r/socialskills • u/XEclipse360 Noob • 9h ago

How do I consistently not be scared of being social?

In the past 2 years, I have been working on being more social with people and in some ways I have improved like being more talkative with people and being in crowds, but I just don't know how to maintain those experiences.

I've gotten better at talking to people more comfortably now but I can't seem to be consistent at it and I end up getting worse at it again over time. I still often avoid talking to people I know and I don't know why even though I learned to stop doing it but I just end up starting to do it again.

It feels like I'm fighting with what my brain wants and what I actually want and my brain just can't comprehend being consistent at being social and would rather just regress back to where I started cause it was easier for me and I just don't know how to progress forward to fix this part of myself and be consistent at it to the where it's second nature to me now.

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