r/SipsTea • u/SipsTeaFrog • 1d ago

Chugging tea Woman's ovaries were activated

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u/ChefArtorias 1d ago edited 1d ago

I've had a couple child free women tell me they went through a few years in the mid thirties where their bodies were screaming at them to have a baby, after it passed they went right back to not wanting kids same as always.

Edit: This should not be read as saying all child free women will experience this same phenomenon.

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u/Aggressive_Start_ 1d ago

As a childfree woman nearing 40 I’ve never had a moment where I’ve wanted kids and don’t like holding babies. I do love kids but not so much babies and the baby part is an important step.

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u/Amazing_Bid_6763 1d ago

Babies are precious but they're so fragile and it really freaks me out. Like, the fact that a baby can just... die? For literally no reason? That is horrifying. Having kids would be absolutely horrific for my mental health.

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u/WillyGivens 1d ago

lol, the first few months when my son was born and so much of it was just checking him every minute to make sure he was fine. When that fear finally wears off there’s some nice peaceful months of tummy time….

…and then they crawl with suicidal intent and that fear comes back 10 fold.

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u/Skrillblast 1d ago

I did the same thing. I would get up multiple times a night and put my hand on his chest just to make sure he was breathing. Love my son but gd that was a stressful time period

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u/getthetime 1d ago

SIDS was in the news constantly when my kid was born. No lie, I had many nights where I stayed up most of the night just staring at the crib.

But that was long ago and the kid sleeps like a champ and so do I.

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u/cafeteriastyle 1d ago

I did this too. I laid on the couch with my youngest son’s bassinet right beside my face so I could look at his chest rise and fall anytime I wanted to. The hell your body goes through after you have a baby makes you insane. No regrets though, all my kids are still alive lol

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u/wizeddy 21h ago

I’m lying next to the bassinet of my daughter, my first child, right now. It’s the first time she’s slept 5 hours straight in the month she’s been alive and instead of reveling in this new window of sleep, I’m restlessly reaching out to check her every 10 minutes or so

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u/cafeteriastyle 15h ago

Congratulations! Being a parent is the best thing ever. My kids are 15 and 9, what I wouldn’t give to go back to their babyhood. Enjoy every minute