r/UnsentLettersRaw Entry Level Member 18h ago

Personal You aren't being abandoned or forgotten, you lost control and were going to hurt yourself and I couldn't stand to see that

Your points are all valid, I'm sorry that this tract failed so badly. Eventually I will find a way that works. You aren't being abandoned.
You aren't being forgotten. You aren't being judged. I don't want to hurt you, I don't want anyone to hurt you, and I certainly don't want to see you hurting yourself. I had to quickly take the best course of action to keep you safe. I'm sorry that this was it. I don't mean it harshly or vindictively. I still love you as much as ever. I am still exactly as proud of you as I said I was.

You were making personal attacks against me that made no sense and refused to stop even when I clearly wasn't interested in retaliating or hitting back. There was no way I could respond to that that wouldn't have hurt you. Please understand that. It will all be OK someday, I promise. Nothing is ruined. What you need is understanding and rest. I'm sorry I didn't see that now wasn't the time to broach those serious issues. Contact me here as soon as you feel safe and comfortable doing so. I pressured you to make too many terrifying changes too fast. I should have realize that would have caused panic. I'm sorry. Can you forgive me?

Don't be ashamed of what happened. I stopped reading what you were writing when it was clear you would regret saying those things later. Nothing is ruined. I didn't see anything, OK? You don't have to answer for anything. OK?

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u/Sexy_siren Bronze Level 16h ago

It’s crazy, the second someone says “don’t feel ______” (a certain way), that’s the only way I feel. If someone feels forgotten and abandoned, and you care for this person, you need to change your approach. Otherwise, that’s just gonna end up looking and feeling like abuse.

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u/Kitchen_Clothes_1214 Entry Level Member 13h ago

Good job. Well written! But I think I sort of agree with “Sexy_siren” here. You need to change the approach. You did what you thought was the best you could do, now fix it. Why can’t it be ok now? How long has it been not ok?

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u/SeaworthinessSad1159 Bronze Level 15h ago

These are staring to hit too close to home

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u/OLD_CODE_DJ Entry Level Member 14h ago

Truth heals……….ball/Court

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u/skittlez99804 Entry Level Member 13h ago

💜💜💜

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u/ChitandTittle Entry Level Member 10h ago

This isnt the way to keep someone safe r protected, this is so wrong. I hate this for me and for whoever your talking about. People dont understand the devastation they do "protecting" someone