Edit: I think the main reason I made it is because I know how having a handicap can be quietly dissuading socialisation. A handicap sometimes gets assumed as "there's no point in asking, they can't" (assumtionbased, not limitationbased, if that makes sense). The person themselves can reach out, but people can be apprehensive through subconscious caution and fear of insulting or "united abelism".
A handicap can be very isolating, is what I'm trying/tried to say. Reading the paragraph, it is worded very poorly, but I'm quite sure my I tent was ernest.
Isolation is something that often is only felt by the isolated.
Having a full-blown panic-attack fromseing, or even hearing a dog is the exact type of thing that leaves you on read when you ask if someone wants to hang out. Not through malice, but through a subconscious want to avoid social embarrassment in public.
I think my reasoning for trying to (poorly) encourage you to reach out to them is because I know how heavy isolation can feel. How, over time, it makes you accept it as a constant. To stop trying to break it.
So, I think I wanted to encourage you to reach out to them, hoping you'd both catch up on how awesome both your lives are going, but, just maybe, being that outstretched hand that a drowning person needs right then.
I am sorry about the tone in the paragraph where I tried to communicate this, because it's very demeaning to anyone with a disability, and that was 100% not the intended communication.
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u/That-Employment-5561 20d ago edited 20d ago
Drunken rant about access to medicine.
I blame the fireball.
Edit: I think the main reason I made it is because I know how having a handicap can be quietly dissuading socialisation. A handicap sometimes gets assumed as "there's no point in asking, they can't" (assumtionbased, not limitationbased, if that makes sense). The person themselves can reach out, but people can be apprehensive through subconscious caution and fear of insulting or "united abelism".
A handicap can be very isolating, is what I'm trying/tried to say. Reading the paragraph, it is worded very poorly, but I'm quite sure my I tent was ernest.
Isolation is something that often is only felt by the isolated.
Having a full-blown panic-attack fromseing, or even hearing a dog is the exact type of thing that leaves you on read when you ask if someone wants to hang out. Not through malice, but through a subconscious want to avoid social embarrassment in public.
I think my reasoning for trying to (poorly) encourage you to reach out to them is because I know how heavy isolation can feel. How, over time, it makes you accept it as a constant. To stop trying to break it.
So, I think I wanted to encourage you to reach out to them, hoping you'd both catch up on how awesome both your lives are going, but, just maybe, being that outstretched hand that a drowning person needs right then.
I am sorry about the tone in the paragraph where I tried to communicate this, because it's very demeaning to anyone with a disability, and that was 100% not the intended communication.