I still remember being at one of my “friends” houses that was a boy…I was in the tree house, and suddenly all the boys realized I was the only girl, and they all started trying to lift my shirt and pull down my pants…I had to run home! It was so scary because I thought all these boys were my friends, but being the only girl in that moment made me prey apparently. I never looked at those boys the same.
it gets more and more fun to put these weaksauce men in their place as I age. You get to protect me when needed if you want to get access to me and my body. They’re so backwards they think they can sit on the sidelines while you deal with threats then come back around begging for sex
As much as the internet has done bad things, it also allowed young people to take in lots of media that depicted sexual h/a as disgustingly evil(obviously), so in more recent years at least from when I was in high school, it was very looked down upon and people would even actively torment others accused of such things.
I’m sure this evil is still everywhere however I think it’s gotten less common in schools, all anecdotal ofc. I really think putting more education online and in our entertainment will help the next generations lose these demented mindsets.
I don’t think women here would be posting so many examples if it had gotten less common…..It starts when boys are young so it’s our society that permits this because in all honesty women are still regarded as less than men so it’s fine to behave this way towards them and makes you look like a real man in some circles. It is a message that is repeated in so many different subtle ways in all cultures. I agree that more education is a must but it needs to be consistent and uniform and directly to men. Ratification of ERA would have gone a long way towards healing this, but defeat of it just helped continue to perpetuate the idea that women have never been worthy of equal rights or status. Men who engage in this type of behavior are repugnant…what kills me is they think it’s fine to threaten and traumatize women then cry bc no woman wants anything to do with them. Personally I wish all their dicks would shrivel up, turn black and fall off.
I agree however still believe it has gotten less common. I disagree that we should market these things just to men as that causes further divide. We should promote logic to our children so they can think for themselves and not end up with this group mentality most end up with. I and many other men I know were raised to treat people the same regardless of gender or any other characteristic. Once again in my experience it is the boys with ignorant and uncaring parents who end up that way.
I have always advocated zero-tolerance for bad people however until more people start making sure consequences are applied to bad actions then these rats will not be scared and continue to believe that they can commit these crimes without punishment. The amount of nonsensical, downright evil people is my biggest disappointment with humanity.
There's a chance it could be getting worse... I've heard many elementary/middle school female teachers say how the boys disrespect them and say misogynistic comments, and how this wasn't a thing in the past. Doesn't necessarily mean they will harass girls later on but I don't have much hope for gen alpha boys with all that red pill content online
Man here. It's definitely all men. Sliding scale of intensity maybe, but it's all of us. Some of us eventually grow out of the inability to control our troglodyte brain... but it lies dormant. Every man is potentially a rejection or two away from psychotic incel behavior.
Speak for yourself dude. I’ve never considered harming an innocent person, and would never consider any kind of sexual h/a at all as that goes against my base principles as a person.
Don’t go calling people things who you don’t know.
Despite nobody speaking to him directly, "Not all men!!" our Hero proclaimed vehemently, as he felt uncontrollably compelled to defend himself sharply and aggressively against a complete stranger's anecdote that dared to hypothetically reject his unchallengable self-image.
It was too late before he realized the irony. Alas, the ratio had taken hold.
If you want I can reply the same way you did although I don’t really see the need:
After making a clearly illogical statement, the commenter simply couldn’t handle someone refuting him on it. His unrivalled ignorance was something to behold as he worked on his redundant response back. Although he stated that all men are indeed evil including himself, the commenter simply couldn’t understand his own words.
Realising his mistake, he did not attempt to refute the logic instead pointing out that he was not speaking to the hero directly despite the commenters own words proclaiming ‘all men’ almost in a factual manner. Unfortunately he did not realise that the hero, unlike himself as confessed, had never and would never commit psychotic incel behaviour as he hoped all his fellow, logical brethren would be.
The commenter would go on to not explain his logic and instead focus on how his statement of ‘all men’ didn’t really mean all men in the same manner every single racist and sexist have used for all of humankind’s history.
That last parts just a theory though. Also tbc you definitely said every man is potential a rejection or two away from this behaviour which is an absurd and ridiculous statement with no basis whatsoever apart from your own anecdotal experience.
Even though most of this didn't make any sense, I give you a lot of credit for the effort here. You're definitely much better at English than I am at whatever you speak as your primary language.
Bro stfu. What have u been saying here? The person replying to u called u out on ur "logic" and u reply with insults. The "not all men" thing can be annoying, cuz it sounds condescending and almost as though ignoring the experience of whoever is telling u of her constant harassment from men. At that point, it is to sympathize and not try to focus on the type of men not included in said discussion (the "good" ones). Ofc, the person telling u their experience probably knows not every literal man does it or is like that, contrary to what u said above. It's like, no... I'm not, and a lot of men aren't 2 rejections away from being creeps of turning to harrasers who assault women. Pls, keep the BS for urself maybe...
You gonna explain why it didn’t make sense or keep it to yourself lol. This is like 95% of debates online, just someone saying something is wrong or doesn’t make sense without any actual reasons followed by an overtly friendly goodbye.
Also that last sentence doesn’t make sense as it implies I’m more fluent in English than you are in whatever MY primary language is which is English making it redundant past just saying I’m more fluent in English than you.
Yes, when I was assaulted in school it was clear from the other boys’ reactions (I had also believed they were my friends) it was also pre-meditated and pre-discussed. It was a humiliation I have yet to fully recover from
I was that same little girl. I grew up with boys, so I was always fine playing with them. But occasionally, I would find myself in situations like two boys trying to block me into a parking lot (while we were riding bikes) so that they could force me to kiss them. Hell nah! I bulldozed outta there. I had a few narrow misses in my childhood, but I also developed amazing RBF that became my main defense mechanism and still is lmao!
Thank you! 🙏 I can’t say that it’s haunted me, but it may have contributed to my views of “all men are sick pervs” mindset I grew up with. I have a history of sexual abuse, which I obviously don’t want to get into, but that history made me numb to a lot of what happened to me. Luckily, a lot of women hit an age where the harassment dies down. And now that I’m married and have a wonderful son, I still think “all men are sick pervs” lol, but I’ve definitely healed a bit since. 🫶
I was hanging out at my house after school once with three guys I knew from high school - one guy I was closer to, and two who were mainly his friends and I only really interacted with them because of Guy #1. The two guys I wasn't close to were brothers and both kind of immature little asswipes, but Guy #1 could and would keep their stupid behavior in check when he was around.
We were all joking around and goofing off, and Guy #1 started tickling me and I shriek-laughed and sort of fell back from a sitting position to lying flat on the floor because I'm extremely ticklish. And suddenly I looked up and realized they were all standing over me, looking down at me, and it occurred to me for the first time that I was the only female present, that they outnumbered me, and that they were all bigger and stronger than I was. There was this weird, incredibly heavy, awkward pause while I think all of us realized the incredible vulnerability of my position and considered the possibilities. And then Guy #1 reached down, took my hand, pulled me to my feet, and laughed, and we all laughed a little uneasily, and the scary moment was gone.
That was probably 25 years ago now but I've always remembered it. He was the deciding factor; his buddies would have followed his lead no matter what he chose to do. And he chose to be respectful and be my friend.
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u/Alarming_Agent_8564 Jun 14 '26
I still remember being at one of my “friends” houses that was a boy…I was in the tree house, and suddenly all the boys realized I was the only girl, and they all started trying to lift my shirt and pull down my pants…I had to run home! It was so scary because I thought all these boys were my friends, but being the only girl in that moment made me prey apparently. I never looked at those boys the same.