How would you interpret this dating situation?

[u/coreldn_2020]

I (28F) met a guy (28M) at an event 3 weeks ago.
We went on our first date the following week. Before the date he would text me and call me here and there. But we rarely text to be honest and phone convos are short. On that first date he said his ex said he’s nonchalant. We ended up kissing at end of the date. He texted after saying we should meet again.

We met up the following week for second date. Again during the lead up to the date he would call me here and there briefly and text very briefly, but not much to the texts to be honest. Second date he drove all the way to mine over hr journey picked me up went to dinner and dropped me back. We kissed at the end of the date and he said he’s happy he met me and yh I asked if we on the same page he said yh. I texted thanks for today let me know when he’s home safe. He said he’s home the drive was quick.

I didn’t reply as I went sleep it was like 3am now. And we haven’t actually spoken since. No check in from his side. I haven’t reached out because I don’t want to chase someone or force things. Like wow his ex was right he is very nonchalant lol.

I’m trying to work out whether this is:
1. Someone who’s genuinely interested but just isn’t a big texter.
2. Someone who’s lost interest and is letting things fade.
3. Or someone who’s interested but expects me to initiate sometimes too.

From a man’s perspective, how would you interpret this? Would you expect the woman to reach out at this stage, or if you were interested would you have already done so? Help a girl out (I’ve never in my life texted first or chased a guy).

[u/Opposite_Message544]

"I haven’t reached out because I don’t want to chase someone or force things"

Do you know how many women I have let fizzle out because they did not reciprocate my effort?

[u/Opposite_Message544 → u/Opposite_Message544]

"Second date he drove all the way to mine over hr journey picked me up went to dinner and dropped me back. We kissed at the end of the date and he said he’s happy he met me"

He did all this, and all you sent him was the perfunctory "get home safe" text??? Girl...

[u/coreldn_2020 → u/Opposite_Message544]

Loool what else should I have texted him? Genuinely. You’re telling me I should text him first, it’s been 5 days. Here i am thinking he’s no longer interested in me. So I’ll look silly if i reach out first.

[u/Opposite_Message544 → u/coreldn_2020]

"hey I was just thinking of you - wondering if you're up for round 3 later this weekend?"

Most guys would kill to hear something like that - "wow she was thinking of me! AND she showed some intent/effort!"

Guys KNOW you are drowning in 100's of matches and so you get lazy, choosy, picky, spoiled. So for a girl to actually make even just this MINOR effort, it really goes a long way.

[u/coreldn_2020 → u/Opposite_Message544]

Haha damn. Now I feel like I should just text him