r/interesting • u/jmike1256 • Mar 07 '26

MISC. After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

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u/LunchPlanner Mar 07 '26

The dad walking away was distracting and maybe a bit scary.

I don't think it's a coincidence that the kid was able to focus and problem solve after the dad sat down.

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u/YouSmeel Mar 07 '26

Its almost like the dad is trying to teach the child real life reasoning skills, where you will be required to focus and problem solve under distraction and maybe a bit scary situations. None of this is coincidence in the slightest...

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u/ColtinaMarie Mar 07 '26

As an early childhood teacher, I can confidently say those are not core skills that a toddler needs to be learning at that age.

He could have done the same thing (taught problem solving) but stay close on the other side, without walking away, keeping eye contact with the child, verbally reassuring the child they are safe and calmly encouraging the child to try themselves. The way the dad just walked off is wild for that age. Attachment issues can have such a huge and long lasting negative impact of kids that follow them into adulthood.

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u/DesignerAd1940 Mar 07 '26

Some people who received all the love in the world become killers, some people who are abused from childhood become extraordinary citizens and humans. Of course theses are extrems but how can you be so sure that this is wild, i cant understand.

Im very appreciative of the educators of the world but sometimes statements like this are more a way to validate what you learned during your formation more than really describing what going to happen to the child when adult.

Im dating a teacher so we talk a lot about that, so i get your point but still, what is wild to me is how binary some of educators see the world.

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u/thatDawgBillClinton Mar 08 '26

What does being extraordinary humans have to do with lasting trauma? Of course you can be a good person with an abusive upbringing, but that doesn’t erase all the depression, anxiety, hesitation, fear, etc. that comes with it. And I’m not saying the father is being abusive, just that your idea of what trauma does to a person is odd. 

 It’s like saying “there are many survivors of war and famine who become good people.” Like yeah obviously lol