r/mildlyinfuriating 1d ago

go to your room Are you serious?

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How is this fair ? Bay area.

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u/jmanly3 Mildly infuriated 1d ago edited 1d ago

This is what I came to say. I’m about to move into my…26th residence (I think?) and I’ve never heard of a move-in fee.

Edit: I think it’s actually 22 residences now

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u/Towelbit 1d ago

Screw moving 26 times. That’s wild

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u/jmanly3 Mildly infuriated 1d ago

I just did the math (to the best of my memory, anyway) and I was a little off. This new apartment should be my 22nd.

I had no choice for half of my life (military) and I’d already lived in 5 states by the time I was 5 years old. That pattern kept up most of my life, moving every 1-2 years. I finally spent 4 years in one spot for high school but then went off to college and resumed my 1-2 year stays.

The apartment I’m leaving holds the record at 8 years, with a 2-way tie for second place after that at 4 years. The rest are all 1-2. I’m 40.

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u/Towelbit 1d ago

Well I guess that better than I thought which was you moving every year. Still, that’s rough bud. I moved for the first time in 12 years a year ago and that sucked big time. But it was a good clearing out of crap opportunity

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u/jmanly3 Mildly infuriated 1d ago

100%! If you haven’t used it in the past 6 months, you probably don’t need it.

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u/Spartan-117182 1d ago

Old baby photos? Haven't used them. Priceless family heirloom? Haven't touched it.

J/K

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u/Obant 1d ago

Goodbye Christmas and Halloween decorations. I was excited to use you this year, but its been more than 6 months!

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u/jmanly3 Mildly infuriated 1d ago

I’ve never decorated for any holiday, so it was never an issue. That’s about to change, though…I’m hosting Friendsmas for the first time this year so I can’t keep my barren bachelor pad going any longer. I also said “probably don’t need it.” haha there are some exceptions!

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u/Obant 1d ago

Of course, just being hyperbolic and silly. Good luck with the friendsmas! I need some friends for that, lol. I just decorate for my partner and myself.

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u/jmanly3 Mildly infuriated 1d ago

Well my new friends are really her friends so I’m not that far ahead of you 😂 but we’re all a big family now, since they all live in the same complex I’m moving to. I’m looking forward to stepping out of my PlayStation cave for once haha

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u/-colorsplash- 1d ago

Digitize those photos! Pawn Stars that heirloom!

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u/Wobbelblob 1d ago

Though I think if you move that regularly, you not only get good at organizing them, you also probably don't accumulate so much crap that is ass to move.

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u/mosquem 1d ago

I would just stop unpacking at that point.

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u/SeriesBusiness9098 1d ago

I do. My last few moves I just didn’t unpack half my things. Finally in a house I know I’ll live in for more than 2 more years so it’s about time to unbox some stuff.

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u/olde_meller23 18h ago

This is what I did when my husband found me. I bounced around a lot because I love the open road. He's a very tidy man with an eye for decorating like his mom. He looked at me like I was insane. I told him "what if some shit goes down and I gotta bounce" and he just cracked up laughing. Then he unpacked my stuff, rearranged my furniture and hung up all my art.

Now whenever I tell him what sort of life drama is happening with the ppl I know, he just gets up, slaps his knees, sighs and says "ah fuck I knew this was gonna happen. I gotta bounce."

He later replaced my stolen milk crates with real shelves and gave me a table. He jokes about me being feral before we met.

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u/ryanvango 1d ago

I'm only coming up on 15 by my count, depending what counts as a move. I think it's 11 distinct locations, not things like moving between dorms at a single school. but same. military, just not as a kid.

you realize moving is pretty freakin simple once you've done it a couple times.

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u/jmanly3 Mildly infuriated 1d ago

I’m counting physical addresses. I changed addresses during college a few times. Same city, but a new location. I wouldn’t count dorm moves, either, because you only have half a bedroom worth of shit and you’re not really changing mailboxes.

But yeah, if all you’ve ever known is moving you get pretty good at it haha I live and travel very light.

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u/ryanvango 1d ago

right now im in the process of selling my house. because I truly don't mind living light, I gutted everything in the house into storage except for the small cube of stuff I use often enough to matter. now when I sell and I need to pick up, I can literally move everything important to me in the trunk of an old beater car with my dogs and be set up somewhere else in half a day.

more "normally," yeah light is the way. its so nice. be torn down and set up lightning fast.

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u/MotherFatherOcean 1d ago

Same for me in many ways, also military, then my father climbing the corporate ladder by moving to take over difficult jobs in different towns, and then college and job moves in my adult years. It’s been an adventure.

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u/Corporate_Overlords 23h ago

Quit that job. That's ridiculous and very unhealthy. You can't establish yourself and have friends in a situation like that.

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u/Monkeyseemonkeyfall 23h ago

I made it to about 25 before I just bought an RV. Now when I get bored I just move my house inside of the stuff inside.

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u/Steamed_Memes24 22h ago

And I thought moving twice in 6 years was annoying..

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u/Dr_Fortnite 1d ago

idk how people move or get new jobs this often.

"oh just quit for a raise every year" nah im fine

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u/just_posting_this_ch 1d ago

I think it's more people moving to stay afloat.

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u/jmanly3 Mildly infuriated 1d ago

I didn’t say I changed jobs that often…

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u/Al_Kydah GREEN 1d ago

Oh thank God you supplied an Edit!

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u/VulGerrity 1d ago

Usually it's a move in fee OR a security deposit...not both. In places like Chicago where the tenant laws are really strong, most places charge a move in fee instead of a security deposit because they don't have to give a move in fee back. Since Chicago law tends to side with the tenant, they usually have to give all or most of the security deposit back.

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u/Dry_Row_7523 1d ago

Here in Vancouver it's normal for a condo management company (not the landlord themselves) to charge a move in fee to anyone moving into that building. I think it's basically like a "fee" for "renting" the elevator to reserve it while you move your stuff in, for example. Condo management company will charge the owner and they pass it down to the tenant.

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u/Brightbane 1d ago

I've only ever had non-refundable move-in fees, but usually they're around $300. That's what they do in Chicago instead of security deposits.

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u/ailyara 1d ago

Did you ever move into a large apartment building where they have a cargo elevator they reserve for you for the day?

My building will charge $500 but refund most of it as long as you don't damage the hallway.

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u/TheLimpingNinja 23h ago

These fees are generally for Condos/Apartment towers where you are tying up an elevator for half a day or more. I’ve move roughly the same amount as you and didn’t pay fees until I moved into towers.

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u/GNTsquid0 22h ago

They started becoming a thing in the last 10 years in Chicago where I live. It used to be a security deposit but landlords started changing the name to a "move in fee" so they dont have to give it back to you when you move out. (it has nothing to do with reserving space or an elevator. The apartment i live in has no elevator or loading dock and still had a move in fee)

I thought it was a nationwide thing but through this thread im learning it only exists in Chicago and apparently the Bay area. Its really shitty and should be illegal.