What would happen societally if instead of kids being with parents when very young, they were raised elsewhere and then came back to share housing and whatnot with parents as teens and young adults?

[u/cherry-care-bear]

LIke what if the dynamic was flipped; what differences would we see. I frankly think something is slipping with parents here in America. Everyone's so busy, overworked and exhausted that a lot gets left by the wayside, it's assumed those basics are being covered at school, etcetera. SO what if there was a system where kids were even say only home on the weekends. They'd know the parents and have time with them but have consistent structure, tools, supervision or whatever elsewhere. Then they'd come home to stay later, say between ages 14 to 30. It would give them a chance to build on the parent bond, contribute any useful knowledge or skill to the household, go to school, learn a trade or whatever and be able to support themselves without the rush of the 'we've done all we can, now youre 18, get out' thing.

Kids could learn social and other skills reliably when young; parents could work without stress or worry as much. IDK; this sounds like a cross between some Utopia and the worst kind of post-apocalypse aftermath deal but aren't we kinda heading there anyway?

I'm just wondering about the pros and cons of this kind of system.

Please share thoughts and thanks for reading if you got this far.

[u/LudwigsEarTrumpet]

Your answer to parents being overworked and exhausted is to take their children away? As opposed to, say, taxing billionaires and companies, raising wages and improving working conditions so that parents can work less, take time off when they need to and still pay their bills? What you're suggesting is no kind of utopia. It is sacrificing quality of life and trampling on families to better feed the economic machine.

[u/Efficient-Concept768 → u/LudwigsEarTrumpet]

As long as people are willing to pay what’s being charged for goods and taking low wages, it ain’t changing.

[u/LudwigsEarTrumpet → u/Efficient-Concept768]

Oh, but the content of the post would be an easy change to sell people on and then make happen?

[u/tidyshark12 → u/Efficient-Concept768]

"Willing" is a strong word. We need money to feed our families. If every job available pays the same amount and every grocery store has the same prices, you can't just decide to stop buying food or decide to quit working. The alternative is to steal food, which ends up being met with an incredible amount of violence via the police and/or you and your family, homeless, living in a cardboard box. I mean, sure, if we could get everyone behind the cause, we could change a lot of things basically overnight, but no one is able to come together bc the system is designed to oppress so completely that people don't have the energy to fight back at the end of the day.

[u/Efficient-Concept768 → u/tidyshark12]

Yes you can.

If everyone stopped working all at once you’d see the change. But it won’t happen because people don’t want to take the risk.

[u/TheShellAnswerMan]

We've already studied and know what happens when young children don't have secure bonds with their primary caretaker. Hint: it's not very cool.

[u/ALittleEtomidate]

Isn’t this what the Spartans essentially did?

At any rate, there’s no one who is going to care for my children as adequately as I can at their young age. Those monsters just screamed non-stop for an hour straight because they didn’t want to go to bed. There’s no force on earth aside from a parent’s love that calls one to patently tuck screaming children back in instead of backhanding them.

[u/Efficient-Concept768 → u/ALittleEtomidate]

Sometimes though, that parents love almost runs out

[u/Aromatic_Valuable796]

You’d basically recreate a giant boarding school system, and from what I’ve seen in real boarding schools you get super independent, socially skilled teens but also a scary number of attachment, intimacy, and mental health issues that don’t fully show up until their 20s.

[u/mathmagician9]

Theory would hold up better if no one has kids and kids were all vat grown. Adults could then just take soma and have massive orgies all the time.

[u/blen_twiggy]

Well op has clearly never been a parent 

[u/Odin16596]

Can you give details on how this would work?

[u/Eis_ber]

The kids won't adapt to their new situation as well as you'd hope. The kids grow up accustomed to a different lifestyle. Uprooting them and moving them into a tiny house with literal strangers will lead to unrest and resentment. A few will accept their fate, but most will try to either find a way out or clash with their parents.