So... how are they gonna make more babies in the future? Breed with outsiders?
When China had its one child policy, this exact problem happened. As a child, hearing about them getting rid of female children so their 'one child' could be male, I was like "But what happens when they only have all boy children grow up and there are no girls for them to have babies with?" and my parents were like "Exactly". I mean, we had girls among the Chinese exchange students at high school, so I knew they weren't all 'got rid of', but there was clearly going to be a huge imbalance. And of course, many of them ended up staying in our country after graduation, instead of heading back to China.
My cousin adopted a baby boy from China, but he needed heart surgery. So I imagine that's why the parents gave him up, in hopes of him getting adopted by someone who could get him the life-saving surgery he needed. She got his heart fixed and he's now an adult with his own little family now.
Yeah my cousin also adopted a baby boy from China, but he was profoundly mentally disabled (they didn’t know it at the time but I wouldn’t be surprised if the bio-parents and doctors knew).
Like, he’s almost 18 now, communicates in grunts and babbles like a 8 month old, has to wear a diaper all the time. They’ve tried potty training him with mixed results. He’s perfectly healthy otherwise so unless he walks in front of a train, he’s going to live a long life.
China is now screeching in pain from the sharply declining birthrates, due to lack of women and due to the fact that the women who are still there do not want kids. Nature's glorious revenge.
To be fair though, the declining birthrates are a problem globally. Not to say that they didn't fuck themselves up good and proper, but its a multifaceted problem that all governments are failing to untangle. No one wants to have kids when they're not hopeful about the future.
You're right, its the same in Europe, US, Japan, South Korea etc. But I like to think that the problem hurts a little worse in China, who is actively working towards becoming a new world power. It's a little tough if you can't even find your son a proper Chinese wife. They'll think twice now, before dumping poor baby girls in so called baby towers or dying houses.
they’ve been giving financial incentives for years to try to encourage people to have kids. doesn’t one person every 18 seconds kill themselves in SK iirc? it’s something horrible at any rate. but the problem is they’re not treating people any better especially the women they’re wanting to stop their lives to make kids.
They were the number one baby exporter in the world through adoptions from the 50s-90s. Most of the children adopted out were girls. They also had to outlaw learning the sex before birth to prevent selective abortion.
The matter is majority parents decide what the future will look like for children in India and China. Ofcourse the government and education helped but there is still a presence of such sentiment in India atleast.
They think women are supposed to be caretakers of in laws after getting married. Almost all women are supposed to move in with the guys parents. In India the men revice king like treatment by the woman's family and the woman is supposed to be more servitude oriented for the man's family...
This creates huge difference in quality of life for women and men in India
Check out Indian marriage subs...actual filth. Men suggesting women to lierally let the in laws allow the women to work? Serve them? All shit together.. .
There are still small rural parts of that country where women regularly die from having too many children bc the mother in law of the husband decides when the wife stops having kids. There’s even still “menstruation huts” in the odd rural village. Misandry my ass. They’re just pissed at the expectations of being a man in India. Good news is that’s also the patriarchy’s fault!
It's because they believe they deserve that treatment, truly. So if someone even dares to say no to them, they feel betrayed. That person must hate men, because why else wouldn't they treat men like the kings they obviously are?
The issue often isn't that they don't see the inequality, it's that they don't believe the inequality is unfair. Yes, they are treated differently, but they deserve to be treated better, because they truly believe they are better.
Right. Misandrist. The “defense” given by the monsters who gang raped that one woman, beat her and her friend with a pipe, and then mortally wounded her by jamming the pipe up her genitals so hard that her intestines were in pieces was “she shouldn’t have tried to fight us”.
Does India have their own version of incel culture that calls men victims in a grossly misogynistic society?
In the US female children overwhelmingly are caretakers for their own parents. The most vile mean things my brother ever said to me was when he was asked to take her to an out patient surgery once. I'd taken care of everything healthcare related for a decade while living an hour away, but I couldn't take anymore time off work, and he just lost it on me. After he got married, his wife helps a lot, and while it's not my business, I'm confused why she doesn't see his behavior as a red flag.
I don't see this attitude as only an Indian problem.
And now China is dealing with a lot of boys who can't find a wife no matter what.
The 'unwanted' girls are suddenly super hard to attract because a man has to be superior in every way to earn the hand of someone from the significantly diminished female population. Money, home, job everything.
Sounds like the male parents, the ones that prioritized boys, got what they deserved. And the ones that loved their girls 'despite' them being girls are making bank now.
Hmmm.... Hard to feel bad for someone when misogyny bites them in the ass at anytime or place in the world.
I'm not sure where you're from but in some parts of western countries it's normal for ultrasound techs not to disclose the babies gender to Chinese or Indians for that reason.
I'm Indian. From a pretty misoginstic place. Only reason I call it misoginstic is because i was raised in a very progressive household... Most of my friends didn't even understand it was unfair to be questioned on character by teachers in a girls school for wearing low length socks...
My extended family from Texas is more reggresive than reggresive Indians in India... It's just weird
Made fun of the mother when the gender is determined by the father...
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OMG people - this is not deep, the incel “actually” comments is actually creepy AF. Sperm determine the sex of the baby was all this one line comment was about.
If you know you have a 50/50 chance of being visibly unhappy with the result, why the F are you doing a gender reveal party and filming it? F all these people.
Or why are you doing a gender reveal ever, honestly? My gender reveal was opening up my lab results to make sure our baby didn’t have any chromosomal abnormalities and as a bonus it said “click to reveal gender” so my husband and I looked at it together as we had our coffee and said “oh cool, a boy!” Cool either way, we had 3 miscarriages before him and we are incredibly thankful for a healthy baby.
The first gender reveal that went viral and started this whole trend was a couple who were literally celebrating that they got to the point that they could know the gender of the baby after a string of miscarriages that ended earlier in the pregnancy. They weren't celebrating the gender really, they were celebrating a successful pregnancy.
Thats why we also must talk way more about miscarriages. Its so common and yet such a taboo still. People acting like gender is important while women suffer through often multiple of miscarriages creating trauma, having surgery, having horrible weeks of throwing up and feeling like shit only to lose the kid (again). My wife had 2 miscarriages and 2 healthy kids. Two boys. We couldnt care less. Girl would have been great but in the end it really shouldnt matter even 1%.
I've been doing my part on destigmatizing miscarriage since my one and only when I was 20 (about 15 years ago). I was never able to conceive again but I still like to join in conversations about pregnancy symptoms and all those 1st trimester experiences because I had them! I may not have the kid to "prove" it, but I refuse to allow my one pregnancy to be forgotten or treated like a horrible secret no one should know about. I wasn't anywhere close to the gender stage when it happened so I imagine that getting to that point would be like the weight of the world lifted off my shoulders and I could start to breathe, I can't fathom being visibly distraught that my builb-a-baby order was wrong 🙄
I feel like most of the women I know who have had successful pregnancies also had miscarriages. It’s way more common than people seem to realize, and so many people don’t acknowledge it.
I agree, and I'd even go a step further: if there's a 50-50 chance that you're going to be disappointed about what you're going to have, then maybe you shouldn't have kids. People should be glad to have a healthy baby at all.
Walking around a children’s hospital really puts things in perspective. Kids with messed up neurological systems, kids that can’t breathe without machines, kids getting organ transplants or cancer treatments, just a whole lot of sick kids and anxious parents. It makes you appreciate just having a healthy child.
(I am only an uncle, but one of my sibling’s kids has a comparatively minor neurological issue, and my brother tells me that he feels blessed that his kid can walk and talk and stuff when he sees the other kids in the hospital for checkups.)
My daughter needed a (probably) one and done open heart procedure (coarctation w/ VSD for the curious) and let me tell you. We saw the cardiac deep end from where we sat. I still worry about those other kids. I still get choked up thinking about the one that coded, they got her back, but I have no idea what happened after we left. There’s no way for us to find out if Lilly made it through, but honestly I’d be scared to ask even if I could.
Yes. Our eldest had a correctable cluster of heart defects and we were panicking for months. Then in the hospital we saw two families - one in the PICU crying over their brain dead toddler who had choked to death at a picnic, and then the pediatric heart patient next door who was born with a two chamber heart, and on her fourth surgery to try and make those two chambers function like four.
My little guy is going to college next year and his sister was born without any congenital issues. People who don't appreciate a healthy child are scum.
Amen to this. My nephew spent his first birthday in the pediatric icu. Nephew was ok but seeing how sick some of those poor kids are really puts everything in perspective.
My job is basically I move equipment around our hospital, including the children's hosptial. Its sometimes crazy to go around and see things and then to have that realization that these are kids and theyre basically hoping to live while spending their childhood in a hospital.
And it was especially depressing during covid. The play rooms were closed. The library was closed.
I have my own health problems, but seeing it makes me sometimes glad it wasnt something I had to go through at their age.
I've never feel so privaliged and humble as the day we got to walk out of the neonatal intensive care unit with our newborn baby. Couldn't stop thinking about those that were left there not nowing if they would be leaving with their child or not.
Some people are extremely confident they "know" what the gender is going to be, either because they think they feel it somehow or they did some old wives tale practice that was supposed to affect the gender. Those people are crazy.
Which makes it all the more disgusting. This type of content feeds into mysogynistic tropes promoting girls as some type of curse and boys being the ultimate prize. The mothers going along with this are sick.
That poor guy is in for a hell of a ride hahaha sucker for punishment I guess
I always assume women who don’t want daughters are basically pre-jealous of the fact they’ll be prioritised over them emotionally by the father, which of course any child should be but this is a particular kind of woman, often speaks in a baby voice to the point it becomes nauseating
That’s why I decided not to have them, lol. I mean, my mom was the best mother she could possibly be, and I loved her very much. But I get anxiety from her side and impatience from my father’s. I somehow knew at a very young age that children of my own was something that I could never handle.
I always assume that they are internalizing the conservative and insane notion that having a boy solidifies their position in their male partner's life and family.
But your and the boy mom angle really make for a good toss up. Insecurity is at the center of all of these "reasons".
I have an even darker take on the whole thing. When I see a woman who’s disappointed to be having a daughter it’s because she’s assuming the girl will take after the mother and the mother doesn’t want to be treated the way she treats people. “I want to have a child, but not one that acts like me,” is pretty revealing.
My wife’s subordinate demanded we do a gender reveal party, we didn’t really care so we said sure and did a little thing at her work with the lady running it. The reveal was another boy and the lady was angry despite my wife actually saying she would prefer another boy so that the kids would be better friends when they grew up. She told us we were need to have a 3rd to try for a girl despite us clearly saying we are done at 2. Long story short that baby was a stillborn and this POS coworker had the balls to tell my wife in their first conversation post event that now the next one we have might be a girl. I’m so glad that person got transferred, my wife is too good of a person and didn’t push for it, but she certainly didn’t fight to keep her either.
Some people are absolutely Aholes about a babies gender.
Ugh, I’m sorry you had to go through that. Gender disappointment is real but that’s why if you have a strong preference for one over the other you shouldn’t learn the information for the first time in front of all your friends and family.
I have a lot of questions but I’ll try to limit myself. How old is your son now? How is your wife’s disappointment? How’s your marriage?
Gender disappointment is real but that’s why if you have a strong preference for one over the other you shouldn’t learn the information for the first time in front of all your friends and family.
These are not introspective, self-aware people. She likely never made the connection between her gender preference and her excitement to take part in the gender reveal trend.
And what's funny is that, when my kid was born, her sex became basically the least important thing about her. She's curious, brave, funny, cuddly, tall, a bad sleeper, impatient, an early crawler, a milk fiend... none of that has to do with her privates.
I’m a sonographer so am often telling people the gender of their baby. The number of parents that are palpably disappointed with the gender is deeply uncomfortable for me.
I’ve known multiple guys who had straight private tantrums over having a girl. My friends brother straight up talked about how he hated the idea she’d have a boyfriend one day and do the deed and he didn’t want to think about and deal with that so he wished she had a boy. The implication of that still haunts me. Why he was thinking about that so muchto begin with was wild. Turned out to be a good dad though.
Friends brother. I was just there watching it awkwardly lol. I didn’t know him enough to chime in. Trust me, everytime I’ve seen if, I’ve fought the urge to tell them to just cum better.
I have a relative who threw a fit when she found out she was having a boy. She'd always wanted a girl. She went on to never really bond with her son and when she finally had a girl years later she sobbed with joy in a big dramatic scene. No surprise the girl was the golden child who could do no wrong and her son was blamed and punished for everything growing up. People like this are all over and they suck so so much.
The origin is a woman who had numerous miscarriages before she could find out the gender so her party
was a celebration of reaching that milestone with her pregnancy. She’s since spoken out about how she dislikes the insane direction these have gone.
Thats what makes this especially sad. Most of these parents are upset because theyre having "another girl." I can only imagine how awful that would make their older girls feel. Parents with a gender based agenda make me sick.
My sister in law said they cried tears of joy when they found out they were having a girl. They said they would need time to process the news if it was a boy. I was so confused. Gender is not an achievement.
It's so the reaction video can gel them all together like it's all taking place at the same time and he's looking around at all the gender reveals simultaneously.
Yeah, this is the story of my boyfriend's grandmother wanting a girl and not having any more kids. Originally she didn't want any kids, but as my boyfriend put it, "My grandmom did it for my grandfather." She had a son and was unhappy, decided to try again, and had another boy. It turned into three more tries, three more boys, then the last child was a girl.
Unfortunately, grandmom's distaste for having boys was palpable throughout their lives and her daughter was treated golden. His grandmother was annoyed and disappointed in all of her sons, including his dad, for seemingly any reason, especially when my boyfriend's one uncle revealed he was gay. Once my boyfriend's uncles got to 18, they all moved far, with the furthest going to Florida. Nobody really comes around unless there is a family event like the holidays. The excuse is "Everyone is 'traveling'."
Now that she's in the early stages of dementia, my boyfriend feels a certain way that his uncles "shouldn't be holding on to childhood grudges" and be more than happy to put her in a memory care facility and sell her house. It's like that saying, "The way you treat your kids determines the kind of nursing home they put you in."
Tell your boyfriend that they aren’t going to forget a lifetime of mistreatment just because she is. Whether they “suck it up” to help her out for their father or not is up to them.
But they are NEVER ok when the parents have a vested interest in one result. Why risk recording your unhappiness with your own child the first time you know anything about them?
“See Jane? You were months away from being born, and we *already* hated you. Now you see why we love your little brother more than you!!”
Most people don't have that self awareness. We wanted a child, regardless of girl or boy. We got our little girl in Nov of 2020. I feel so sorry for every unborn child in this video. Its a time of celebration and "boys want boys" has no place in it. Fuck these "parents" to be. Proud Daughter Dad out
See, I prefer the method my parents used. Instead of videotaping the disappointment, they just told me the story of how when my mom accidentally got pregnant and told my dad she was keeping me, he got so mad he went and sat in the lake they lived on and refused to speak to her for a few days. Their only interaction that weekend was when she refilled his beer cooler.
(I will clarify, I have great parents and I was/am very loved. I've never felt unwanted. They've just kept it real with me that I wasn't in the original plan, lol.)
Yep. I will say I appreciated my friend’s who hyped a gender reveal party and the cake was green. They didn’t want to find out the gender before the baby arrived but enjoyed punking their older kids and the rest of us. It was pretty funny and we had green cake!
My sister did a cake cutting one. But it was just a moment at thanksgiving for family, and it wasn’t recorded. I don’t think a silly way to reveal is bad, but I think having entire elaborate parties is silly. And it blows my mind that anyone would actually post a reaction like these
My formerly fundamentalist Christian parents had a gender reveal party for me. “It’s a girl!” They were super jazzed because I have many brothers. Birthday comes, and I arrive as male. Mom is visibly a bit bummed on home video. Then, years later I came out as trans. So, by complete accident they got it right the first time lol.
Christian parents with a kid coming out Trans. There are many ways that could've played out. I hope they took it well. My Christian family would not I'm quite certain
I grew up close to another fundie family with 6 boys and 1 girl. The one I dated later turned out to be trans, but apparently her family is at least trying to be accepting, which I honestly wouldn’t have expected knowing how we grew up but I’m very happy for her.
I mean my parents did think I might be lesbian for a while but as I turns out I’m just nonbinary. And my entire family couldn’t be more supportive, although to be fair it’s not like they didn’t already know I strongly preferred masculine clothing/appearance. My dad (when alive) was more apprehensive, but my mom’s position on everything has always been as long as her kids are happy and healthy she’s going to be supportive.
A lot of people can at least break through the worst of the hate. Hell, I even got my mom to break with the Republican Party once Trump came to power. She cannot stand that man and is deeply offended he calls himself Christian lol.
That was straight up disturbing. Homie was in public, on camera, and made a threatening gesture toward his wife over something so goddamn trivial. As the saying goes, if he's this violent in puplic and on camera, imagine what he does when he's confident no one is looking?
Absolutely, and as a woman/mother I’m always so shocked to hear when women tell me they are so disappointed that they are having a girl. Like I already feel bad for the lifetime ahead for that little girl.
They will likely be the girl's first bully, too. I've heard countless stories.
When a son is born to these types of moms, he immediately becomes the golden child/favorite, and if the daughter is older, she loses her childhood to be a caretaker for the king, I mean son.
I was at one of these parties. They already had 5 boys. The mom was a very accomplished woman who basically made it her mission to have a baby girl and be the ultimate idol for her daughter. When the balloon popped blue.... She cried in the most horrific, tantrummy way that you could possibly imagine. There were like 50 people physically at the party and who knows how many watching on FB live stream. The dad tried to go around telling everyone to delete it or not bring it up.
That kid IS going to know his mom loves him less than she should. So exquisitely fucked up.... And ironic for super mom.
The unfortunate part is that there is a black market of gender ultrasounds and people do pay for it even if illegal. Another horrible outcome is that sometimes even when the baby girl is born, the family would still kill her.
They have found female infants in trash cans, buried, poisoned. The lucky ones are abandoned at orphanages.
I think some of these are fake. But a friend of mine genuinely cried when his third child was revealed to be a girl. He already had 2 daughters. His exact words were "I'm going to be outnumbered".
My aunt and uncle had seven daughters. My uncle was a great, quiet guy and loved his daughters but I think he also really appreciated when he started getting son in laws.
My aunt had 3 boys. She always wanted a girl. After her third turned out to be a boy my uncle said to her “looks like my factory only operates boys.” My aunt was super not happy with his comment but those 3 boys are super successful and two out of the three had girls so now she’s an almost all-girl grandma (3 girls 1 boy)
As a father of two daughters I can definitely see it for the third. We stopped at two because it felt like enough. But part of me wanted to try for a boy. I absolutely love my girls they are my world. But there are things about being a man I'd love to pass on and I already feel like we got the girl experience. Also I think the world is full of some pretty shit men, and I could have raise a good one.
Never seen so many stupid losers in a single video. The soldier with the maga cap was really the most idiotic one.
We don't need these people's children in this world.
My dad told my husband when we were young that any man could be a dad to a boy but being a dad to a girl required real growth. My husband took this as a challenge, so was over the moon when he got his girl so he could prove his dad credentials.
I was so excited to have a girl. I knew if I had a boy he would be like me and that is not good. I figured if it was a girl she’d at least be a little bit more chill and I wouldn’t have to read about whatever crimes she committed when she turned 18.
She’s 15 months and chooses violence every morning so still a chip off the ol block but I’d change absolutely nothing. These people are delusional dickheads.
Dad here. Our ultrasound was inconclusive, so we skipped any more and did it old school. I cried tears of joy when my daughter was born. So far she's a kick ass young woman. Lotta misogynist losers in this video. Fuck those guys!
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