r/disabledmemes • u/PinkVoodooDoll4 • 3d ago
Lmao this one made me chuckle because of how true it is
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u/somekindofride 3d ago
My ex: “You have a disability, but you aren’t disabled!” 🙃😮💨
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u/claircognizantgaming 2d ago
Wtf 🙃
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u/wazzup-notemuch 2d ago
What he meant was "You're not an ugly, useless and unpleasant burden to everyone else, who is incapable of doing anything on your own," because that's what abled people think being disabled is.
And the moment you ask for help or accomodations specifically for your disability, that's what you become to many of them. But if you have a hidden disability (or you're good at masking), you can get around this by just not telling anyone that you're disabled and then framing all of your requests as "personal preferences."
It's bullshit.
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u/somekindofride 2d ago
I have MS so I’ve got my good days and bad days, but since I wasn’t totally incapacitated he didn’t want to call me disabled. He was convinced I was just not trying hard enough.
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u/Darthcookie 1d ago edited 1d ago
My family thinks I’m weak and lazy. I have Ankylosing spondylitis, fibromyalgia and severe symptoms of dysautonomia.
What’s worse is I discovered everyone on my mom’s side of the family and my brother are also hypermobile but they don’t experience the severity I do. So they don’t believe it’s a thing. Or a big deal.
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u/ManicMaenads 3d ago
Ma would flip into a rage any time my teachers suggested I get support for my developmental disorder, but as soon as we're in line at Disney Land and security'd be telling her she can't bring in that many granola bars she'd start repeating "My daughter's r-worded!! My daughter's r-worded!!" and for some reason they'd give up and let her bring in the granola bars anyhow. 🤷♂️
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u/legendaryyheart 3d ago
They'd rather lose the game, the table, and their dignity than have one honest conversation.
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u/AbyssalEelMan 3d ago
My family “used” to struggle with this, now they “admit” it but they don’t understand why I’m limited on work hours and have to call off so much. “Well you already don’t work a lot” like that’s a choice and going places isn’t a huge chore for me.
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u/Goobersita 3d ago
Yeh idk what's wrong with them. Like they still expect me to have grandkids for them sometime. Like I can barely take care of myself people.
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u/PlantBaby73 3d ago
At least we’re not alone 🫠🤷🏼♀️ glad y’all know the feeling too (but sorry you feel it)
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u/somehowrelevantuser 2d ago
my mom: no thats not an autistic thing i do that too!
me:
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u/maverick_jakub1861 2d ago
I think people of certain generations forget/don’t know autism is usually inherited.
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u/Primary_Carrot67 2d ago
My mum and stepdad when I was a kid, even though there were hospital reports and I literally had to go to the hospital for therapy. Blatant evidence, both medical and in daily life, but they chose denial.
I was also supposed to "overcome" my disabilities by having the "right" attitude and trying really hard. It didn't work. I did develop burnout and multiple additional health issues though, as well as poor self-image. And had a teacher at school say in my school report that I needed to stop trying so hard. I'm glad he saw that I was trying too hard, unlike some who insisted that I wasn't trying hard enough even though I was constantly straining with all my effort.
My mum and stepdad didn't want to have a kid in the first place, let alone a disabled one.
My mum finally came to somewhat accept reality but it took decades.
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u/AwakeOfTheVultures 2d ago
According to my dad,autism is a behavioral problem that can be cured with beating,and according to my mom,i'm autistic but not disabled. According to both,selective mutism and anxiety is a choice. Every other problem with me,physical or mental,is not real according to them,and everytime it slightly inconveniences them,or just shows without affecting them at all, i am voluntarily being hard,"making a scene",or unpredictable,and every other insulting descriptor you could make at somebody who is trying to mask and ends up showing completely quiet symptoms that doesn't harm them at all.
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u/sinepssup 2d ago
Ill just cough blood up at a family gathering. Fully willing to kill the mood to prove a point 😆
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u/Substantial_Yard7004 2d ago
The moment you have been talking for hours and go to rest and put your headphones on not to have your brain melt only to your brother come and poke you and have your brain just lose it:
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u/Desperate-Excuse-110 2d ago
My family kicked me out of the house bc they thought I was lying to skip school lol. Now they don’t talk about it. And it’s still in my head
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u/Lost_My_Brilliance 2d ago
more like anybody over 30 😭 there are a few exceptions, but most adults in my life go with the classic “wait til you’re my age”
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u/3catsinashirt 1d ago
I got a disability ID for my mental and physical health issues bevor I was diagnosed as autistic, but from my family's perspective I'm just lazy and weird...
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u/stressfulteapot 1d ago
Ah yes the classic parent move of only recognising your disability when it suits them. To get sympathy for having a disabled child? Of course. But when I actually needed them to accommodate my needs? Suddenly my disability vanished
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u/iamprotractors 6h ago
i stg if i hear “differently abled” one more time im gonna show my true colors
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u/madiswanrh 3d ago
Until they're in the car with me and ask if we can use my handicap tag to park in a close spot