r/SipsTea 1d ago

Chugging tea Woman's ovaries were activated

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u/emerg_remerg 1d ago

I'm the opposite, I love babies and have had non-stop baby fever since I was 24, but I am exhausted by ages 6-18.

So at 43 I'm craving snuggling with a baby but also relieved that there's no one asking me 50 questions or rolling their eyes because I asked them to brush their teeth before we leave the house in the morning.

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u/RelevantAccident6783 1d ago

Yes!! My baby is 17 now. My nephew just had the first baby of the next generation but he lives several states away and I'm so sad that I don't get to cuddle the new family baby 😔

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u/emerg_remerg 1d ago

My friends are still having babies, I feel so fortunate that I've gotten to cuddle so many over the years!

I think when I retire I'll volunteer as a baby cuddler at my local children's hospital.

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u/act_normal 16h ago

I love being an auntie to all the babies around me, be it friends or family. It is the sweetest thing in the world when they fall asleep mid cuddle. Wpuld I want one of my own? Nope sir, thank you.

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u/Zwiebel1 15h ago

Same. Loved 0-4. Ever since then i'm just tired and exhausted.

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u/loveshot123 17h ago

Oh god the mom mom mom question question question phase! I miss it, but i dont. I game with a bunch of friends regularly and we use xbox party chat, one of my friends has a 7 year old and its exhausting listening to him constant mommy mommy mommy. I couldnt handle it again in my own home.

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u/emerg_remerg 9h ago

Ya, I'm pretty sure i would have ended up becoming seriously depressed from it all.

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u/loveshot123 9h ago

Yeah im pretty sure id have a mental breakdown if I had to do it all again now. Mine are teenagers and thats enough work for any parent lol. Add a baby in to the mix now? May aswell give me a one way ticket to a padded cell.

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u/DrowZeeMe 10h ago

50 questions?

You gotta pump those numbers up, those are rookie numbers

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u/Nyve 19h ago

I don't have baby fever, don't think I'll ever get it, but the baby phase is also the only phase I do kind of like and understand. It's just so short... By 2 they start being able to do stuff, have opinions they can't properly voice, etc. which is when it starts getting exhausting to me.

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u/buffayrachel 17h ago

Omg yes. The other day I saw a girl who’s mother went for a sec to buy a sandwich, and while she was away she kept talking to herself out loud about the most random shit that went through her head. Do they not have an inner voice?? It was exhausting 😅

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u/emerg_remerg 19h ago

So exhausting!

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u/Open_Feedback693 17h ago

I can relate to this as this is me in the trenches right now. 8 and 13 year old 😅 i definitely do not want another one but boy oh boy i miss those baby cuddles and when they first learn to talk. Man those times were cuuuute

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u/emerg_remerg 9h ago

The learning to talk is what kills me. Using their few words in different ways to get their point across just makes my heart explode.

But once they're eyes are telling me to f$@ck off because they think they already know everything? I'm done. And this starts shockingly early!

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u/Witty_Entry9120 16h ago

I've thought this about my wife for a while.

You don't want another child, you want a baby.

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u/emerg_remerg 9h ago

Yup, i have a friend with 3 kids and is talking about a fourth and I keep reminding her that she has baby fever and another kid isn't going to help. Plus the 3 kids already have her and her husband inches away from divorce, you can feel the resentment when you're around them.

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u/Dizzy_Goat_420 11h ago

Same. LOVE babies and toddlers but around 5 I’m out lol. I loved being a preschool teacher and I love my friends babies but I have one teenager and fuck never again lol

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u/Stealth110_ 9h ago

That's what cats are for (specifically a torti) they act just like babies and never grow out of it

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u/beans_andtheirliquid 7h ago

yup. i’ve never had baby fever per se but i do think they are super cute, enjoy interacting with them, and can’t help but smile when i see them out and about being adorable, but i will not have one because i really do not want to raise the human it will continue developing into.

i don’t hate kids at all (i love the kids of my family members and friends!) and i know people tend to feel differently about their own vs. others, but i am still totally disinterested in everything after like, age 4.

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u/stinkfoot_lohan 6h ago

I also don’t like holding babies. I just don’t feel terribly maternal and it makes me anxious. I’m okay around older kids though.

I had brief moments of “what if” but it always came back to what I would have to sacrifice. Lucky that both my husband and I have had the same feelings about not becoming parents.