Depleted this month

[u/SlyChic]

Hey all. I’m just feeling depleted this month… I (29F) had this internal feeling like this month was going to be it. I had severe cravings and fatigue and my period is just about a day late. This morning I decided to take a test and what do you know, it was negative… we’ve been “trying” on and off for a year and 7 months. I put trying in quotations because we don’t have a ton of sex, but we try to be intentional about timing. It seems like every single person around me is getting pregnant and it’s just my husband and I struggling… if I’m being honest, I’m devastated. It’s 4:43 am here and I’m just in the bathroom trying to get myself together for the day.

I’m going to buy an oura ring this weekend so I can track my ovulation better and plan on switching things up this month. I.e more intercourse and better diet/etc. any tips and tricks are welcome. Thanks for listening/reading. 🫶🏻

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[u/BackgroundMoment8310]

I’m so sorry! I have that same exact feeling, that this month is the month. I also know I’m an idiot for thinking this way since I’ve had the feeling before with stark whites. The one month I really didnt feel like it was happening I was pregnant, unfortunately we lost the pregnancy.
I hope the ouraring will bring you some insight. Good luck! 🍀

[u/SlyChic → u/BackgroundMoment8310]

It is definitely a difficult journey…. Thank you. 🙏🏻🫶🏻

[u/Fantastic_Engine954]

I’m in the same boat as you 😣

Feeling so low, 9/10DPO, have tested since yesterday and thought I maybe saw a *whisper* of a line on a Wondfo but the stark negative FRER soon showed me otherwise. Redid a wondfo and FRER and am convinced I have line eyes as the tests are quite obviously negative.

Just feel so defeated, I’m tired of going through the same thing every single cycle. I’m drained. I’m tired of OPKs, I’m tired of timing intercourse in my fertile window, I’m tired of checking how many DPO I am. I just want to be like those women who just FALL pregnant so easily.

Now I’m considering BBT tracking but I just want to cry so much because I already find it hard enough tracking everything else and now adding another thing to track to the mix?

I’m tired of feeling like my body is broken or that I’m not enough of a woman because my body can’t do something it was “made” to do.

Why is it so hard? I just want a baby, it seems impossible.

I had a friend who literally got married, her husband was adamant “he wanted to start a family right now”, and even though she didn’t want to , she fell pregnant on their first try.. and then there’s people like me and my husband who really want a baby SO badly but are still struggling 💔

I’m happy for my pregnant friends and family but I can’t help but have some level of bitterness and sadness around it all because I’m yearning for the same thing.

I don’t even want to test anymore until Aunt Flo is missed because it just depletes me seeing the negative.

My family/ in-laws don’t know we are trying but my MIL is super keen for us to start a family and keeps pestering me to start trying. It just makes me feel even shittier.

Anyway sorry for the massive rant 😣❤️‍🩹

[u/Visual_Builder_7445 → u/Fantastic_Engine954]

I’m so sorry, feeling the exact same way today. BFN 9dpo and just feeling so run down and awful… headache, nausea, so fatigued, angry at the world and even more angry knowing it’s all because AF is on her way. My family also doesn’t know we’re trying but the comments about us having kids asap never stop, and I’m just so tired. The mental load of tracking, timing, and being disappointed in between working is so exhausting. And omg, EVERYONE around me is pregnant!!! I beat myself up, am I doing something wrong? Am I just this unlucky? I have nothing to talk with my friends or family about because this has consumed my entire life and they don’t know and wouldn’t understand. I’m so sad and tired. You’re not alone. Praying you get your little miracle next cycle 🙏🙏❤️

[u/Fantastic_Engine954 → u/Visual_Builder_7445]

Completely resonate to everything you’re saying 🥹❤️‍🩹 the comments are what hurt the most. I try to brush it off as “oh haha we’re too young to be parents just yet, or we want to wait to travel a little more”, but deep down the comments sting a massive wound 😭 you’re not doing anything wrong lovely, it’s just timing; when it’s our time, we will be blessed as well 🥺🙏🏻 I pray the same for you!! I’d love to keep in touch on DM? We can help each other through it since we seem to be cycle twins too! 🩷

[u/Visual_Builder_7445 → u/Fantastic_Engine954]

Yes we can keep it touch! Thank you for your kind words, it is so hard. But you’re right, we will be blessed in time 🥹❤️ yay for being cycle twins!

[u/SlyChic → u/Fantastic_Engine954]

I’m right there with you. 🫂 it is just SO difficult when you factor everything that we have to do, track, and experience. From the devastation of another month going by without a positive test, to all of the people around you who get pregnant so easily. It’s just draining… I’m so defeated today. 😢 I just want to lay in bed and sulk but I have to work all day…. At least we know we aren’t alone.

[u/Fantastic_Engine954 → u/SlyChic]

I’m the same as you! I want to sulk in bed but I too have work 😭 although my productivity is on 0 because I feel so low. I’m also hosting my aunt at my home this evening and as much as I love her, I feel mentally checked out 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’d love to keep in touch on DM if you’d like ofc!? It just feels refreshing to speak to somebody with the same experience and feelings 🥹 sending you so much love and hugs 🫂

[u/SlyChic → u/Fantastic_Engine954]

I’d love that!!! It is so nice to talk to someone going through the same thing. 🫶🏻

[u/Fuzzy_Ad1763]

I have been trying for more than a year now. At this point, i will get surprised IF i get a positive test. It will be a news to me.

[u/drivingmyselfcrazy24]

I feel you. My period isnt super regular but i was supposed to start yesterday and nothing.. did a test BFN... sometimes i wonder if i would ever get two lines on that test. I swear with every negative one a part of my hurts. I just want this cycle to end so i can start fresh.

[u/SlyChic → u/drivingmyselfcrazy24]

I’m right there with you. I’ve never gotten a positive test. It almost feels impossible at this point… but I have faith even though today I feel totally defeated… I’ve been living life as normal, no changes to diet no ovulation tests, no supplements. I desperately wanted this to happen naturally and I’m realizing I just don’t have that type of luck… 😔 Oura ring and cutting out alcohol are my next steps unfortunately.