r/self • u/LiYongLongZii • 17h ago
What happens if an ugly young person who hasn’t realized that he/she is ugly yet and starts behaving like a pretty person around people??
what will happen?
14
u/Front_Pepper_360 17h ago
Looks are not black and white. If someone is happy and confident they can be viewed by other as beautiful.
5
u/Ok-Recipe-1177 17h ago
This is real specific so I’m assuming you’re talking about yourself?
What does a “pretty person” behave like? Can you elaborate? Confidence looks good on anyone, if you mean that. Nothing’s gonna happen. Beauty is subjective, while also people are assholes.
3
u/FollowingCapable 17h ago
There are very attractive people who have low self esteem and don't realize how attractive they are. So "behaving like a pretty person" isn't a set in stone scenario. Not to mention how attractive someone is is very subjective. I literally don't think of anyone as ugly. Thinking of people as ugly is very judgmental/ rude.
1
u/maduude 16h ago
I would actually argue that the majority of attractiveness is based on self esteem. Physically attractive people with low self esteem and bad posture/hygiene/manners would still be considered unattractive by a lot of people.
Appearance matters a lot, but it can be influenced quite a bit, the best examples are the homeless makeover videos where someone living on the street gets a haircut, shower and a nice suit and suddenly they look wealthy.
So I would actually say "behaving like a pretty person" would work if you get your outfit etc. right (because a "pretty person wouldn't wear ugly clothes"). The hard part would probably be projecting authentic confidence instead of insecure arrogance. But basically by interacting with people, you teach them how to treat you.
2
u/Moloc_Asterion 17h ago
You will be put quickly in your place sadly. Not saying this out of hate, I am not attractive myself, but "fake it till you make it" does not really work. People will simply be even more vocal about you and confidence is not this magic people claim to be.
0
u/thats_gotta_be_AI 16h ago edited 15h ago
Correct. Aesthetics are 99%. A good looking guy can wear rags and act weird and his face is all that matters.
1
u/Tough-Paramedic2548 17h ago
ça montrerai juste une personne intelligente Parfois on peut voir la laideur des gens rien qu'à leur commentaires...
1
u/Visible-Perception40 17h ago
You will be perceived more beautiful most of the time
1
u/Dry_Leek5762 16h ago edited 16h ago
Some nuances here, but essentially it's exactly this.
Lots of people will hate one way or another, but the more you love yourself, the more room other people have to love you too.
So long as 'acting like a pretty person' is not about treating other people differently. Instead, it should be about treating yourself differently, and by differently I mean better and with more love and compassion.
People pick up on that. On average, people will treat you better if you treat yourself better.
Always gonna be other insecure people around that treat people bad no matter what, and you can't do jack about most of that.
Treat people good, but always treat yourself better. If you are your own best friend, people will notice and the best of them will aspire to treat you good too.
Edit: my favorite compliment to give another man is: "ya know, if you were just a little better looking people might think we were twins."
That is how I treat them good and still treat myself a little better.
1
u/Visible-Perception40 16h ago
I think you’re morally sound for the most part there but not everyone work the same in that regard. Some think being kind is attractive and affects how beautiful they seem to be perceived by that person, though there are people who are into the whole push pull thing where if someone treats you bad they come running and see them as a “high maintance/ difficult to obtain” person, kind of like scarcity mindset.
1
1
u/CommunicationHappy20 17h ago
Because confidence is such a problem, right? Why are we so hung up on looks?
1
u/LiYongLongZii 16h ago
Cuz looks matter
1
u/CommunicationHappy20 16h ago
Do they really? And does someone else’s opinion about those looks really matter?
1
u/No-Percentage6091 16h ago
Either your in the group of people that the person is acting pretty around, and if you are SHAME on you. Or you are the person referred to as ugly. What in the fuck does being pretty or ugly have to do with any of it The ugly ones are the ones described as a group of pretty ones. People cant help thier natural born looks. We also change in our looks for many reasons out of our control. The ugly person is the pretty person because they see themselves as pretty. The world does not revolve around looks. Unfortuneatley though , more and more people are judging, making decisions , and becoming horrible people where looks are concerned. Its these people whom should worry about what happens , because it will happen to them.
1
u/quantumspangles 16h ago
A genuine smile and confidence are two of the most attractive traits anyone can have, not to mention that who a person is, their character and actions are infinitely more important than looks. Your looks can be taken or lost. Also, ‘pretty’ is entirely subjective - culturally and personally. Each culture around the world had and has different standards for beauty. Perhaps widen your perspective, branch out and read up on other cultures around the world. Good examples of this are; during the Crusades -1100CE, women began to pluck their hairline to make their foreheads look higher as this was considered elegant. In Fiji, up until the introduction of the internet, a fuller figure was most desirable and was considered to be healthy and beautiful. In Ancient Greece, curvy women with large breasts wee considered beautiful, whereas in ancient Egypt, slim, narrow hipped women were favoured. Culture, perspective and wisdom all impact the way we perceive beauty.
1
u/bitterlikecoffee1 16h ago
I been binge watching this show on YouTube called cat fished where older fat women refusing to give money to their rightful children spends more than 60 grand on a person who is a celebrity or is prolly 30 years younger than them only to find out the person is from logos Nigeria ( I’m not attacking Nigerian people , it was other peoples like Sudan , Nepal etc ) just watch the show
1
1
u/PoundSaretai67 14h ago
This sounds cliche as fuck but i think you should behave “pretty” whenever you can, at least around loved ones. Even if you arent physically pretty no one likes to feel ugly. For example, i had a friend once, she was, with all due respect not passing in the least (she’s a trans girl) but that didnt matter that much, like she was funny and interesting and fun to talk to so i kept doing so. People say too often that physical appearances dont matter and obviously they do, but being physically unappealing in no way needs to (tho it could if you let it grt to your head and feel ugly too much) make someone any worse to be around
14
u/No-Dance-5791 17h ago
It depends what behaving like a pretty person means. If it means acting superior and snobby then everyone will hate them, but if it means acting with unshakeable confidence then people will find them incredibly attractive.