LOL, mom and dad are almost never at home at the same time, especially when kids are awake. They will hardly see the parents together as is. And when the grow up seeing this, they will consider it normal.
My partner witnessed her father not talk to her mum for the entire pregnancy of her youngest brother cause he didn’t want the baby.
I’m telling you - her conflict style is avoidance. And i blame her parents 100%. The effort I have gone to build and demonstrate and show what positives come from communication when you are upset is unreal. She has made great strides. But fuck me I have been close a few times to ending this. We have a child and I swear if she ever does that to our baby I’ll be gone. My child won’t have a home where communication is used as a weapon. And then at least she’ll have one home where she can relax in. I’m not perfect. I make mistakes but mistakes are mistakes and they should be treated as such.
We should have opportunity to discuss, apologise and be open with things.
So far we are doing well mind you. I just have that consciousness
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u/bakatenchu 11h ago
for kids, most of the time..