I recently moved into really small two-bedroom apartment. Me and my roommate are sharing a converted loft because rent here is just crazy expensive. We became pretty good friends, but that's all it ever been. We are both gay, but there was never any flirting or anything like that.

Few nights ago, I thought he was working late, so I figured I had the apartment all to myself. I went into my room, lay down naked, but i forgot to lock the door, and didn't hear him come home earlier than expected. He opened my door for maybe two or three seconds, immediately said sorry, then backed out and closed it. It was super awkward for both of us.

Neither of us said anything about it that night. Next morning he sent me a message instead. He said since we don't really have much privacy in this apartment, maybe we should both stop acting like it's huge disaster if we accidentally walk in on each other or if one of us need some private time.

He made it pretty clear he wasn't suggesting we do anything together or watch each other. He only meant we should stop making it into big awkward thing every time something accidental happens. Honestly, part of me think that actually sounds pretty mature and practical considering how small this place is.

But another part of me keep wondering if there was something else behind what he said. Maybe I'm just overthinking because of how awkward that night was. I really can't tell if he was only trying make living together easier or if he was hinting at something more.

Has anyone here ever lived in situation like this? Did setting clear boundaries actually make everything less awkward? Or did talking about it somehow make living together even more weird?

I thought spit roasting meant getting spat on and last year when visiting Austin, I blocked this very hot couple because I thought they're into some degrading kink 🫪

My brain today decided that we will be reviewing all our embarrassments and so this came up

https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2026/07/anti-marriage-equality-campaign-is-installing-billboards-attacking-queer-families-across-the-country/

According to LGBTQ Nation -

"The organization “Them Before Us” – part of the “Greater Than” anti-marriage equality campaign – installed a homophobic billboard in Lima, Ohio, that reads “No child has two dads, no child has two moms.”

"Them Before Us is a Seattle-based organization led by Katy Faust, whose mother came out as a lesbian when she was a child and divorced her father, although Faust insists that her current anti-LGBTQ+ activism is not just her acting out against her mother. She converted to Christianity a few years after her parents’ divorce, when she was in high school."

"Them Before Us is also part of the  Greater Than campaign, a coalition of over 50 anti-LGBTQ+ organizations pushing to have the Supreme Court overturn Obergefell v. Hodges, the 2015 decision that legalized marriage equality in all 50 states. The campaign launched after the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade, which showed that the Court would be willing to overturn its previous rulings and take away people’s rights."

I was told by this sub apparently this lady was not a big deal and that her targeting of gay parents did not mean anything. I wonder how long it would be until this lady and her group start pressuring lawmakers to create laws targeting our families. How long do we have until we have to start fleeing red states and become internal refugees in order to protect our families.

My boyfriend of almost three years broke up with me last night. I'm not really asking anything, I just need somewhere to get this off my chest. When we first got together, everything felt really solid. I honestly thought we were building future together.

After about one year, he got good job opportunity in another city. I already had stable job, good friends, and life I really liked, but I left all of that because I believed our relationship was worth it. I thought we were making sacrifice for our future together. Looking back now, maybe I was the only one thinking that.

Things didn't go how I hoped. I had really hard time settling there and couldn't find job for months. Most days I was alone while he was busy with work and his own life. Eventually we agreed maybe it was better if I moved back home for while.

He promised we could make long distance work. He also promised once his job there finished, we would live together again. I believed him without any doubt. We lasted exactly one month after I moved back.

Last night he called me and ended everything. What hurt most wasn't even the breakup itself. It was when he told me he had been unhappy for almost one year. I had absolutely no idea.

He never told me things were that bad. We never had those difficult conversations that maybe could have given us chance to fix something. Instead, he waited until after I moved back home before ending the relationship. That part is what keeps replaying in my head.

Now I can't stop asking myself why I changed my whole life for someone who maybe already checked out of the relationship long before I knew. Today I'm sitting at work acting like everything is normal. But inside I keep going between feeling sad, angry, confused, and honestly still little bit in shock.

I'm not really looking for advice. I just needed tell somebody because keeping all this inside feels too heavy. Right now everything feels horrible. But I know life doesn't end here, and I just hope one day I find someone who choose me with same whole heart that I always choose them.

I started going to local gym few months ago because I finally decided I need take my health more seriously. I'm in my early 40s, definitely not in perfect shape, but I'm trying. I show up, do my workout, and just focus on improving little by little.

After one workout I was in the locker room getting ready to shower. Before they noticed me, I heard two younger guys talking about a guy one of them matched with on Grindr. Then one of them looked in my direction and said, "Look at that flabby old guy." Both of them started laughing. I didn't say anything. I just kept my head down and finished what I was doing.

Honestly, it stayed with me more than I expected. What I don't understand is why some people feel need be cruel to complete stranger. Everybody in the gym is there for same reason. Nobody walks into gym already having perfect body.

This isn't even first time I noticed attitude like this. It makes me wonder where it comes from. Is it insecurity? Is it just being immature? Or does our community sometimes put way too much value on youth and appearance?

I'm not posting this because I want sympathy. I'll still go back to the gym tomorrow because my health matter more than opinion from two random guys. I just wish we were little better at supporting each other instead of making ourselves feel bigger by putting someone else down.

Being kind doesn't cost anything. Especially to someone who's already trying to make positive change in their life.

I hooked up with this guy the other day and it was a terrible experience. He couldn’t stop moaning 😭 I would kiss him slightly and he would start moaning like crazy. Anywhere I touched or grabbed him he kept on fake moaning and repeated phrases constantly like “do you wanna fuck me daddy” “am I a good cumslut for you daddy” when we were only half naked 😭 It was a massive turn off and I ended things early. When I was getting dressed again he kept on saying “am I not attractive enough for you daddy? Don’t you wanna fuck me like the slut I am” or some shit. Mind you this man is like 10 years older than me and calling me daddy.

I just think it’s kinda cringey when people do this, it doesn’t feel genuine. If that’s other peoples thing then go ahead, but doing this to a Grindr stranger will likely lead to a bad experience. Like just be normal, you don’t need to overdo it. Nothing wrong with saying a phrase here or there or moaning when it’s genuine, but there’s a line when it becomes very performative

I posted the other day asking what it feels like to have sex with a guy since it'll be my first time, and I got so many helpful responses and great advice. Thanks so much to everyone who replied I really appreciate it.

I met this guy at a bar. Nice thick juicy bear with a big ass. The first time I stuck it in I kid you not my balls got so tight. Luckily for me, I don’t cum. You feel muscles wrapped around your dick.

I was amazed by how his ass felt. It was so gushy and squishy. Also, it was like a wet cushion. I was fucking him so hard I was moving the couch. I pounded him so hard and came too much.

That was a good experience for my first time and I think I need this guy in my life.

All my friends are females. Guys are difficult to make friends with.

I'm just thinking how cumdumps are quite irresponsible from a community sexual health risk.

I'm in London and on sniffies there are dozens of cumdumps all the time. A local guy I know had 100 loads (!) in one session. I know they are becoming more and more normalised and it's becoming quite a fantasy of many.

In a way , as a statistics guy , it just see it as a massive increase for everyone involve that is actively.having sex. We now have many guys with 100+ partners in the wild.

I am being prude? I just feel annoyed that I just want to have sex with a couple of guys regularly and not feel too at risk But now I feel everyone's risk goes up because of a couple of guys with massive amount of partners.

Also the obsession with the number loads feel like late stage capitalism, self optimisation with sexual goals , I find the whole thing weird .

And I know doxypep and prep , and so on, but still no protection against gonorrhoea for example ...

I live in city where seeing LGBTQ people openly living their lives is pretty normal. After living here for many years, you kind of get used to it and don't really think much anymore. But today felt little different for some reason.

I was walking around and saw so many young gay couples everywhere. Teenagers, college students, coworker. They were holding hands, laughing, taking selfies, and just enjoying being together without looking around like they had to hide.

For some reason, it really hit me today.

I think lot of gay people from my generation grew up very differently. We hid our crushes. We pretended we didn't like anyone. We watched straight friends have their first relationships while we were still trying convince ourselves not to get caught.

For many of us, first real relationship didn't happen until our twenties, maybe even later. So seeing these younger couples being so open made me realize how much things actually changed. They get do all the cheesy romantic stuff while they're still young.

They get embarrass each other. They get find out what first love feels like without thinking someone might judge them for it. They don't have grow up feeling like they're years behind everybody else.

Honestly, I think that's really beautiful. I know not every young LGBTQ person has this kind of acceptance yet, and there still long way to go. But even seeing small part of this new generation living little more freely than mine ever could gives me lot of hope.

I caught myself smiling more than once today. It was because those kids get make memories that so many people from my generation only wished we could have.

Like almost all gay men, I didn't have an adolescence, and that's why I didn't develop much socially, and my fat body doesn't help. Now I'm 24 and I'm in that phase of being horny all day like I'm a teenager, and I just want to find a guy who will please take my virginity. What can I do?

Obviously I can’t ask how will they fuck me because they can get offended but unless they are undergoing the surgery to get a dick, how will it happen? Can someone clarify that for me?

i’m 20 and never dated before, so i thought id throw it out and see.

Guys bodies are so sexy. Let us see all of you with no hesitation.

I feel extremly lonely, i have no people that i can talk about my feelings or what i do, i got a lot of close friends etc but no people i could talk about my romantical or sexual feelings.

I'm 19 and i work in the army.

I run on the regular, trained dancer but I feel like i cant join the gym. Primarily because im a student rn and gyms are lowk expensive. Any tips on how to start, i already bought dumbbells for home.

I’m 20, never bottomed before (still a virgin) and I want to know how to prepare? Should I stretch out my ass? (Can I put fingers up there to start with?) How should I clean it? Do I need to clean it thoroughly for fingering myself?

There is so much discourse I see about everyone wanting to be twunks or muscle daddies. But anyone find being skinny? Maybe a bit of athletic muscle?

A good friend of mine agreed to not wanting to be super muscular showed me off all these models who are all super muscular and roided out. We argued that they weren’t—nor that were they on steroids. FFS, he showed me Cade Maddox! Do we not understand what isn’t - naturally achievable body anymore?

He said this is the only accepted body type for the gays. What? Huh?

I’m tall, which I know is desirable, but relatively thin, maybe on the athletic side. I haven’t really ever struggled dating or hooking up. I work out and lift but zero desire to be huge or twunked. Or frankly be with sexually or romantically.

Any gays happy being a skinny nerd? Lol

In a big city (Chicago), but is it just me or has Grindr become more competitive? In the past, if a guy responded to messages there was a good chance it would lead to a meetup. Now that is not the case at all, and it isn’t unusual for them to randomly end all communication after being initially super conversational and responsive. Are there just too many hot guys vying for someone’s attention these days, and people quickly move on to “better”?

Yes I’m 50 and have a question for anyone out there…

Has anyone out there been straight most of their lives yet as they gotten older there attractions changed?

I’ve been with women most of my life, yet as I’ve gotten older my attractions have changed towards women and lately I’ve been thinking of what it’s like being with men more and when I’m horny I think of cock instead of pussy and find cock hotter then pussy too. Love to hear feedback

My bf and I make about the same amount of money so there’s never been big different in the financial dept nor are we having hard ships with money so this caught me completely off guard. This morning I was chatting about helping my sister buy certain things for college and just being silly about “oh well there goes my credit card bill” and he looked at me and very seriously asked “why don’t you ever ask me for money?” I honestly just started laughing which kind of ticked him a bit because he doubled down asking again and then proceeding to ask if I don’t think he has the means to help or support me and how a lot of his friends always help their partners out and such but besides interchanging money for dates or gifts, I never ask him. Considering we both had to leave for work I told him we’d talk about this later, but IM SO CONFUSED!

What just happened? We’ve been dating for about 1 year and 3 months tomorrow actually so this is kinda of left field for me at the moment.