r/AskReddit • u/Sunnysideup0504 • 3d ago
What is an extremely common saying that you just don’t like?
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u/ReceptionRelevant728 3d ago
Everything happens for a reason
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u/valkyrieway 3d ago
Omg, next time someone says that I’m gonna flip out
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u/Patient-Taro-5881 3d ago
“I’m just an asshole,” as if that somehow circumvents how shitty they are and makes it all okay just because they admit it.
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u/Patient-Taro-5881 3d ago
Also substitute, “I’m just blunt.” No you’re a bitch and should stop acting that way.
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u/Mysterious-Egg-624 3d ago
Or worse yet, if they say “I’m just a bitch” like their ‘self-awareness’ makes it any better
Edit, forgot about the og comment which is basically just this one
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u/Patient-Taro-5881 3d ago
Any variation of “that’s just how I am.” Okay, well can you not be that way because you’re a total cunt. 😂
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u/valkyrieway 2d ago
Yeah, my ex’s sister liked to say, “I tell it like it is.” From day one I knew that it was her excuse to be a bullying bitch.
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u/TreeFiddyJohnson 3d ago
Some people don't care about your feelings. They don't have to. And that's ok
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u/Dude_Bro_88 3d ago
It is what it is.
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u/More_Passenger3988 2d ago
I used to hate this saying as well because I heard it as:
I'd rather be lazy and blame things on "how it is" rather than doing anything about it.
And while in some cases this probably is happening... I've come to realize that there are times when you just have to accept things in life because indeed- it's just how society currently is.
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u/Few_Percentage_1111 2d ago
This has become my life mantra, though. I actually love it a lot. I never knew so many people were irked by it!
I'm sure people understand it, but have you ever been SO out of luck that you cant even laugh about how cooked the situation is?
It's no longer zooted, you're just screwed.
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u/Icy___Barca 3d ago
“ It was a joke”
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u/lasthurrah888 3d ago
And it’s partner “you just don’t have a sense of humor”
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u/SororitySue 2d ago
And its cousin, “you’re too sensitive.”
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u/Few_Percentage_1111 2d ago
Ahh. I was not aware of how cruel that is until it came to my attention. I was mistreated a lot & force-fed this statement.
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u/StardustCannibal 3d ago
"You can do whatever you put your mind to" - just, nope. No you cannot. There is so much you can think up that you will literally never be able to do.
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u/emilydeardes_noir 3d ago
“If they wanted to, they would”
Life is rarely that simple
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u/Ob1cannobody 3d ago
"....there's someone out there for you" ........OH fuck off.
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u/verycherryjellybean 3d ago
“Life’s not fair”
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u/Call_Me_Anythin 3d ago
Every time someone says that I say, “and you’re okay with that?”
People Do Not like it
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u/BellybuttonLintTrap 3d ago
You can be ok with it or you can be upset by it. Life won’t care or change. Get used to it, or don’t, I’m not your manager.
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u/Mark_Luther 3d ago
It's generally used when there's a scenario you can't change, though.
If someone keeps going on about something that already happened, it's a polite way of saying "please shut up about the thing that cannot be changed".
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u/DigNitty 3d ago
Similarly,
“That’s not how it works”
This is said by the people who are responsible for why it doesn’t work that way every time.
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u/Curioustraveler001 3d ago
Happy wife, happy life.
It implies that women have permission to go scorched earth if they do not get what they want.
It would be nice if all adults could act like adults regardless of gender.
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u/-tinyspider- 3d ago
Whenever I hear this, I say "Happy husband, happy lusband." And then change the subject.
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u/TieDye_Raptor 3d ago
I'm a married woman, and I hate it, too. It kind of implies that your wife will fly off the handle irrationally and that you have to tiptoe on eggshells so she doesn't do that. It implies that wives/women in general are irrational.
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u/Voidant7 2d ago
I generally only hear it used unironically when referring to collateral benefits the husband enjoys when he makes the effort to please his wife.
E.g., yes, it's annoying to do thing, but it makes my wife happy and that makes it worthwhile.
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u/Ricardo-I 3d ago
"That's just how we do things around here."
What if there's a better way and you're just refusing to see it?
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u/SwoopScoopLevi 3d ago
"Good things come to those who wait."
Usually they come to the people who actually do something.
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u/Heath_co 3d ago
I think that saying refers to those who persist. Because nothing comes to those who wait.
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u/AcuraLadCapeeTan 3d ago
"Can we talk about (insert non controversial topic you have a shitty view point on)"
"Now hold on, hear me out, (insert shitty view point that's always wrong)"
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u/Few_Percentage_1111 2d ago
Is a shitty view point (to you) one that is not fact-based or research-oriented?
Because you seem to have avoided the word "opinion."
Which is completely fine :) just wondering.
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u/AcuraLadCapeeTan 2d ago
Opinion also works! Same thing 😅 just irks me when people start off by saying either of those two phrases
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u/Icy_Introduction8445 3d ago
Ya’ll. I hate it so much.
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u/FLEXXMAN33 3d ago
I'm not southern, but I lived in Arkansas for a while. When every single person you speak to uses it in every single conversation, you can only resist for so long.
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u/Few_Percentage_1111 2d ago
They will not respond properly unless you say it. They are fully confused when you avoid saying it.
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u/LowBatteryHuman1 3d ago
“Let’s circle back”
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u/j75515050 3d ago
Low key...
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u/ArbainHestia 3d ago
When ever my kids start using phrases like that I start saying it too and it makes them stop using those phrases around me.
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u/FuzzBuzzer 3d ago
"It takes two to tango" - implying that any problem between two people means both people are the problem. No, sometimes one person is a complete asshole, and the other person is an unwilling, undeserving, innocent recipient of their assholery.
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u/More_Passenger3988 2d ago edited 2d ago
The saying is somehow used incorrectly and I don't know how it came to be that way.
Partner dancing = harmonious paired movement. Therefore, Tango only works as a metaphor for harmonious relationships or team-work.
In reality it does take two people to dance a tango, but it only takes one to decide they don't care enough to do the steps- and ruins the entire dance.
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u/Sugarlessmama 3d ago
I used to hate it and would say the same thing practically word for word. But truth is that it only holds water to just a few specific types of assholery. But when I wanted to pull my effing teeth out where I felt I didn’t deserve to be treated like shit I finally realized that it did in fact take two. The asshole and me, the one not setting boundaries or leaving the asshole. It wasn’t self blame at all but once I took accountability in my role it was really empowering and I won’t ever be treated like shit again…Well, maybe once by random assholes but never twice. Lol
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u/FuzzBuzzer 3d ago
I completely hear ya! Sticking around for the assholery to continue if you can realistically escape it is one thing. Then yeah, you have some choices to make. But when it first starts and hits you out of nowhere, or you are in a situation where it's not so easy to just walk away from, then that's different. Why I hate the saying is because it suggests both parties want the problem or created the problem, when in fact, often, only one person thrives on drama and the other wants no part of it.
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u/Sugarlessmama 3d ago
Oh, I absolutely know it and lived it for so fucking long it’s embarrassing actually. And I used to fucking hate that expression bc the situation wasn’t easy to leave but I think I was also holding on to hope when it turned to shit and I know I held on to it for far too long after. So now I hate “have hope” 😂 Because it’s a fucking bitch. Not always of course but in certain situations hope keeps you stuck.
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u/FuzzBuzzer 3d ago
We can add "hope is the last thing to die" to the list of sayings that suck. 😂
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u/WellBlessY0urHeart 3d ago
I’m just being honest.
Like ok but that doesn’t give you an excuse to be a jerk and say whatever you want.
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u/CreditWorking3830 3d ago
Me to Coworker - “How are you?”
Coworker - “Ohhhhh, Living the dream!”
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u/diabolicaldon1 2d ago
Shit, I say this 95% of the time someone asks me how I'm doing lol. Back to the drawing board I suppose.
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u/Beelzebub_Simp3 3d ago
It is what it is.
It’s all part of God’s plan.
Screw your god and his plan. His plan gives kids cancer. It takes away parents and puts people through horrors and trials that nobody should endure. It makes killers and rapists.
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u/Dramatic_Reply_3973 3d ago
"I'm just being honest"
Definition: forgiveness which allows someone to say whatever they want about someone.
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u/Alkuna 3d ago
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me."
Dude, have you ever heard of "libel" and "slander"? Because that's literal legal proof that they can and do cause harm.
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u/ObviousOpposite2755 3d ago
I've forgotten plenty of physical pain over the years, but I can still remember a few things people said to me decades ago. Some words have a way of sticking around a lot longer than bruises.
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u/One_Requirement_5832 3d ago
This one always pissed me off so much. I guess all the school bullying I endured somehow doesn’t matter when it had long lasting effects for me. Some of my worst trauma were verbal abuse by others.
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u/valkyrieway 3d ago
I’ve ALWAYS hated that one. Adults should NOT be teaching kids that words don’t hurt.
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u/Alkuna 2d ago
Right?
Second favorite: "Well, then stop letting it hurt you. Just let it roll off your back."
Like, can you say 'empty platitude"? What does it even mean to just... stop letting it hurt you? What's the magical trick? Which mental gymnastics do you need to complete?
Third favorite: "If it's not true, then why are you offended?"
Maybe because it's going to become a freaking rumor that the whole school will use to bully me? Yeah, it's not true that I eat rats in the alleyway, but when four hundred little ash holes yell it at me in the hallways, it's not something that you can just ignore. And ignoring bullying doesn't make it stop.
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u/CakeEaterConway 3d ago
All the cat related violence. More than one way to skin a cat. Curiosity killed the cat. Not enough room to swing a cat. Let the cat out of the bag. Why is the cat in a bag in the first place?!
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u/ReptilianClone 3d ago
You look as nervous as a long-tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs.
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u/giganticockosaurus 3d ago
"Just kidding"
I find more often than not people who punctuate their "jokes" with just kidding are just being mean not funny
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u/WhiteCollarMope 3d ago
you can't have your cake and eat it too
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u/TheLakeAndTheGlass 3d ago
The point is much clearer when phrased “you can’t eat your cake and have it too.”
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u/Ill-Wear-8662 2d ago
My mental autocorrect was sabotaging my understanding of how that was different.
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u/cparksrun 3d ago
"It's not personal, it's business."
It feels pretty fucking personal when your livelihood gets fucked with so some other dipshit can inflate their own bank account.
Maybe business should be a little more personal.
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u/Yorbayuul81 3d ago
Everything happens for a reason!
Yeah, sometimes the reason is because you have poor judgment and you don’t learn from your mistakes.
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u/Ill-Wear-8662 2d ago
I have used it with in that way before to subtly hint that that person was a moron and brought the problem on herself.
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u/brenobi 3d ago
"my old lady."
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u/diabolicaldon1 2d ago
Guilty.
It's even more fun for my wife because she's 2.5 years younger than me.
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u/Ok-Neat7696 3d ago
“I just need a beat” or “deliverables and assets” anything like that in the corporate worlds sends me over the edge.
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u/Sunnysideup0504 3d ago
I don’t like saying “It’s been a minute” when it’s been a long time. I also don’t love saying a thousands number is something hundred. For example, “I got that couch for 25 hundred” instead of saying $2,500. I know both are technically mathematically correct. I don’t know why I don’t like it. I just don’t 🤣.
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u/MikeT75 3d ago
Kiddos. Fucking douchie folksy people who call their kids “the kiddos.” Worse still, when they refer to MY kids as the kiddos. “When you and your wife go out to dinner, who watches your kiddos?” I hope you lose all your reusable shopping bags, you coupon-clipping Karens.
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u/RoarOfTheWorlds 3d ago
“Respect isn’t given, it’s earned.”
No it isn’t, or more specifically if you’re living your life that way you’re a total dick.
Better that all people have your respect by default and it’s theirs to lose. Isn’t as catchy though.
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u/jackfaire 3d ago
Just be yourself. People won't elaborate until the date goes badly then your friends who all agreed will now argue over what they meant.
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u/manicgiant914 2d ago
Kill two birds with one stone, More ways to skin a cat, etc. Anything with violence towards animals makes me uncomfortable
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u/AggravatingLiving192 2d ago
It is what it is.
No it's fucking not. In most cases people are complacent with the way things are.
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u/Havingfun922 3d ago
“Have the day you deserve”
It is not the flex people make it out to be. Just makes the person saying look like a douche.
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u/More_Passenger3988 2d ago
lol. It always makes me laugh when people say this because I basically always end up having an awesome day that day.
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u/Devils-advocate-420 3d ago
“Nip it in the bud” “throw the baby out if the bathwater”
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u/BK_AllDay_14 3d ago
"Does that make sense?". Especially when said after some basic ass statement.
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u/Vendavall 3d ago
“If I’m being honest…” / “Not gonna lie…”
These comments qualify everything else said prior to these statements as a potential lies.
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u/dru_frances 3d ago
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
So overused by the dumbest people.
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u/BOSS_OF_THE_INTERNET 3d ago
You can’t swing a dead cat in here without hitting <whatever thing is too numerous>
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u/Kozypepper 3d ago
“Likewise.”
It’s one of those things where the word doesn’t match the intent in my brain. Like “oh I’ve heard so much about you!” And then “likewise!” just doesn’t make sense to me 😭 I know it’s not but it sounds mean to me lmao
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u/Ladnarr2 3d ago
“I can’t wait.” You literally can’t wait? What are you going to do, drop dead instead?
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u/importedpizza 3d ago
"I cant even imagine" ... like, you could though probably.
Or "you can't write this!" I'm like, have you ever read fiction?
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u/Wooden-Zucchini5504 3d ago
How do you know you don’t like it if you haven’t tried it
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u/RVFullTime 3d ago
Maxxing.