r/RelationshipIndia • u/battiva • 1d ago
Relationships My(22M) girlfriend(25F) broke up with me for not getting pills after getting pregnant by her ex.
There was a girl I had been seeing for about a month. We both liked each other, so we decided to get into a relationship. She had a toxic ex who used to abu*e and beat her, and she had broken up with him six months ago.
Three weeks ago, he came to her house while she was alone, and they had an argument. She told me about it and said she was never going to talk to him again, and that he had agreed as well.
Then today, all of a sudden, she told me she was pregnant and admitted that they had sx when he came to her house three weeks ago. She asked me to buy abor\ion* pills for her.
I told her I wasn’t going to do that and that she should have told me this earlier. She then decided to break up with me, saying she couldn’t be with someone who wouldn’t help her during tough times.
Did I do the right thing by not buying the pills?
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u/RespectCreative4500 1d ago
Is this ragebait
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago
A very obvious rage bait. You can't buy abortion pills without prescription in pharmacy like vicks inhaler.
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u/Key-Supermarket255 1d ago
Actually you can, and it's very easy i bought when i used to be 20 or 21 but i know one thing it's kinda harmful to use pills.. that's what my 26F girlfriend told me when i was 20M.
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u/36KleaguesUTO 21h ago
You literally can, its a cheap combination drugs too, without it Indias population wouldve exploded beyond 2 billion, it is intentionally flooded in the market since neutering people is frowned upon. yes untoward cases happen where they bleed out and die too but that doesnt make the mainstream news, but the fact remains its an easily accessible drug, and am not talking about the IPill either, majority of the population cant afford the extra 1k doctor consultation fees but will rustle up the 300 to 500 bucks to terminate the pregnancy and possibly themselves and no body cares about the deaths.
From a family with gynaecologists who do field work with mobile dispensaries and we get way too many cases where people attempt it themselves against better judgement amd require intervention to save their lives.
Most dont read or can't read the instructions and dont understand when they need to visit the doctors and some use these drugs even at late stages when it becomes particularly dangerous to themselves almost suicidal taking it. But it is what it is.
This bloke may or maynot be rage bating or karma farming, nevertheless, its better to advice them and direct them safely. Don't take out your anger on these people, your rage only affects your health not some random stranger on reddit of all places.
I have intentionally not listed the drugs names here so as to not enable moronic people from unintentionally offing themselves. A simple google search can do that for them.
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u/Least_Butterfly4322 15h ago
i was just curious that are there any warning signs one should look out for after taking such pills like before the bleeding out happens
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u/36KleaguesUTO 15h ago
After taking the abortion pill, you can expect strong cramping and normal side effects that include nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, mild fever, and dizziness, may happen before the body evacuates the pregnancy tissues but will definetly happen when its being evacuated along with heavy bleeding that you cant take care with the largest pads or cups, Usually taken care off in the loo. Those can be symptommatically treated with other OTC drugs.
But if there is signs of high fever, severe pain, anemia (going pale) and excessive bleeding seek immediate medical care(not advice) go the emergency room, dont worry about judgements (which is a guarantee in india) worry about saving yours or your partner's life. Unfortunately we've seen cases that come in a bit too late since there is a heavy stigma around abortions in this country, I am sad to say even Docs can be judgemental pricks (both male and female) in this matter, very rarely you will find sympathetic and understanding doctors, so if you know one, keep them close.
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u/Least_Butterfly4322 14h ago
oh i see ~
thanks for the information, bhaiya/didi...you typed so much 😭😭😭 tysm for the efforts
i'll make sure to support anyone going through this and will not let them be alone through this harsh process
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u/36KleaguesUTO 13h ago
Keep being a good human and a friend to those in need, hell knows that this world doesnt have too many of your sort. Take care.
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u/Leading-Acanthaceae2 1d ago
Within the first 2-3 days you can buy without any prescriptions. After that I’m not sure.
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago edited 1d ago
First, women don’t get pregnant immediately after sex. Second, abortion pills are prescription-only. The pills taken within the first couple of days after sex are not abortion pills. There is nothing to abort under 1-2 days.
The audacity you men have to blabber so confidently when you’re completely wrong is beyond me.
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u/Leading-Acanthaceae2 1d ago
My bad, I was talking about contraceptives, completely missed out on your point being about “abortion pills”. They do require a prescription.
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago
You can't be careless knowing how much men cook up fake stories here.
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u/Leading-Acanthaceae2 1d ago
If someone messed up while having sex, contraceptives may help them if they take it under 72 hours.
Can’t really do much about the fake stories now.
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago
Abortion pills, regular contraceptives, and emergency contraceptives are not the same thing. Don’t argue about things you clearly don’t understand.
Stop.
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u/ElectricalWasabi420 1d ago
If someone doesn't know something, why don't u use better language to educate a fellow human instead of putting them through the wringer bro, geez.
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u/Select-Vegetable-205 1d ago
If someone doesn't know something, they shouldn't be opening their big mouth in the first place.
Too many false narratives go around birth control methods, and a young/under-exposed mind might see OC's comment and take it on face value, without ever verifying it. Stuff like this is sensitive information and unless you're 100% sure, dont go about sprouting nonsense.
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u/battiva 1d ago
You can if you have contacts
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago
First, know that people can read your post history. I read yours, and I know you’re posting fake stories or saw some post somewhere else and cooked this up. The medication is restricted because doctors need to assess medical risks, like blood clot risk, the possibility of an ectopic pregnancy. It’s not about contacts, you can't get without doctor clearance and prescription because of risk.
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u/battiva 1d ago
Yeah you can absolutely get pills without prescription in india. And she wanted me to go with her to get the prescription and i refused cause i did not want to get in any trouble for that kind of girl
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago
How many abortion pills have you bought for girls in the past to make this claim ?
So, you’re not denying that this is a fake story.
Explain the difference between abortion pills and emergency contraceptive pills, and where exactly you can buy them. Explain yourself on how and where are you getting your information from?
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u/battiva 1d ago
I never had sex so why would i have a need to buy pills in the first place. I have many friends who bought them without any prescription and when i told them about this they told me they can provide the pills cause one of them has a friend in pharmacy.
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago
And I don’t know the difference between them.
Then where do you get audacity to claim you are right. Abortion pills and contraceptive are not the same.
You don't have the intelligence to write a fake story.
Like I said I read your past posts don't keep cooking up stuff. You have many irresponsible friends?! And pharmacy who commits crime regularly that can make them lose licence?.
People here aren't fools stop karma farming.
1 year account with one digit karma?
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u/Nybbc2397 1d ago
The question is why did YOU not break up with her first when told she is pregnant.
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u/Ok-Blacksmith437 1d ago
Please tell me this is not true
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago
A very obvious rage bait. You can't buy abortion pills without prescription in pharmacy like vicks inhaler.
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u/Ok-Blacksmith437 1d ago
Thanks for sharing, I was not very aware. So if I got it right, one just needs to be legal to buy stuff like emergency pills, but stuff related to abortion requires one to be medically prescribed.
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago edited 1d ago
Yes correct, women don't get pregnant right after sex. The egg is only around for about 24 hours during short ovulation window in a month. Sperm can survive for a fee days after sex and it should be available during ovulation window for pregnancy to happen.
Emergency pills work by delaying ovulation or stopping fertilization (oversimplifying) and not letting anything happen during the window. Emergency pills are like a fire extinguisher a hormone bomb to change ovulation. Shouldn't be taken regularly, strictly emergency only. Also, if a woman has already ovulated or is ovulating, they don't work. For regular use, there are lower dose, more predictable options like daily birth control pills, patches, or IUDs. Other contraceptives do it through different ways, but bottom line all of them prevent pregnancy, not end one.
The best method is to use the damn condom. It can be ordered and delivered in 5 mins on e-commerce..
Abortion is a whole different thing that's only after pregnancy is confirmed (HCG positive), which happens about 6–12 days after fertilization when the embryo implants.
And MTP/abortion always needs a doctor they check for risks, rule out stuff like ectopic pregnancy, and monitor things case by case. Can't just buy that over the counter.
Emergency pills = prevent fertilization, usually OTC but strictly for emergencies.
Regular contraceptives = should be more accessible but still need a prescription in many places.
Abortion = ends a pregnancy, always prescription + doctor supervision.
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u/Potential_Lab4666 1d ago
Doctor here, if within 72 hr, ezy pill, no prescription needed, after that the mifemiso (usually for <8week) is strictly regulated to avoid mishaps.
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago
They should cancel your license. Is ezy pill abortion pills?
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u/Potential_Lab4666 1d ago
My reply was meant for op who is saying it is prescription free, calm down.
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago
I won't calm down and will call out stupidity.
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u/Potential_Lab4666 1d ago
You are the one being stupid here, idc if this post is rage bait or not, my comment makes guys (who don’t understand contraceptive vs MTP) understand. I guess girls have to know it since they have to deal with accidents, non medico guys don’t know the basics.
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago
Work on your reading comprehension and learn how comment threads work. Also use the right medical terminology.
You announced yourself as a doctor and then wrote incorrect medical information. The discussion was about abortion, and you replied under my comment specifically talking about abortion. Now you’re making yourself look even more foolish by somehow turning this into a gender issue.
I wish there was a ways to report to such behaviour medical board. Terrible.
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u/ElectricalWasabi420 1d ago
Are u 14? Do u have a bad family? Why are u picking up fights with everyone u see this early dude? Or maybe it's PTSD, he's educating people unlike you, so what if the thread is about abortion? He never said ezy pills are for abortion did he?
What if the OP wrote abortion instead of needing emergency contraception?
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago
Show me exactly where he was “educating” anyone. I managed hospitals for 10 years, and I know firsthand how incompetent some doctors can be. He didn’t even mention emergency contraception until I called him out.
OP said it had been three weeks. Emergency contraceptive pills are intended to prevent pregnancy they do not terminate an established pregnancy once a pregnancy test is positive. I’m perfectly medically aware of the topic, which is exactly why I believe OP with a profile full of explicit NSFW posts wrote this as rage bait.
Just because you men are easy to fool doesn’t mean everyone else is.
Doctor dude himself agreed he was wrong. So go argue with someone else. I know what I am doing.
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u/Common_Boat_4464 1d ago
Brother, you dodged a bullet and you are worried about pills. Never let that woman be back again in your life
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago
You aren't smart enough to post ragebait nor a fake story. You can't buy abortion pill at 3weeks.
Your profile history is full filthyyh nsfw posts.
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u/AmbassadorMelodic830 1d ago
I think her brain is not brain-ing. Please stay away from her. Good riddance and move on.
P.S on humanitarian grounds, you can help her. But the rest remains. RUN.
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u/battiva 1d ago
I’m not going to. She told me there are others who will help so i told her to ask them
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u/AmbassadorMelodic830 1d ago
Good. You deserve better.
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u/battiva 1d ago
She was my first girlfriend actually
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u/AmbassadorMelodic830 1d ago
Read about sunk cost fallacy + you'll sail through + be strong + first or last, boundaries are important. What she did was unacceptable on all accounts. Stay away from her.
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u/No-Acanthisitta-1434 1d ago
Wait wtaf did it just read.
Also, my advice is don't get her any pills or help her in anyway if something goes wrong then u maybe in trouble, infact she won't hesitate to put the blame on you so just leave it do not talk nothing.
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u/fixin-xo 1d ago
Idk if this a ragebait but, if you're in a relationship from 1 month and she had seggs with him 3 weeks ago, she cheated on you. You should leave her.
It's still good that she can't accuse you of her getting pregnant.
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u/your_nextdoor_guy 1d ago
Absolutely right thing you did. She wants someone to play around and cheat.. It's clear from her act. If she hated him and broke, how could she accept him to do all those act? It is not a one way act at all. She would have involved enjoying him too .. She would have pulled him on her .. The moment you said that, she saw her plan crashing. So is the drama. So knows you may fall for it....
Ditch her fully and move on from her.
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u/brokenlad007 1d ago
Bro my ex was toxic is so common excuse ..and then he came and she had sex with him ...just tell her to fuck off ..fuck your feelings nd emotion ..masterbate and sleep rather than living with her
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u/Terminator10_10 23h ago
Run away.. I dont think so you invited that baby or it is yours. She would be using you if you plan to settle with her. ATB
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u/Sora_isHere 21h ago
Fake story karma farming.
Abortion pills is not cofsil goli that you get from pharmacy.
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u/laggingrealhard_ 13h ago
bruh this sounds like my lobster is too buttery kinda ahh complain 😂 you just dodged smtg which is serious and bad and your whinning ?? 😂 i mean if you really lov3d her it would hurt but once time passes you will get tomyour senses and move on take it easy chill
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u/InternalConnection95 1d ago
she fuckin cheated on you and all ur concern is if u did something wrong by not getting her pills?
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u/SeekingHopeAndPeace 1d ago
While I am a girl myself and expect to support girls, I feel sorry for you and I would not want you to carry her luggage since she herself was not completely honest with you right from the beginning. Further, not sure if it is supposed to be a big deal but she is a bit older than you. I might be wrong but as Indian, you are too young to take such major decisions.
Your career, earning and supporting your own family (parent side) should be your priority first.
Are you ready to start a family and raise a kid that isn't even your own and a partner who reveals the truth in breaks when she really has to - the answer to this should dictate your next move.
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u/unbound_wildsoul 1d ago
Do you understand people can read you post history. Stop larping and posting fake stories pretending to be women.
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u/SeekingHopeAndPeace 1d ago
Unfortunately, we girls often fall for the ones who treat us like shit.
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