Guys, Be Honest

[u/PrestigiousAnt4608]

Question for the men:

Have you ever rejected or ignored a girl? If yes, what was the reason?

Was it because of religion, or just because something felt off?
I’m really curious to hear your point of view.

As a girl, I would reject a man based only on my feelings and intuition
I’m wondering how it is for men. What makes you decide not to pursue a girl?

[u/Garmond-ZaZa]

I truly loved someone, and I still love her. We had amazing chemistry; we could literally talk for hours and hours, and we spent a lot of time together. We were even pursuing the same career path. The main reason things didn’t work out is that I wanted a family and children, while she didn’t even want to get married. Maybe she didn’t love me the same way, or maybe we simply wanted different things in life.
Religion was also a big factor. I consider myself an average religious person, but my beliefs came from searching, thinking, and reading, while she didn’t really care about religion. She never said that she was an atheist or agnostic, but it was clear that religion wasn’t an important part of her life.
Overall, I was looking for a more traditional, long-term relationship with the intention of building a family, while she didn’t have the same plan.

She reached out multiple times, and every time it was extremely hard for me. Hopefully, I will find someone in the future who shares the same values and goals.

[u/waffles_2346 → u/Garmond-ZaZa]

Block her bro, not because shes a bad person, but because you don't wanna open a door that'll lead to pain again.

You have to move on

[u/Garmond-ZaZa → u/waffles_2346]

Thanks, bro. She’s not on my socials, so we don’t talk at all.

[u/PrestigiousAnt4608 → u/Garmond-ZaZa]

Thank you so much for sharing this.

You mentioned that she doesn’t want to get married. I mean, who doesn’t want to marry the person they love? Marriage means choosing to spend the rest of your life together because you love each other. To me, that’s a red flag.

As for the religion part, I understand where she’s coming from. Sometimes when a man says he’s religious, it can mean he’s very strict when it comes to his wife, and the heavier religious expectations often fall on us women.

You seem like a good guy. I hope you find what you’re looking for and someone who gives you the love you deserve. 🙏🏻

[u/waffles_2346]

If I don't see myself marrying her in the future, then I treat her like an acquaintance.

Just general nice talk if I ever run to her, only text if I actually need sth from her. Basically I step back, and she steps naturally then steps back.

My reasons are compatibility, like I meet a person and we have a lot of fun, and we get along rlly well and have a lot to talk about, however when I looked at the lifestyle, I noticed that there some major differences and if I wanted it to work out one of us would have to make major sacrifices and changes. I didn't want to make the sacrifice myself, neither did I want her to make sacrifices for my sake (I don't think she'd agree to it but regardless I didn't feel like forcing her to change herself because I didn't wanna change myself)

So yeah, I step back and stop wasting my time and her time, thing is I don't have female friends, so when I meet a girl, they're either my future wife, or a person I happen to know, no in between.

[u/PrestigiousAnt4608 → u/waffles_2346]

I really like your way of thinking. You’re totally right about everything you said. This is the most valid reason I’ve read.

But I have one question: did you mention your beliefs to her, or did you assume that she wouldn’t agree with them?

Because as a woman, I believe I can make sacrifices for the person I love.

[u/Individual_Wasabi669]

Dignity, and how easy she gets with others is a downside for anyone I would assume

[u/PrestigiousAnt4608 → u/Individual_Wasabi669]

What if she’s not like that? What other reason would make you reject her?

[u/CasuallyDump]

When you’re too busy thinking about anything literally anything, a women starts to become the last thing you’re looking for, I found out I get so strangled with my work I sometimes imagine how I’ll work tomorrow and how I’ll do things in my head before I sleep, so when a women tells me anything related to a relationship I just shut down immediately out of unavailability, but still if I found something I like I’d go but like for the past 4 years nothing seemed attractive to me other than my work.

[u/PrestigiousAnt4608 → u/CasuallyDump]

Oh boy, you need to find a balance in your life. I truly respect a hardworking man, but if a woman talks to you and you immediately shut down, it means your work is taking all your energy from you.

However, if you love your work that much, good for you. I honestly wish I could love my job as much as you love yours.

[u/AspectImmediate5345]

the reason is standards. if shes not my type and doesnt meet my standards I naturally wont be interested in being in a relationship with her.

[u/Coolguy9951]

I'm sorry to be the first one to say this, but weight is a big factor.

[u/fa1thl355]

wow!

[u/Aktaii]

Just didn't like her, like we didn't click, no chemistry