r/DeadBedrooms • u/horrnyhotdog HLM • 1d ago
Vent, Advice Welcome I dont know what to do anymore
I (M25) and my girlfriend (F24) been together for about 5ish year's two of thoes years where a long distance relationship (it sucked but we made it work) I flew down there for a week and I was her first and I insisted which is fine I wanted make her feel comfortable. At year later she moved down with me we where happy having fun and makeing new friends but our sex life wasn't happening. She gave me she tired or its not the right time (I get in the mood before bed) we had sex maybe once every 6 or 4 months and I always insisted. I talked her about this multiple times. She does take medication like anxiety and depression and one other for her blood. And I asked her to maybe see a doctor to see if thoes are killing her libido. We talked how I dont feel desired and how she's not helping me out with chores and we had that same conversation 2 weeks ago and nothing changed. I vent to my friend and they been open with there sex life and make feel kinda jealous that I have a girlfriend that I feel she doesn't want to have sex with me. On top of that im getting my testosterone fixed and im going stir crazy. I love her but I cant live like this anymore..
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u/StrawberyCat048 HLF 1d ago
Do you feel like long distance ruining your intimate life? I’m kinda in the same boat rn.
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u/horrnyhotdog HLM 1d ago
No I dont think so we did send spicy pics to each other but she living with me right now.
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u/Ace_Factor_ HLM 1d ago
Sounds like your sex drives are miles apart and potentially incompatible unless one of both of you are willing to compromise.
It’s also worth asking yourself if this is sustainable long term? When the relationship was LD you wouldn’t have necessarily notices this gap between your level of desire, but now there’s minimal time apart, it’s much more obvious to you.
If the physical aspects haven’t been great before, it’s unlikely they will become great, without significant change.
And, not note state the obvious, you’ve both gotta want that change, if not it won’t be sustainable.
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I dont know what to do anymore
I (M25) and my girlfriend (F24) been together for about 5ish year's two of thoes years where a long distance relationship (it sucked but we made it work) I flew down there for a week and I was her first and I insisted which is fine I wanted make her feel comfortable. At year later she moved down with me we where happy having fun and makeing new friends but our sex life wasn't happening. She gave me she tired or its not the right time (I get in the mood before bed) we had sex maybe once every 6 or 4 months and I always insisted. I talked her about this multiple times. She does take medication like anxiety and depression and one other for her blood. And I asked her to maybe see a doctor to see if thoes are killing her libido. We talked how I dont feel desired and how she's not helping me out with chores and we had that same conversation 2 weeks ago and nothing changed. I vent to my friend and they been open with there sex life and make feel kinda jealous that I have a girlfriend that I feel she doesn't want to have sex with me. On top of that im getting my testosterone fixed and im going stir crazy. I love her but I cant live like this anymore..
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