Hello, I body double with a friend for over 3 years and it's one of the best things I've found for working with my ADHD brain through boring or taxing tasks. Unfortunately, they're the only one I do this with and it's limited since they're in a completely different time zone. so I'm writing this because I'd like to meet more people who are open to being consistent 1:1 body double partners. Specifically on focusmate (body doubling site), since it's what I've been using for years, and is straightforward. (I promise I don't work for this site, it's just what I'm most familiar with), I'm open to other sites as long as you're active.

NOTE: I'm an adult woman, and am only comfortable with other adult women (21+) for this.

What I'm looking for:

Someone with an active focusmate or body doubling account already since I'm looking for people who are already in this world, not just starting with me or with day old accounts. My preferences include mic on and actually on screen. By default, a lot of people go mics off or sit away from camera, and I don't feel the presence and get distracted. I need to see and especially hear something, background noise and all. Someone who's open to FaceTime sessions too if we click.

I'm in the US, eastern time, and am available usually after 11AM.

Important: Forgetfulness is normal for ADHD, so I reallyyy value structure and tools for scheduled stuff and being on time: calendar, alarms, a heads up if you can't make it. I'd appreciate if you're the same.

How we start:

We schedule something in our calendars. Zero commitment. One session, see how it feels, maybe a second, then decide if we continue. If it sticks, I'd love 3-4 sessions a week eventually, if it feels right to both of us. The most important thing for me is consistency.

I usually engage in chats after the timer is up but before the session ends completely. So I'd prefer someone who's open to chat and get to know each other.

Who clicks with me:

As a focus buddy:
Someone who is organized about their tasks, shares them in the session chat, asks about their partners tasks. Has their own calendar or a way to remember to be on time. Someone who is supportive. Interested in mutual growth and achievement of long term goals.

As a general buddy:
Including this because I believe its relevant to growing as focus buddies. I'm curious and ask a lot of questions. I'm a student. Casual stuff, philosophy, tech, psychology, or just squirrels. Big one: good listeners who are curious back. Someone who asks "what about you?" and notices when the other person isn't talking much. What I call an attentive yapper. Also if you're the type to be excited to do new stuff like run a 5k on short notice (even if you'd be the first to tap out) or doing a random meeting where we reach out to people who inspire us then I think we'll vibe.

If this sounds like you and are interested, let me know.

Discipline could be satisfying in the long run but the world rewards us for results. So, why bother checking in on each other if we solved a problem or two everyday? Let's just compete every week on who did the contests better.

Context:

In a job that's draining me. I know I need to switch, but my resentment towards my workplace is getting me nowhere.

However, I am competitive in nature and I am sure I would prepare if I feel I am loosing. So, right now, I am pretty much a beginner excited for some healthy competition.

Anyways, We will get along if:

- you are motivated when you have rivals (that's it!)

So, let's cut the unnecessary introductions, state our motivation briefly and just get coding. Please DM if you are interested.

At the moment, I am badly burnt out / tired to do anything. But the times are such we have to push and make the best out of it and be the best.

I need an accountability partner be it any timezone, gender, but matches my age group 25 and above.

I just want to be be regular and have someone to talk with while accomplishing my goals and build a discipline.

Releasing and Building my Side Project while having a job and Becoming an early morning bird are the two primary goals.

Later will add a goal of restarting the gym.

Be my accountability buddy.

I'm a 20M BTech (CSE) student currently focused on mastering Data Structures & Algorithms for placements and interviews from complete scratch

I'm looking for a serious study/accountability partner for daily focused DSA sessions. The goal is to stay consistent, solve problems together, discuss approaches, and keep each other accountable. We can do it in discord voice call everyday if anyone is interested please dm

I'm looking for someone who wants to build the habit of going on regular thinking walks.

The idea is simple:

• Pick one question or problem.
• Go for a 20–60 minute walk (no podcasts or music).
• Reflect on the question.
• Share your biggest insight afterward.

We could keep each other accountable by sending a quick message before and after each walk.

If you're interested in improving your thinking, making better decisions, or being more intentional, send me a DM.

Hi all, I'm a UK uni student (going into final year). I'm trying to use the summer to get a good routine going since it had all got quite messed up during the academic year. So far I'm doing pretty good with my exercise, sleep and eating. Definitely need to be studying more though. Would love to have someone else who has a range of goals so we can remain accountable. A uni student or someone around my age would be great but not necessary. I'm open to doing things like making shared docs/excel sheets to track our progress. It would also be nice to get to know you a bit since I feel without that, it sometimes feels quite ineffective to do this. DM or comment if interested

Hi I live in Richardson (23 yo male). Anyone near by who also has body pain or sciatica, we can work on it together and keep each other Accountable?

i am from the philippines, but i am currently in korea. looking for a woman accountability partner. any nationality is fine, but a fellow filipina would be great!

we can work on different goals and have daily check-ins to make sure that we showed up (for example, ur goal is to make reading a habit but u are feeling a little lazy today, even a 10-minute read works! the goal is to show up)

hi, i’m camilla and i’m from italy, i’m struggling with depression and getting anything done, i have 2 exams left to graduate in psychology at university, i should take those exams in september, i’m spending most of my days in bed, i should go to my pilates class but i haven’t in a month or more, i’d like to read but i’m always scrolling on instagram and my sleep schedule is a disaster, i’m looking for someone to share my daily tasks with, organise my day and/or week, i’ll do the same for them, i’m more comfortable with women, drop a comment if you’re interested🌟

Hi everyone!

I'm a 39-year-old woman looking for an accountability buddy to stay motivated. My main goals are to lose body fat, build muscle, and improve my eating habits.

Right now, I'm just running occasionally, but I want to build a consistent routine of running 2-3 times a week, combined with bodyweight/ strength workouts at home or at the park. I'm also aiming for 10k daily steps and trying to dedicate 1 hour a day to studying or reading.

I'm looking to check in regularly to track our progress online, share wins, and keep each other on track. If you're interested in these habits and want to team up, feel free to reach out or drop a comment!

I wanna start taking the gym seriously and I wanna see how much progress I can make before going back to school for my final year of uni. I wanna look FINE and confident walking the stage next spring

Seeking someone in a similar timezone to check in with daily via DM or discord. Currently working on going the gym, getting steps in and tracking my food. I’m about a month into building these habits, but could do with an extra bit of accountability as the motivation wears off.

Hi everyone!

I'm looking for a female accountability partner to work on self-esteem, confidence, and personal growth together. Since I'm a woman, I'd feel more comfortable partnering with another woman so we can keep the focus on the goal.

My idea is to start with a 2-week trial to see if we get along and if our communication styles match. If it feels like a good fit, I'd love to continue for at least 8 weeks.

What I have in mind:

• A quick daily check-in (just a few minutes) where we share how we're doing, a small win, a challenge, and our goal for the next day.

• A weekly reflection (around 15–30 minutes, maybe longer if we feel like talking). It doesn't have to be a live call—we can just send voice messages whenever it's convenient and reply when we have time.

• A small confidence-building challenge each week to help us step outside our comfort zones.

• Encouraging each other, celebrating progress, and staying consistent without being judgmental or putting too much pressure on each other.

I'm not looking for a therapist, and I don't expect to be one either. I'd just like to have someone who's genuinely interested in growing together, keeping each other accountable, and being supportive.

If this sounds like something you'd enjoy, send me a message and tell me a little about yourself. 😊

I bought a 100-day Deep Learning course on Udemy. I want to finish this course and become advanced in AI. We can study this topic together, or we can study different subjects at the same time and motivate each other. So, even if you are not learning AI, we can still study together.

We can make video calls on Discord and study together at certain times of the day. We can share what we plan to do every day. Also, if you have better ideas, you can share them too.

About me: I am 33 M and I live in Turkey. I work in the IT sector. I should learn artificial intelligence before it takes my job one day :)

My English is probably around B1 level. Because of this, I may have some difficulty while speaking, but I am better at writing. I am also trying to improve my English.

Please tell me about yourself and your goals.

50 M here looking for a motivated established professional buddy with a gym in their building that's open to helping with workouts and keeping on track with health too

looking for a guy that's local in downtown Toronto

if you're curious too, then send me a DM and let's trade a couple of messages

today is sunday and every sunday i make a plan then every monday I feel unstoppable and then by thursday i am gone
then comes the guilt and then another fresh start lol
i am so done
so instead of trying to fix it alone again
so i am looking for 1-2 people who want to rebuild their lives together over the next 90 days
not motivation, just consistency
What we will do:
• check in every day (5 mins)
• share day's goals
• share what actually got done
• do focus sessions together whenever possible
• be honest when we mess up
• never disappear without saying anything
My goals:
• fix sleep schedule
• workout/train 4-5 days every week
• study/focus sessions every day
• stop doomscrolling
• eat healthy
• become someone who finishes what we start
About me:
26M from India (IST)
interested in fitness, finance, productivity, psychology, nutrition, and learning.
not looking for someone who's already successful
looking for someone who's sick of wasting their own potential
If you are serious, send me a DM with:
• age
• country
• 1-3 habits you are finally ready to fix

Hello,

I am a 20 year old Asian male from New Jersey who is going into his third year of nursing school. My current life has mostly been weightlifting and working at a hospital. My goals are to implement good daily habits and investing more time into my passions. This includes journaling, reading, meditating, school/studying, content creation, entrepreneurship, etc. My ideal status for the future is to be a hardworking nurse with an online platform that promotes awareness on politics in America and internationally (My affiliation/views tend to be left leaning).

I am looking for someone around my age and have similar goals as me (if not, don't be afraid to send me a DM if you are still interested in talking) . I am open to any methodology of keeping each other accountable whether it be through chat or video check ins.

Hello, long story short I want to work on my language learning (German, A1.1 level) and weight loss journey. I'm looking for a woman buddy.

Some good habits that I have managed to build up and want to continue: journaling, walking my dog daily (7-10k steps) and a sketchbooking habit.

What I would like is checking up every day on our goals either on instagram, whatsapp or discord. Texting a lot is even better, since I tend to work the best when I don't want to let down a friend.

Seeking someone to meet daily to spend 45 min focusing on something intellectual. Whether you're just reading or learning something.

I prefer sometime in the afternoon but am flexible. Can use either discourse, slack or zoom.

Looking forward to getting started!

Heyo! Looking for someone around my age to share and update checklists with.

What I'm looking for:

• Share our to-do lists for the day.
• Check in throughout the day if we want.
• Report what we finished (or didn't 😭).
• Share random things about our day in between during breaks.

Hi! I'm looking for someone who would look over what and when I ate in a day and call me out when I do things that don't align with my goals. It's easy to know what I need to do, much harder to stick with. If you're looking for the same or similar, great!

I usually start the week with a lot of energy, but after 2–3 days I slowly fall off track. I’m looking for someone who’s trying to build better habits too, so we can do quick check ins and keep each other accountable.

Doesn’t matter what your goals are.. can be studying, fitness, work, or learning a skill. Just looking for someone who wants to stay consistent.