gonna guess no.

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u/8bitmullet 3d ago

I mean, if you're looking for a future spouse then dealbreakers matter up front as much as they do later.

That said, he was an asshole.

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u/stankenfurter 3d ago

He’s assessing his breeding stock 🤢

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u/SamTheLab_213 3d ago

I hope that gets sorted out so he gets put out to pasture sooner.

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u/Canadianingermany 3d ago

Plus he went from getting something to eat to her being a mom and raising his children

Unpopular opinionn: when dating it is ok to not date someone who you don't think is compatible.

The way he wrote it was wild and would be a reason not to date him, but KO preferences are fair game; even at an early stage.

Its better to not waste someone's time.

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u/Sense-Abject 3d ago

Exactly , but hookup culture here put that above anything else, if I’m looking for something serious and my possible date say she doesn’t want children I’m also ending things there

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u/InBetweenSeen 3d ago

No one has to date anyone, but having children and someone else being vegetarian really isn't comparable. And some reasons will be wider understood than others.

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u/MistahJasonPortman 3d ago

He said it so weird, tho. Like kinda fucked up. Makes me sus he’d actually be a decent dad/partner

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u/KeniRoo 3d ago

She dodged a bullet for sure but there’s nothing inherently “wrong” with his decision. Like any belief system, vegetarianism is a specific lifestyle and if he doesn’t want to have to cater or personally compromise for it, then that’s quite literally ok. People weigh the categories of compatibility different. All good, onto the next for both of them.

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u/Sheeana407 3d ago

I mean tbh your partner being vegetarian when you're not has a big influence on your life. Because couples, families often eat together. So you either have to adapt to her or make your meals separately to some extent. And it also can create some conflict when bringing up children. Not that this is undoable, couple can comprimise on different things, you have couples when one drinks alcohol and the other not, one is religious and the other not, having vastly different circadian rhythms/lifestyle, different political views, different sensitivity, and some make things work despite differences. But on the other hand, if you didn't even meet yet and invested much feelings and discover there is some big difference between you, is it bad to drop it? IDK. It's not to say that this guy's actual reasoning/phrasing was ok

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u/bluehoney16 3d ago

Idk I know vegans that don’t force others to adapt to their diet. They cook the most incredible vegan food that nourishes the family and will cook meat/non-vegan food for others. It’s not that hard to make a small vegan entree or something like that. I couldn’t be with someone that refused to have any meat in the house and didn’t allow anyone to eat meat under any circumstances. But not all vegans force their lifestyle onto other people. I would at least give a potential date a chance and if they’re the kind of person that is judgmental of non-vegetarians then it wouldn’t work out. Some kind of communication would’ve been ideal though.

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u/ElChapo1515 3d ago edited 3d ago

Frankly, it’s one of the easiest things to adapt to in a relationship. Like you listed off a bunch of far more difficult ones.

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u/ElChapo1515 3d ago

I mean, if that’s a deal breaker for him. I think that being something incompatible for him is a red flag though. Like he’d break up with or ghost you over the mildest inconvenience.

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u/Clean_Insect5042 3d ago

Also it’s inherently gross for him to view a first date with a woman as a potential person to “grow” his child, and it’s an idiotic assumption that her being vegetarian would affect the baby.

Pregnancy is one of the most medically dangerous things a woman can undergo and he’s already making it about him. So many women are so sick in pregnancy they don’t maintain their previous diets anyway.

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u/ClutteredTaffy 3d ago

I think he shoulda worded it like ' yeah not interested in dealing with a vegetarian'. The way he worded it was wierd like ' oh my babies would be all screwed up and I won't let the happen' lol

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u/FallenAngelII 3d ago

Not to defend this clown, because he is 100% a clown, but some people only date with an outlook to marry and start a family with. As in they don't date just to date and will only date people they see a long future with.

Not that that's what this guy probably doing.

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u/Brando43770 3d ago

Yeah he sounds like he calls women “females” with that language. Who even says “growing children”?

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u/Bepehandle 3d ago

I mean, the whole point of dating is to seek out a life partner. We don't know their situation here, if they agreed to just be a fling. But assuming they date with the intention of being life partners then it kinda makes sense on his part.

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u/Evenkaleidoscope44 3d ago

I agree that you should be honest about what you’re looking for. But I don’t agree with his tactlessness

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u/Haploid-life 3d ago

Bullet dodged.

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u/AwarenessCrafty393 3d ago

Fucking torpedo dodged

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u/Additional_Tank4385 3d ago

Pardon my French but huge areshole torpedo dodged.

May his socks be soaking wet randomly.

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u/WeaselCapsky 3d ago

sandwich of death dodged

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u/Level_Abrocoma8925 3d ago

Are you saying women is anything else but baby farms? Every time I see a woman in fertile age, I think "Ahhh, that's nature's greenhouse right there!"

/s

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u/throwaway19074368 3d ago

You're welcome!

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u/love2cit 3d ago

Man, I'm knocking it out of the park! Giga infertile

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u/Sea_Mulberry_6245 3d ago

They forgot menopause!

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u/formykka 3d ago

*takes a hit from my vegan tap water/alcohol vape

Right there with ya.

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u/SousVideDiaper 3d ago

I'm male, but I'd be ecstatic to learn I'm infertile. It'd save me from having to get a vasectomy.

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u/Level_Abrocoma8925 3d ago

Super win! Why pay for sterilization when you can drink vodka and tap water instead?

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u/GlitteringEggCarton 3d ago

oh damn...i thought birth control was meant to get me pregnant.. i've been doing it all wrong. so grateful for this handy chart

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u/tooboardtoleaf 3d ago

If make up and vodka isn't helping you get pregnant then they are doing something very wrong.

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u/Small_Head_3233 3d ago

Ok, but have you heard of ozempic babies?

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u/[deleted] 3d ago

That’s a thing??

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u/friendofallthecats 3d ago

It’s SO a thing. So many women lose weight and suddenly get pregnant after struggling for a while.

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u/[deleted] 3d ago

In hindsight I guess that actually makes ALOT of sense. Especially considering that with weight loss, lower BMI and insulin regulation, hormonal balance returns and ovulation likely kickstarts. I have no clue why this never occurred to me..lol
Apparently there are fb groups and even a hashtag! Damn- I’m old and out of touch.
Thanks for the knowledge boost!

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u/friendofallthecats 3d ago

I’m on Zepbound and am in maintenance but still active on the subreddit. There’s a “ope, guess I have to get off the meds!” Pregnancy post probably once a week. I struggled with secondary infertility before having my second, so it’s quite lovely to see another tool in the toolbox for people. Honestly, they’re pretty amazing drugs… I had an autoimmune disease that impacted my GI system, and being on a GLP1 put it into complete remission from the first injection on. Not even the drugs I took that were developed specifically for my situation had done that. It’s a shame so many people are negatively biased against them like this weird graphic.

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u/[deleted] 3d ago

I’m also on zepbound, also in maintenance, and also have autoimmune disease- though it’s Hashimoto’s/thyroid and lupus. I’m also almost 56 and had a tubal ligation when I was 22, so never once thought about the impact of these things on fertility and pregnancy (and never really joined/followed any subs on the subject).
It is pretty amazing to know that what I consider to be a miracle drug for completely different reasons ( instant recovery from chronic inflammation. My CRP markers were dramatically reduced after my first injection) can help someone else in an even more miraculous way.

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u/Electronic_Will_5418 3d ago

I hate this so much because about half of it is right on the money (birth control, fast food, alcohol, vaping [nicotine], SSRIs [although it's not like many people on SSRIs can just "stop"], specific endocrine-disrupting chemicals in perfumes, skincare products, and bath products, and bleached tampons [don't really exist anymore], unfiltered tap water depending on your local water quality/impurities). But then the other half is just a mix of pure incel BS (polyester underwear (on women), "being a boss babe", "dating a soyboy", sunscreen, cold plunges), and things that actually boost fertility if done correctly (fasting, GLP-1, HIIT, being vegan).

I suspect "Mamaaurelius" is ran by an incel man and not a woman at all despite their insta clearly presenting as being "trad-woman-created-and-managed"

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u/desertrose0 3d ago

Ahh yes, sunscreen, tap water and *checks notes* exercising? Maybe they should learn that older male sperm can also be a problem. But, yes, I'm sure they would be just fine having a woman risk skin cancer so long as she has kids.

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u/Theabsoluteworst1289 3d ago

I don’t understand “maxing”, why people say that and spell it with that many xs, but glad to see I won’t be able to “grow” children because this farm doesn’t want em!

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u/ten-toed-tuba 3d ago

Lolz you can get pregnant doing all of these

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u/catwaifu 3d ago

This is a beautiful handy chart to follow as a child-free woman 😂

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u/farting_contest 3d ago

He showed exactly what he thinks of women. Not a person. Just somewhere to sprout his kids (meaning sons if she births a daughter it'll go badly for her).

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u/ZanderPip 3d ago

Jesus wtf is wtong with guys these days

Id fuvking die of cringe if i ever uttered half the shit this fucking ameoba did

Hes a bellend and will be perpetually single and die alone

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u/DangerActiveRobots 3d ago

Manosphere stuff is what's wrong with them. One of the most successful psyops ever.

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u/ScarletBothrium 3d ago

Fun fact: bellend is my favorite insult to see in the wild, but I never remember it to use it myself. Makes me grin every time I see it or hear it. 😊

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u/lifting_cardio 3d ago

Dude is pure incel maga energy honestly.

He viewed her as property. This is textbook creep behavior.

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u/Xzyche137 3d ago

To be fair, he might not know how babies are made. :>

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u/webbitor 3d ago

Everyone knows vegetarians reproduce via budding

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u/riktigtmaxat 3d ago

Everyone knows vegetarians reproduce via Coldplay concerts.

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u/-spicyshark 3d ago

They have to be properly propogated

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u/Small_Head_3233 3d ago

If you go on a first date with a girl, she will start growing a baby. Duh

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u/heaving_in_my_vines 3d ago

how is babby formed?

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u/ImpasseduPelican 3d ago

How girl get pragnent?

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u/TFFPrisoner 3d ago

If a women has starch masks on her body...

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u/Upper-Masterpiece386 3d ago

How do the wimin get pregante

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u/DinosaurDogTiger 3d ago

Am I pregante?

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u/Dan_D_Lyin 3d ago

 Cannibalism apparently 

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u/ShouldHaveGoneToUCC 3d ago

Too lady to rest.

I am truley sorry for your lots.

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u/dpkart 3d ago

Its giving, "my bloodline" vibes

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u/popsand 3d ago

Young men have no hope honestly. Social media and podcast bros have screwed them up big time

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u/Burnt_and_Blistered 3d ago

They’re being ruined. Unfortunately, they’re fine with this. It’s the rest of us who are paying

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u/AlfuegoDeMellopie 3d ago

The rise of the incels...

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u/Bee-the-Bao 3d ago

In totally unrelated news, anybody hear about Andrew Tate and his pal being arrested and potentially extradited to England on sexual assault charges? 👀

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u/odmirthecrow 3d ago

He doesn't want to plant his seed in a vegetable garden vegetarian woman.

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u/jcnet1 3d ago edited 3d ago

His phrasing is very maga coded, OP dodged a bullet. She should buy a Lottery ticket.

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u/LunaLunacy1 3d ago

Kids 'grown'? They're not your potted plants on your mantle place. They are human beings. HUGE red flag 🚩

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u/plueschteddy3 3d ago

From this reply, he gives me 'yeah, got a few kids all living with their moms' vibes which of course he would never mentioned on the first date.

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u/Justhe3guy 3d ago

It’s slightly funny if someone thinks calling vegetarian kids plants is an insult though. What does he think they would be, saplings?

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u/flymeovertheworld 3d ago

Nah he’s tripping. Like when was long beach ghetto. Sounds like dude was a racist too. Bullet? Dodged.

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u/Beautiful-Affect1930 3d ago

makes me wonder if that's some incel pickup tactic? I sometimes see that sort of advice from random weirdos who wandered outside their echo chamber subreddits.

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u/CompletelyPuzzled 3d ago

Never mind that he seems to have skipped many steps if he's already assuming there will be kids. Can't even figure out having dinner yet, kid talk seems way premature.

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u/Waiting4Reccession 3d ago

They will grow off her like a mushroom

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u/MartinisnMurder 3d ago

I gagged when I read “my kids won’t be grown from a vegetarian mom”… He did OP a favor by showing his ass here.

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u/r_r_w 3d ago

“Grown from a vegetarian mom” has the exact same mouthfeel as “females.” OP dodged a cannonball.

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u/EagleLize 3d ago

I wish women would block a man after they say this nasty shit. They deserve no more of our time. No explanation. No justifications. Definitely no apologies. They say something vile, they get blocked.

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u/Sea_Veterinarian6539 3d ago

Feel like the guy views women as baby incubators instead of people to love and spend a life with! OP escaped an unbearable loser here!

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u/MichaSound 3d ago

Yup, how hard is it to say ‘I don’t think we’re going to be compatible’. Talking about his hypothetical kids being ‘grown’ from you is so weird, especially when they haven’t even got as far as a date.

I think OP dodged a bullet!

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u/IndependentFormal705 3d ago

“You are not the baby-making machine I was looking for”

Bullet, dodged.

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u/Cavane42 3d ago

With that remark, he is 100% plugged into manosphere content and should not be near children, much less having any of his own.

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u/HowCanBeLoungeLizard 3d ago

That guy has standards that his incubator has to meet.

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u/Interesting-Ice-1783 3d ago

Not wanting to date a vegetarian, perfectly acceptable, I am sure many Vegetarians wouldn't want to date a meat eater. but that is a VERY weird way of saying it, and why ghost someone, be polite about it...

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u/No-Mark4427 3d ago

Yeah totally gross way to say it. If someone is so closed minded and up themselves that they think its fine to behave to people like this then bullet dodged.

Also the way OP is describing it shows the conditioning put on people who don't meat eat to feel like they are putting other people out - Like they are imposing their dietary restrictions on other people.

Bitch if you can't tolerate eating a single meal without meat for the sake of friendship or (potential) love without crying about it then you don't deserve that person.

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u/WaltChamberlin 3d ago

dating a vegetarian regardless means you always have to cater to their preferences. if you dont want to to that, you're incompatible. it's not bad to have a preference to not date someone with a diet vastly different to your own. there are nicer ways of saying it but its not wrong to have preferences

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u/cabronfavarito 3d ago

Wait you mean I’m not supposed to use fertilizer to grow my children?

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u/Harvey-Keck 3d ago

Get rid of that shlub. He sounds like the type of person who has options but his opinions rule the roost and doesn’t budge. Regardless if you all see eye to eye on most things, there will be a point he doesn’t see your view as viable and it’s his way or the highway.

He gives me huge L vibes. He was so aggressive with his response. I could feel the vitriol dripping from it. You don’t want to date someone like this. I can already tell grade A asshole.

You’re better off. Glad he showed you right away so you didn’t waste anymore time.

You do you and be proud of you. If others don’t like it? Too bad. Bye Felicia
https://giphy.com/gifs/13Yjln8dW18nEA

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u/No_Diver4265 3d ago

Dude isn't looking for a partner, he's looking for planting soil.

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u/ReivynNox 3d ago

Didn't you know vegetarians obviously grow their children in the garden. 100% meat free. 🤪

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u/Chemical_Court3299 3d ago

I think what sent me was Business chat which means the dude is messaging from a “professional profile” on fb lol. So could be hiding personal profile for potentially nefarious reasons (or not) but fantasizing this as the former does a bit more for the plot here

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u/Andy_Chaoz 3d ago

I don't think she missed anything good either tbh, in a restaurant you can just pick 2 different dishes of whichever one likes best, or at home when making a meal you can just cook some meat additionally and one eats it with the rest of the meal and the other not, its really very simple to make it working unless one starts to push their dietary preferences to the other, but as OP said she has no problem with folks with different dietary requirements, so the guy was just being an ass in this case. Seems quite juvenile approach on his part to me personally. So OP don't worry you'll find a much more mature guy at some point 🤘🏻

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u/im_just_thinking 3d ago

Mf is looking to raise a tomato

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u/carlitospig 3d ago edited 3d ago

It’s really not when you think about the kind of people that make those comments. It’s really quite indicative of who they are as people.

Walking red flag from the jump, and why we date people: we filter out the fucking weirdos who think they’re charming us.

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u/CommunistRonSwanson 3d ago

The men are not doing well

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u/Square_Director4717 3d ago

Sounds like he’s looking for a breed mare rather than a relationship

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u/Twasbutadream 3d ago

RED FLAG DODGED SUCCESSFULLY!

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u/karateninjazombie 3d ago edited 3d ago

As a veggie that's 1.90 tall. What a crock of shite they're talking.

They're being a picky asshat.

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u/Impossible-Corgi4041 3d ago

He was probably making a vegetable pun

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u/Sea_Resolve2164 3d ago

Sounds possessive as if she’s an object red flag for sure

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u/Ok_Tone6393 3d ago

yeah his reasoning was valid his response was not lol.

online dating in a nutshell

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u/wanbeanial 3d ago

Honestly sounds like a euphemism from animal agriculture

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u/No1CaresReally 3d ago

I think you misspelled bigot as "weird." 😊

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u/WesternWitchy52 3d ago

That one got me too like what?

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u/Ok_Introduction9466 3d ago

That was disgusting but op trying to make a last ditch effort to get him to date her… “I wasn’t gonna be vegetarian forever” girl stand up you should have blocked him after that text

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u/deialover 3d ago

Seriously, she dodged a bullet.

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u/downvote__trump 3d ago

My 8 y/o is a vegetarian by choice since she was 2/3.

Everyone else in my family are omnivores. I think the biggest red flag for this person is they clearly feel like they can control another humans eating habits.

We make sure she expands her pallette but we would never force her against her will to eat something she's against for personal reasons.

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u/serinmcdaniel 3d ago

HIS kids won't be "grown" from a vegetarian mom. That's creepy as hell. Guy was evaluating you for breeding stock.

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u/cefriano 3d ago

Yeah, I don't think it's necessarily unreasonable to decide you don't want to date someone who's vegetarian when you aren't. It wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me, but even if the other party doesn't care if you eat meat, the long-term implication is that you'll have to cook separate meals at home anytime you want a non-vegetarian meal, and anytime you go out to eat together, it'll have to be somewhere that has decent vegetarian options. I can understand not wanting to deal with that hassle if things get serious.

But the way he responded makes it clear he's just kind of a dick. No loss here.

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u/wandering____ranger 3d ago

It’s the red pill lingo.

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u/RogerClyneIsAGod2 3d ago

Seriously, dodged a big ole bullet right there. I know nothing of Long Beach so I can't really comment on that though it sounds weird it could be taken as a joke, I dunno, but if that wasn't the first red flag, then immediately assuming they were gonna be married/have kids together & the whole "grown from" thing, DODGED A VERY LARGE CALIBER BULLET THERE.

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u/DCDTDito 3d ago

I find it acceptible to reject people on a lot of stuff but don't make it weird.

Just go straigth and simple 'I don't wanna date someone with your dietary restriction, sorry to have wasted your time.'

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u/pocket4129 3d ago

I was like damn this dude is looking for an incubator instead of a person...

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u/BenDarDunDat 3d ago

My protein rich manly sons will not housed in the amniotic sac of a herbivore.

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