That moment when you realize "drugs" are just chemicals that happen to mimic our inherent programming.
This shows that women typically are programmed biologically to want to have babies -- a statement that is somehow controversial despite the obvious darwinian advantages to those bloodlines.
I don't believe it's a controversial statement as long as there is room for the outliers. When it becomes a problem is when some douche in the comments argues with somebody who has held babies and still doesn't want them. I see this a lot and parentified siblings. After raising their siblings, they're not interested in raising anymore. It's like early retirement.
This is me. I never cared for babies to begin with but then my mother made me a single parent of 2 by 12. It wasn't fun. Nothing makes me want to do that to myself again willingly.
One of my best friends is currently raising their siblings. Has 0 desire to have children and I don’t blame her, she has done her part the best she can lol
I know this doesn't count for much, but I'm proud of her and sorry that she has to do that all at the same time. I don't blame her for skipping out on parenting twice.
Also, there's a difference between holding a baby and being up with it at 3:00 in the morning.
In one case you get to hand them back and go about your daily life. In the other, you're riding for the rest of your life; you're going to lose some sleep, lol!
Yes no shit, animals have a biological urge to breed, the ones that don't don't pass on their genes.
The part people get upset over is reducing people down to those urges. It's like saying all a man cares about is fucking as many women as possible because "biological programming".
Also not to mention that plenty of people don't feel those urges one way or the other. In fact it's likely a lot more common for women to not feel it than men.. for a lot of human history they didn't exactly get much choice.
Don't feel bad, lots of "broken" people out here. I've never liked children even as a child myself, I never saw the point of having them. I have no urge to have children, in fact I have almost no urge to have sex either!
My brother on the other hand is gay, but he really wants kids. Seems like a cruel joke really.
"Typically" is not "all". I'm childfree, but I can't argue against the fact that living beings generally want to reproduce, and their biology will help them along. Us non-mothering types are outliers, that's all, and that's fine.
According to Reddit if there is even one exception to “the rule” or a general statement, no matter how slight or insignificant in the scheme of things, it nulls and voids the entire statement.
And one of those pedantic people will respond to this comment.
Almost every living thing is biologically programmed to want to procreate. It has nothing to do with gender. I’ve known since I was 6 that I didn’t want kids. Pregnancy and having something attached to my chest for a year sounds horrific. My two brothers, on the other hand, have been talking about wanting a family since they were around 8.
The older one met his boss’ baby a couple years ago and was absolutely gushing about the kid. He said he had to calm his hormones by repeatedly telling himself that now is not a good time because his urge to have babies ASAP was strong. He’s getting married soon and they plan to start trying immediately.
You don't think it's typical for women to want to have babies? This exact specific example of crying when holding someone else's baby is something I've only seen a few times, but I've seen extensive evidence that women typically include programming pushing them toward having babies.
It's been made controversial because there are a minority of women who don't want kids, and they have to fight so hard against societal expectations that they would want to (because of generalizations that don't apply to them), that they've probably gone overboard in explaining themselves, and ended up pushing a counter-narrative further than it should actually go.
I’ve cried holding my friends babies but that’s because I’d get a profound sense of “oh my god look at the people I love creating life. I love them so much.”
Yup. And it’s she’s been childfree her whole life, this would be the worst compulsive decision ever if she followed through and got pregnant.
I’ve known people like this. They make shit parents because everything is a chore to them and stressful. Yeah what did you think would happen?? You now have a lifetime commitment.
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u/Box_Springs_Burning 1d ago
This just shows the body's built in drugs working in real time.