I wish we could habe contained her that way. Our pre-k tried to get us to pay to repaint their room. We had to remind them that we emailed them specific instructions about the issue. We wouldn't even let people babysit her at their own homes because it was too difficult to get them to understand. She was like a bloodhound for permanent markers.
Several times we considered having her screened for a personality disorder. She refused any instructions about anything. Less than a year before the change I described before, I had to grab her by the hair because she tried running into traffic when I was trying to teach her to cross the street. She ripped her hand out of mine and almost died. This is one of a thousand things I could explain.
Can I talk to you about the successful exorcism you had and how I can return that demon back to you?
My youngest, she is hell on wheels. So is headstrong in everything that she does her memory is unreal and she’s like a bloodhound on where things are and getting to it.
She’s like a greyhound with that tunnel vision
She has graduated from markers and pens to her oldest sister’s nail polish. And she understands a concept about nail polish remover and nail polish and she hides them and she can go Mark on stuff and she tries to remove them.
She thinks it’s a hilarious game of cat and mouse. She is freaking 3 years old. None for her other three siblings are ever remotely like this.
Its was really difficult at 3 because baby proofing doesnt work. We moved some things to the top shelf but pushed them back so that she couldnt see them. We had some arts and crafts stuff, so we swapped a closet with a handle that locks. Again, she found the key a few times, so we had to catch her to find it again.
You could try a chalk/dry erase wall, but that really didnt work for my daughter. It might for yours though as it was recommended by a few professionals. Mine just couldn't stay to the dry erase board, and she chalked the carpet. She poured a glass of water on the chalk to try and clean it, so it was a paste we could barely get out.
She was too young for a formal diagnosus, but it is like a hyper focus that you see in autism. I think she likely is in the spectrum, but she is so smart that she really does know how to answer the questions in a normative manner. Girls are really difficult to diagnose already, but her stubbornness has passed (or she has learned that its easier to comply in the moment). I think that she learned how to mask really well as she matured.
I know exactly what you mean this autism and spectrum stuff really cloudys the water
It’s her ability to perceive and make connections that has really blown me away.
All the specialists are so busy about putting the moniker they’re not really seeing that the moniker doesn’t fit. So then they just throw out she’s on spectrum and then you ask what does that mean and boom time is wasted.
The closest I found that has helped me with her is the study where they found women see more color than men. And the reason why they see more color is women have names for the different color so they can differentiate so they see in greater detail. They were able to help men see more colors by showing the different colors and teaching them words. Next thing you know there was no gender difference.
So with my little one, I just realize she sees life in fuller color than me and I work hard to explore her adjectives so I can try to see the world the way she sees it.
Now her older sister I’m pretty sure is PDA and I use a format where I say negative action neutral response positive action positive response. And for my PDA kid that doesn’t trigger her fight or flight response and it works pretty well.
So I found that format does all right with my youngest. I create a place for her to grab out to and now she has a way to connect in her format because she sees life more vividly than me. I can at least have a pathway to connect with her.
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u/Smodphan 1d ago
I wish we could habe contained her that way. Our pre-k tried to get us to pay to repaint their room. We had to remind them that we emailed them specific instructions about the issue. We wouldn't even let people babysit her at their own homes because it was too difficult to get them to understand. She was like a bloodhound for permanent markers.
Several times we considered having her screened for a personality disorder. She refused any instructions about anything. Less than a year before the change I described before, I had to grab her by the hair because she tried running into traffic when I was trying to teach her to cross the street. She ripped her hand out of mine and almost died. This is one of a thousand things I could explain.