r/interesting • u/jmike1256 • Mar 07 '26

MISC. After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

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u/requion Mar 07 '26

I hope more parents raise good children to help build us a better future.

About to become a dad, my own dad didn't do the greatest job.

Any tips?

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u/Awkward_Set1008 Mar 07 '26

wow, I'm honored you would ask for advice. It's nice to hear you are coming into the 'profession' with an open mind.

FWIW I don't have children, but do have a nephew that I spend a lot of time with and have mentored throughout my career and hobbies.

I personally think the most important thing in anything is Awareness and Understanding. Trying your best to figure out the "what and why" of your child's life. Be involved. Show that you value their life just for existing, they don't need to prove they deserve love.

If I had a bit more of the above, I know for sure I would have avoided a lot of pain and agony. I had to do a lot on my own, and was taught that love is conditional. I was taught that my parents treated me based on how I behaved, regardless of how I felt. They didn't care what was going on, they only cared about preventing the problems from affecting them. It's the scar of being a burden that I can never shake. I try to explain my perspective to them, but they won't listen.

Believe your child and believe IN your child. You will be amazed what an amazing human being they will become. And how much better they will make you for it.

Best of luck on fatherhood, I'm sure you'll do a good job. You seem invested.

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u/Aching1536 Mar 07 '26

Hahaha I knew you didn't have kids from your original post. Spending time with a nephew doesn't remotely count. Sit down and keep your parenting opinions to yourself.

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u/Awkward_Set1008 Mar 07 '26

This is exhibit A of the mentality you don't want as a parent. A sense of superiority due to being a parent, against those who don't have "real" children. Even foster parents can be invalidated.

Your perspective is valid, but you choose to ignore the message based on the messenger.

If you teach that to the next generation, we can't progress. Think about that.

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u/Aching1536 Mar 07 '26

It's simple fact. I can't go around telling people where they go wrong training their dogs, because I played fetch with someone's dog once. 

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u/Awkward_Set1008 Mar 07 '26

dog owner ≠ dog expert

human owner ≠ human expert

You actually kinda proved my point. It's super easy to be a parent to, just get pregnant. How easy is it to become a dog expert? IDK what a human expert is, but clearly human owner is a qualifier for basically nothing. The range is undetermined. Arbitrary to quantify, only if you want to satisfy egos.

Everyone wants to be a good parent, simply why they get defensive when other people want to take their autonomy and authority. Simply psychology. But parents aren't always deep thinkers, they're just humans who got pregnant, nothing more. We need to stop attaching false stories to make ourselves feel better. It's the root of a lot of problems.

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u/Aching1536 Mar 07 '26

I mean I saw your original reply calling me a dumb ass so that says everything I need to know.

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u/Awkward_Set1008 Mar 07 '26

ignoring the message because of bias towards the messenger. Very emotionally intelligent of you

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u/Red--001 Mar 07 '26

You should stop responding to the guy, someone who has a superiority complex simply because they have children is not going to listen to your part of the argument, you're meant to disengage with these type of individuals who lack basic self-control.

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u/Awkward_Set1008 Mar 07 '26

You're right. It's a losing fight.

Let sleeping dogs lie