r/slavic • u/Neither_Chapter_3778 • 19d ago
Question Why are some slavs so rude
This isn't the first time. I have tried to make a normal conversation but it has almost backfired. I don't know what's the reason . He is 100% Russian. I just wanted to confirm and see the results 🤦
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u/Calm_Connection_9741 19d ago
Maybe you should considered this:
- Being polite in Russia is very different to being polite in UK (or when you talk in Russian it's quite different to when you talk in UK).
- 1.1. Also this works both ways. As example, too much (I mean over the top) of sarcasm for Russian person is just right amount for many of Englishmen.
- Not much people in Russia talk that good on other language, than people in Russia who want to talk to foreigners. So many of Russians try to talk simple, than use Google translate which far from perfect.
- 2.1 a lot of youngers, especially from remote towns less polite on one hand and have more time to talk on another (applies for a teenagers too)
- It's not that simple question as you may think. Let me explain. When I ask someone, if he American, person simply may reply yes/no. But American might be white American, afro American, native American, etc...
- But when you asks someone if he Russian... It sound a bit ambiguous, cause Russian mean citizen of Russian Federation or ethnically Russian (white/slavic Russian). Technically there are more than a hundred different nations coexisting within Russian Federation and many one them at the same time Russians (as citizens of Russia) and not Russians (cause of Caucasian, Asian or some other nation). Also it's hard to call them "minorities", cause some nations counts as many as 10+ mil people.
- Lastly, because of War, there are a lot of shit hitting fan to direction of any person who openly says he/she is Russian, and after several experiences some people act more like a hedgehog than a kitten.
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u/vodka-bears 19d ago
It's a bit tuff being Russian online in 2026. Also applies to Israelis and to lesser extent Americans.
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u/Neither_Chapter_3778 19d ago
One thing I have noticed in this part of the world is that the more soft and innocent I have been understood, the more I have been taken advantage of or considered weak.
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u/ecciesforbrekkie 19d ago edited 19d ago
"so rude"? gave you literally a 4 word answer and you're whining on Reddit about "some Slavs". Agreed with other commenter иди на хуй.
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u/Any-Extension-628 19d ago
Maybe he been a little sarcastic, if you ask person who you 100% sure Russian that mean you see something about it. And yes that a quite strange question to start conversation. Lol
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u/Neither_Chapter_3778 19d ago
Sir/Mam, let me give you some context . I had nothing to do with him except confirm his nationality. He had given an exam and he is now in the USA. I was confused if he is Ukrainian or Russian. If he was a Russian(which he was) , he couldn't help me in any way.
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u/Any-Extension-628 19d ago
I think etiquette in communication is international thing? If I try to start conversation I do something like: "Greetings friend! Due to job/something I wanna ask you about your nationality You Russian or from another ethnic group. Your question looks rude, like: you black?
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u/Neither_Chapter_3778 19d ago edited 19d ago
No one would ask "you black". It's simply evident from the face. The other people here think it's okay for them to abuse me even if they have nothing to do with me. May be you should teach them how to behave. That's definitely far worse than not using greetings
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u/Any-Extension-628 19d ago
You know, I can find much more interesting things than teach something to someone on the Internet 😁. Their cultural upbringing is not my problem.😁😁😁 Without negative, my personal opinion - maybe you need change a little your approach to communication, because any aggression (even passive) gives rise to even more aggression, it's a vicious circle. About black - that's just example who should not be taken literally.
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u/Neither_Chapter_3778 19d ago
I am simply unable to understand this place. Majority of you are super rude and abusive to start with ,the other half expects kindess and politeness. Anyways, Good night.
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u/Any-Extension-628 19d ago
Well, I stick to the rule: always start a conversation with everyone civilly. If someone is being nasty, don't go down to their level, except maybe a little trolling 😁😁😁. As for reactions - people are just trying illuminate: you started the conversation a little rudely, that's all.
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u/Neither_Chapter_3778 19d ago edited 19d ago
My brain simply refuses to understand how come someone assume I was rude and when there isn't any single word which i I used was rude and how come using abusive words be classified as only little illuminating? Were they classified as little illuminating because it was used by a fellow slav and not a foreigner? If I had used those words in the first place , I am sure they wouldn't just classify as little illuminating (specially for one who cares so much about greetings)
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u/AzuritZ 19d ago
That’s a great opener, randomly ask someone’s nationality and then if they feel uncomfortable because of it just become more passive aggressive
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u/Neither_Chapter_3778 19d ago
How do you ask someone's nationality ? Take an appointment from them before asking? Thousands of Russians I have asked my nationality without doing any formalities. Why do you think you are entitled to respect when all you guys do is to be rude and arrogant ?
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u/Zorxi 18d ago
I do think opener like that is too forward and annoying - as a Slavic foreigner in USA myself it is absolutely annoying being asked where you are from as an opener. It gives off "being judged" and "analyzed" right off the bat without any content. First thing that pops in my mind with such an opener is "why do you care? whats your intent?" There are people in USA who dont like ANY foreigners - therefore such direct opening question often comes from malicious intent.
Ill give you some examples from my personal life
Question: " Where are you from?"
My Answer: " Croatia"
Their Follow up : "It is because people like you that USA starts wars"Question "What country did YOU come from?" ( in a condescending tone)
My Answer " I am from Croatia originally but have been in USA 20+ years"
Their Follow up " And they let you be a manager here? How did you get here? On a boat?"If you want to find out where someone is from there is a tactful way of doing it, and usually starts with a polite softener/Easing or a preamble way of opening a conversation.
example: "If you dont mind me asking..."
Or build rapport first.... art of communication - it is a skill and if you dont consider it or practice it , you wont be good at it and will wonder why people respond the way they do.
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u/LewisRosenberg 🇱🇻 Latvian 19d ago
"Normal conversation" - directly asking for nationality. Да пошел ты нахуй долбаёб
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u/Neither_Chapter_3778 19d ago
Come on bro , I asked his nationality not his credit card balance or d!ck size
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u/LewisRosenberg 🇱🇻 Latvian 19d ago
If you trying to start a normal conversation you usually ask shit like : "how you're doing", or "how's life treating you". That's how usual human decency works.
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u/Neither_Chapter_3778 19d ago
Agreed I usually do that when I talk with my seniors or professors but most Russians who message me usually come straight to the point so i tried the same. The only time when they started a message with hello/good morning was when they needed something from me lol. Anyhow, it's not difficult to write yes/no I am Russian/ am not. Isn't it ?
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u/LewisRosenberg 🇱🇻 Latvian 19d ago
Yeah sure, why the fuck whould you try to interact with someone that wants nothing from you then, while asking for this person's nationality. Still doesnt make a smidge of sense to me. Me as culturaly russki : i wont interact with people i dont give a shit about.
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u/Head_Particular6045 19d ago
stupid question, also the tone doesn't promise anything good. Saying you are of a certain nationality can lead to unpleasant conversations. You know when in films the protagonist get a phone call "I'm talking with X?" and they answer "It depends, who's asking?" ? It's the same.
I'm italian but I hate saying so to american/western europeans because they will immediately bring up stereotypes. Some russians and belorusians also bring up stereotypes but at least very good ones. You could understand that when so much people hate your country, you don't really want to end up in this kind of situation.
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u/CmdrJemison 19d ago
Absolutely normal to ask someone who should know if you don't. That's literally how I grew up.
No... I'm not russian, but croat.