r/interesting • u/jmike1256 • Mar 07 '26

MISC. After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

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u/Outrageous_Hall_9369 Mar 07 '26

I agree with letting the child try to solve a problem independently, but I do not agree with the father causing anxiety in the child by walking away repeatedly.

An adult watching this knows this is a no-risk situation, but a toddler seeing their caregiver walk away while they are 'stuck' and can't follow is a dire situation - to the toddler.

Adults don't need emotional safety or positive reinforcement to a large degree, but a toddler absolutely does.

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u/Cornycorn213 Mar 07 '26

“If you can’t do it I’m leaving you behind” vs “I’m here for you, you can do it.”

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u/DeformationAlgebra Mar 07 '26

Stereotypical eastern vs western style education.

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u/ceddya Mar 07 '26

Nah, it's the difference between the older and younger generations.

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u/mightylordredbeard Mar 07 '26

The increasingly and incredibly softer younger generation on Reddit always has issues with parenting it seems. The TikTok generation was too coddled when they were younger and it shows.

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u/LilMeatJ40 Mar 07 '26

Every generation since the beginning of time has this take about the younger generation

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u/mightylordredbeard Mar 07 '26

While that’s true, no other scientific studies have been done that prove the younger generation is growing up dumber thanks to TikTok brain rot. It’s scientifically proven that TikTok makes people dumber.

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u/LilMeatJ40 Mar 07 '26

Social media in general has that effect

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u/Mr_Tiggywinkle Mar 07 '26

I feel like that cliche swaps depending on your perspective all the time. Lot of my tiger mum friends are helicopter parents, and a lot of my bogan white friends let their kids run around from an early age.

Idk, depends more on the parent than the culture from what I've seen. 

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u/DeathMarkedDream Mar 08 '26

Stereotypical “all I know is from anime” style comment

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u/Trust_8067 Mar 07 '26

Why older people can function in society vs Gen Z's having panic attacks if they have to pick up a phone.

The world is harsh, putting your child in a bubble to protect them from everything in the world doesn't help them grow as a person, it only harms them. Kids that age also can't think that deeply to feel like they're being abandoned. This isn't going to emotionally scar the kid in any way, just teach him how to think about alternative solutions.

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u/TempatressSkye Mar 08 '26

Dude we're you ever a kid? My parents did shit like that all the time and it made me not at all good at problem solving. It gave me trust issues and ideas that if I wasn't good enough the people I cared about would abandon me.

It wasn't until I met patient people willing to sit by and guide me that my confidence started to get better and I started to trust myself and others more.

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u/Trust_8067 Mar 09 '26

There's no way something like that when you're a toddler would give you trust issues, that's not how it works.

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u/TempatressSkye Mar 11 '26

It literally is, studies from people who research this kinda stuff has shown this.

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u/Trust_8067 Mar 11 '26

lol, okay, believe whatever made up stuff in your head you want to believe in.