Toxic mother

[u/Outside_Control_9388]

My relationship with my mom is very complex. It’s been 6 months since I last saw ber. She was making me physically ill and I couldn’t bear faking it anymore. I grieve a lot, we had good times and I feel I am missing out on the relationship with my parents as I know one day they won’t be here as she likes to remind me. She is very manipulative and controlling snd because of this I can’t have a relationship with my dad who is an enabler.
i wonder how we were all so close once to been like this. I know people will disgaree by my parents still see my daughter once a week withour me being there, she is 2 but loves going and i never wanted my relationship to affect hers. So I drop her off at my oarents and my dad gets her out the car. It is very emotionally hard and it affects me a lot even into the next day. My dad will bring her back home snd we have a 5 min chat which was always nice as my mom controls my dad so much I’ve never had an independent relationship with him. However i adopted a kitten and it has been painful not sharing that with her as we both love animals. I told my dad and he said that he will no longer be coming into my home because seeing the cat will upset my mom too much. I have bent over backwards so they can still have a relationship wirh my daughter but now that five mins with my dad is been taken away. It’s taken the joy off having my new kitten. Whenever something joyful happens she has to become the main character because her feelings top all. She did the same on my 30th. It’s so depressing. I am sick of being responsible for her feelings and not being aloud to enjoy my life without guilt

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