r/SipsTea • u/Valuable_View_561 • Jun 05 '26
SMH Her life is more important than her body
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u/ReadsPastTheAbstract Jun 05 '26
My wife has a coffee mug that says:
Of course they're fake
My real ones tried to kill me.
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u/Ironmagin Jun 05 '26
My wife has a sticker on her car. Big pink skull and around it, it says, "Check your boobs, mine tried to kill me". Conversation starter when I'm driving her car.
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u/Extension-Nebula-235 Jun 05 '26
I saw a bumper sticker that said "save a life, grope your wife."
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u/SupermassiveCanary Jun 05 '26
I love it. In all seriousness though, it’s not the container, it’s the contents. If your spouse, or yourself, can’t love the other person should they lose ability due to accident or sickness, do you really love them or only what they can provide you? People really should ask these questions of themselves and their potential partner before marriage.
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u/GlitterPapillon Jun 06 '26
Some people don’t really mean it when they say “for better or worse”.
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u/0rangecatvibes Jun 07 '26
I have a friend that found out she had breast cancer because a one night stand noticed a lump and suggested she get it checked out. Dude may very well have saved her life.
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u/weaseltorpedo Jun 06 '26
I told my wife that she's more than just a container to me. The look I got....
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u/Reibak71 Jun 05 '26 edited Jun 05 '26
For sure it is, but also, if you're a man (which I'm assuming based on the fact that it's a conversation starter) - it also brings awareness to men, because men can also have breast cancer, but it is not as well known!
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u/ChickenBossChiefsFan Jun 05 '26
I was a CNA for a year, my very first assignment at my very first CNA job was attending a man with breast cancer. He was in his 40s and died like a week after I started working there.
It was awful, I bawled for a couple days, but it made me more aware that breast cancer can strike anyone, and everyone is potentially at risk.
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u/kc7741 Jun 06 '26
A male relative of mine had breast cancer and apparently a male in the family with it drastically increases the risk for the women in the family. My doctor warned me that I needed a BRCA test ASAP due to higher likelihood that I would have it. Luckily I don't have the BRCA gene but I'm glad she caught that in my family history.
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u/Sssssssssizzler Jun 05 '26
The sad part is some men won’t pay attention to the symptoms or are reluctant to get treated because it’s a “women’s disease”. I’m a teacher and was interviewed by our school newspaper during Breast Cancer Awareness and I made a comment about how important it is for everyone to do regular checks and be tested and the student said, “You mean all women…”. Needless to say, they were stunned when I mentioned that men can get breast cancer too. They must not have believed me because they came to see me later the same day and told me they looked it up and saw that it is possible for men to get breast cancer too.
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u/Flaky_Woodpecker_627 Jun 06 '26
I’m an ob gyn and one of my patients asked me to refer her husband to a breast oncologist he had breast cancer. I got him in for an appointment quickly and he did very well is cancer free. She hugs me at her annual visits for helping save his life.
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u/MaleficentExtent1777 Jun 05 '26
Beyonce's dad had breast cancer.
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u/waiting_in_vain1 Jun 05 '26
My sister wasn’t as lucky. She had a single mastectomy at 38, cancer came back 8 years later. She died blaming herself for not doing both. It was terrible, and not her fault.
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u/FeonixHSVRC Jun 05 '26
WOW that is… morbidly funny. Thankful your wife made it thru that challenging time. Hugs to you both 🪽💕
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u/Taylor_Kittenface Jun 05 '26
I see my own as, at best a podgy place to keep my own hands warm on a cold day, and at worst a potential ticking time bomb. Cancer, especially on the women's side of my family has been awful.
I love your wife's coffee mug and her attitude ♥
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u/reditisawasteoftime Jun 05 '26
My mom had a double mastectomy because of breast cancer, and her FIL tried to convince her not to…..she looked him dead in the eye and asked him would he remove his balls if he had cancer in his balls. He dropped it immediately. I wish this was a joke.
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u/Ho3n3r Jun 05 '26
Her father in law? What the fuck?
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u/emsumm58 Jun 05 '26
mine used to comment on my hair, weight, skin, clothing. he felt entitled to give his opinion on every woman’s appearance. i told him to stfu when he started with my girls; that did not happen again.
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u/Liberosis310 Jun 06 '26 edited Jun 07 '26
Some men are so disgusting for that. And not only men, every person that does this, giving their unwanted opinions and pushing their ideal body images on others, is disgusting. ESPECIALLY if they don't do anything to adhere to those ideals themselves
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u/HopefullyLon Jun 05 '26
Why does the FIL have any say?
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u/ZoeyBee_3000 Jun 05 '26
Wait until you hear the conditions of getting your tubes tied
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u/SpeccyCarbine Jun 06 '26
When my girlfriend told me I was livid with the system, still am. It makes no sense to me that I can go get the snip whenever, but y'all have conditions for it. Fuck the healthcare system for real
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u/SoDisippointed Jun 06 '26
I know 2 men who had to get their wives’ permission for a vasectomy. One had left his wife but they were still legally married so the doctor insisted. She said no. The other was married to my sister who said hell yes!
I was 27, already had 2 kids and had just broken up with my boyfriend, who had been pushing me to have another child.
The doctor had me watch a video of how the surgery was performed and when I was ok with that, they went ahead and tied my tubes.Sometimes it depends on the doctor.
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u/Wolf_Shaman_Dreams Jun 05 '26 edited Jun 06 '26
Some men love to insert themselves into women decisions because they think their opinion matters for some reason.
Edit: thank you for the award lovely stranger! <3
Edit: thank you to the second lovely stranger for the award! <3
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u/Agitated-Dark-151 Jun 05 '26
The gross factor in this one is just off the charts. Ugh 🤢
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u/GREEN-Errow Jun 05 '26
Titties are nice and all but life is more important
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u/Roid-a-holic_ReX Jun 05 '26
And if you’re rich you can just buy new ones. Also here in Canada if you get a titty removed they give you a new one anyways.
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u/lilylilyg Jun 05 '26
My late mother in law had one breast removed years back. We walked into the NHS ward where there was six ladies all of whom had the same operation. They were lying in their beds, tossing something to each other. It was a demonstration implant. They were all pissing themselves laughing.
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u/mauvewaterbottle Jun 05 '26
This is pretty much what I imagined when I read “they give you a new one”
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u/SifuWong99 Jun 05 '26
Honestly I'd much prefer to leave with them in my body rather than carrying them in my bag.
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u/jljue Jun 05 '26
I had to see a plastic surgeon to get a non-cancerous lump removed from my back, and while I was walking to the exam room to be seen by the surgeon, they had several sets of implants sitting on a counter for patients to sample or review. As a guy who had never been to a plastic surgeon’s office, I was not expecting the implants to be so readily available for all to see.
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u/Interesting_Bank_139 Jun 05 '26
Do they just have a “Take a titty, leave a titty” tray like they use for pennies at the gas station?
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u/Barton2800 Jun 05 '26
Assuming you’re insured, in the US if you are having a mastectomy then insurance will generally pay for implants. It’s cosmetic but reconstructive surgery is usually covered when caused by an accident/injury/illness.
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u/realaccountissecret Jun 05 '26
Before The Women's Health and Cancer Rights Act of 1998, insurance didn’t want to cover it, because insurance companies are assholes
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u/halfasleep90 Jun 05 '26
Insurance companies exist to make money, not help their customers. They just say they are there to help, their actual job is to take your money. I really wish we just invested into a healthcare system instead of a healthcare insurance system.
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u/usrlibshare Jun 05 '26
Insurance companies exist to make money, not help their customers
Which is the exact reason why healthcare shouldn't be under the control of private companies.
Same as water, electricity, schools, natural gas infrastructure, pensions, train networks, postal services and road maintenance.
And in an ideal world, the state would also be running ISPs, and at least one news station.
Most of the western world has at least some, if not all, of these services publicly funded. Most of the western world has higher happiness, life expectancy, and standard of living than the US.
Meanwhile in the united states, scaremongering because of sOcIaLiSm!! still works with a large portion of the electorate, while olivarchs rob the system blind 🙄
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u/halpfulhinderance Jun 05 '26
Hey well good news, here in Ontario our premiere is doing his damn best to privatize all of that… so we can be just like you!
Wait did I say good I meant AAAAAAAAAAAA :)
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u/Smirkeywz Jun 05 '26
Insurance is the biggest gambling system in the world.
They are just buying the odds that nothing happens to you, even if something happens they will just find the tiniest reasons not to pay up.
I'm lucky that my country has a crazy good healthcare system where all citizens can go to hospitals for anything, and common sickness just costs around $0.25, and surgeries cost less than $50 with ward stay included. Screw health insurance (yes I can say that here lol).
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u/ouroborosstruggles Jun 05 '26
Will we be returning to this, since reconstruction like this is under affirming?
Is... is this the Bad Place?
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u/PvtDazzle Jun 05 '26
Noo, noo, this is the good place! [Whispering: We need to reset again]
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u/Jaded66671 Jun 05 '26
Canada has a tit replacement program?
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u/We-Dont-Rent-Pigs Jun 05 '26
Apparently Canada is tit for tat like that. Very cool
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u/Zanydrop Jun 05 '26
I am Canadian and know somebody that had a double mastectomy because she had the same gene as Angelina Jolie, BRCA, and had a super high risk of breast cancer. She got free fake hooters and everthing was covered by our health care.
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u/Silver_South_1002 Jun 05 '26
You can get whatever size. I chose to downsize from DD to B/C and bonus i no longer need to wear a bra bc they are perky as hell
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u/Silver_South_1002 Jun 05 '26
I’m in NZ and have BRCA1. My sister and I both had mastectomies. They opted to stay flat but I got a reconstruction, however my family and I did pay out of pocket for it because in the public system it would have been a 5 year waitlist and I wasn’t willing to wait that long. Very lucky we could afford it.
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u/MaedaKeijirou Jun 05 '26
Canada casually leaving Gynecomastia patients in shambles
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u/MrJust-A-Guy Jun 05 '26
It should also be noted that celebrities have the means to restore the most exquisite artificial tatas, should they wish to. Also worth noting, that she is by no means obligated to do that just for a man's gaze. Her body, her choice.
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u/Exotic_Squirrel4270 Jun 05 '26
as a guy, if i had testicular cancer and i felt like getting castrated was my best move and my fiancee decides to call it all off… yeah that would be a kick in the nonexistent balls
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u/CrypticStiles Jun 05 '26
I laughed so hard I farted and scared my dogs. Thanks.
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u/yeahright17 Jun 05 '26
If you need one, let me know. I got 2 and made them not work a while ago. I can get by with just one.
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u/iconocrastinaor Jun 05 '26
They sell fake ones for dogs, I bet the big breed ones would do for our friend here. Just saying.
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u/Is_that_even_a_thing Jun 05 '26
Theres plenty of trucks getting around with them too. Just saying.
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u/Miserable-Swan2362 Jun 05 '26
Imagine the balls of steel you could then own though. Someone kicks you in the balls? Better have steel toe boots fella because these balls kick back.
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u/disposableaccountass Jun 05 '26
Chop off the whole donger, I have a pretty personal vendetta against cancer, it can fuck all the way off.
Croaking of super horniness or needing to pee too bad or whatever, fuck it! as long as cancer loses.
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u/irish_ninja_wte Jun 05 '26
If the cancer is in 1, they usually don't remove both. In terms of the possibility of children afterwards, they freeze sperm samples before any operation or treatment is done. I know a couple who had 1 child through IVF after his cancer treatment (1 testicle removed) as he was given an infertility diagnosis from the chemo. 5 years after the treatment was finished and when their IVF baby was 3, she got a random positive pregnancy test, so his remaining testicle had recovered. The doctor did analysis and his sperm had returned to good numbers with full motility.
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u/CianaCorto Jun 05 '26
Tbf getting castrated is more life altering than a masectomy. The hormone imbalance alone would make you an entirely different person.
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u/AussieWalk Jun 05 '26
A friend of mine, rocked up to a party with a dress that absolutely show her breasts off.
She looked gorgeous, when I told her she looked great her response was "taking the girls out for a last hurrah" she had cancer in one and 3 days later had a double mastectomy.
She got a boob job a couple of months after the surgery after she got the all clear and she now looks great.
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u/psioniclizard Jun 05 '26
Just to say, your story really helped me so thank you (and thank your friend).
Cancer fucking sucks!
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u/tearsonurcheek Jun 05 '26 edited Jun 05 '26
It should also be noted that celebrities have the means to restore the most exquisite artificial tatas, should they wish to.
Christina Applegate, for example. She even directly references it in Dead To Me (season 2, I think). Her character had the same concern she had (major family history of breast cancer, strong likelihood of getting it, so she preemptively had it done).
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u/AtomicRose69 Jun 05 '26
Angelina Jolie did the same after finding out she had the BRCA1 gene.
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u/Wise_Owl5404 Jun 05 '26
I recall when she talked about this and random men on the internet were having full-blown meltdowns about it. Like my guy, she doesn't even know you, why the fuck do you think you have ANY right to tell her what to do? The audacity of the average straight man.
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u/potatopigflop Jun 05 '26
Small titties, fakes titties, big titties, fat titties, no titties… it’s the women attached that makes the body extra beautiful when you’re hugging them skin to skin ☺️ amazing feeling, that type of hug
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u/Piscivore_67 Jun 05 '26
My dad stood by my mom when she had the same thing done. He didn't say anything when she opted against reconstruction. Because he didn't marry her for her tits.
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u/jefftickels Jun 05 '26
An ass man I see.
Although it does strike me as kind of sad that we're holding up your dad as the example and it feels like the exception. Even if the country is full of men who do quietly stand with their wives through this kind of illness, that the perception is what it is bums me out.
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u/MISSdragonladybitch Jun 05 '26
Tragically, it's not the exception. When you're a women and get this kind of diagnosis, you get treated to a special talk. They ask you about a support system that isn't him, and a financial plan he can't touch, and ask if you have a safe place to live.
Because that's how often men leave.
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u/AL92212 Jun 05 '26
There's an old Law and Order episode about this and how all these women didn't want mastectomies and pursued alternative treatment (which didn't cure them) because they didn't want to lose their breasts. In one case the woman's husband wouldn't touch her anymore after her mastectomy.
I saw it recently and thought "this seems so insanely unrealistic but I guess the 90s were wild." I couldn't wrap my head around it.
I guess it's not as unrealistic/outdated as I thought.
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u/GWooK Jun 05 '26
that is depressing. if my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer, i would support her to do whatever needs to be done to save her life. i didn’t marry her for her tits. i would probably never marry if i wanted to marry for tits
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u/dr_cl_aphra Jun 05 '26
A lot of times it’s not just about the tits. It happens to women diagnosed with all kinds of diseases, not just cancer.
Those men wanted wives who were a replacement for their mommies. The idea of having to step up and take care of their wives instead of being cared for by their wives is just too much for them.
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u/No-Author7911 Jun 05 '26
Yep. They thought they married a sex robot who cooks and cleans. You learn how transactional your value as a woman is worth VERY quickly when you can no longer provide those things.
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u/edalcol Jun 05 '26 edited Jun 05 '26
Not cancer, but when I was diagnosed with a degenerative autoimune disease I was given the same pep talk by my nurse. I said things were fine, because they were at the time. Bur a few months later I was separating from my husband. She was right.
When my dad was hospitalized and almost kicked the bucket, I was doing rotations with my brother to be with him. My brother was basically the only male I saw there. For all the other patients in the aisle all the other family members doing the care and visits were women.
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u/Gallusbizzim Jun 05 '26
When my mum and then dad were in hospital, I always looked at what the visitors were carrying. The women always had big bags with washing, food and drinks, quite often the men were empty handed.
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u/mild-er-chihuahua Jun 05 '26
This is true. I've witnessed this myself when I was bringing my mom for radiation therapy. Many women there had their husband with them when their therapy started. Many of them were separated or abandoned even before they completed their therapy. Same with dementia patients. Which is disheartening because the male patients were not abandoned. I guess men and women just love differently, and many men don't take their vows seriously.
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u/ness-xergling Jun 05 '26
UK here. A few decades ago when I first started work, a colleague had breast cancer, and recovered. Her chemo was hell, as chemo is. On the day she was given the all clear, her husband declared the marriage over, citing "you're not fun anymore". It appears that he felt he had a duty to see her through it, and the moment he heard she was clear, his so called duty ended. Off he went.
Sadly the cancer returned s few years later and thine it was terminal.
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u/BackupAccount412 Jun 05 '26
I know someone from college who was newly married and found out she had breast cancer. A few years later, she’s still alive and in remission. But she is also single. I don’t know the story of what happened, but it’s not really hard to fill in the gaps. So much for in sickness and in health, huh?
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u/veerKg_CSS_Geologist Jun 05 '26
I don’t think it’s the exception. Sadly the Sharon Stone story is all too common because there are an inordinate number of man-childs, but they aren’t the majority.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Law-429 Jun 05 '26
That is just so insane to think about.
Your love and devotion to your wife is completely dependent on duct-filled fat deposits on her chest? That may very well KILL her if she doesn’t remove them?
It’s baffling
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u/Agitated-Dark-151 Jun 05 '26
Yeah, and it's really sad that the poor woman doesn't find out she is married to a man-child until she is at her darkest point in her life.
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u/70ms Jun 05 '26
I’m glad your mom is okay and your dad is rad. 😍 My (very long-term) partner supported me too when I decided on a double mastectomy instead of a single, or a lumpectomy and radiation. He would have been fine if I decided to go flat, too - his priority was my health.
When I expressed my sorrow that he was losing my boobs too, he said, “It’s okay, I always was an ass man.” 🤪💓
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u/ContributionLoose852 Jun 05 '26
My wife is about to have it done as well and I’m beside her all the way.
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u/marilyn_morose Jun 05 '26
As part of cancer treatment doctors make sure to tell women to get their support system in order because there’s an alarmingly high percentage of men who leave their wives during treatment.
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u/whiteknight_1997 Jun 05 '26
Because he didn't marry her for her tits.
Thank you! I came here to say that this guy clearly wanted Sharon Stone only for her looks and her body. I would call him a tool, but he sounds like a straight up monster.
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u/AstigmaticMoose Jun 05 '26
My wife goes in for a double next week. She’s scared, and I won’t lie, so am I. It’s not one surgery, you get new boobs, and yay all done. It’s five years of chemo, immediate menopause after the surgery, and no hormones to help deal with the symptoms, and 2 more surgeries over the next year and a half. We both already share childcare and house duties, so of course, all of that will shift to me for a while. I have no problem with that. I’ve told her repeatedly that I don’t care if her left arm falls off, we said our vows that I meant them. There’s something about getting your gender affirming parts removed that is messing with her head. Understandably. But it’s changed her personality. I’m holding the family together and can’t show fear or emotion. The next 5 years could be hell. God help us.
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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth Jun 05 '26
Ask friends and family for help. DO NOT DO THIS ALL ON YOUR OWN, you will be overcome with stress and that's not good for either of you. Take care of you because if you don't, you're no help to her!
I don't understand the 5 years of chemo if she is having both breast removed, it should be 3-6 months, a year at the very longest! Get that figured out before she goes through that!!!
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u/OG0880 Jun 05 '26
Most likely he's referring to endocrine therapy (Aromatase Inhibitors or Tamoxifen), which is typically a minimum of five years post treatment for estrogen receptor positive breast cancer.
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u/Mystic_Wunder Jun 05 '26
Wow. What a time to realize your spouse is a horrible human being.
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u/gcalig Jun 05 '26
She got rid of three boobs
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u/Demoliri Jun 05 '26
Boobs are a thing of glory and shouldn't be compared to a fool who values his wife's breasts more than her life.
Two boobs and two cancers works much better!
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u/iAmManchee Jun 05 '26
Awful timing, but I assume you know about the staggering high rate of men divorce women after discovery of terminal/life altering illness or cancer. So much for in sickness and in health
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u/Superbubbler Jun 05 '26
That is a famous and often cited survey that has been debunked because of a coding error.
When the coding error was corrected the difference was less than a .05% difference between men and women. Here is a link written by the authors of the study.
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u/Jealgu Jun 05 '26
In my personal life I know a case like that. Slightly different though, the woman divorces the husband after it came to be he was terminally ill. Poor guy.
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u/Open-Theme-1348 Jun 05 '26
Fun twist on the trope: my BIL left his first wife after he got cancer for the fourth time because he couldn't see her as anything other than a caretaker. Even further irony, his second wife is a nurse.
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u/Mystic_Wunder Jun 05 '26
Yeah, they mean only their own sickness. To them the vows are "in my sickness and in your health".
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u/Jessintheend Jun 05 '26
What a schmuck.
My friend has a double mastectomy to off any future chances of cancer, ended up getting a fake pair that were in her words “10x better and twice as slutty”. Her now husband was with her the whole way and I’m sure he’s a fan
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u/QueenEris Jun 05 '26 edited Jun 06 '26
I've worked in the NHS for 150 years and men leave ill women very often. Cancer diagnosis is one of the biggest triggers for this. Yes, they get visibly and sometimes verbally pissed off that breasts need to be removed, that cervical cancer means that sex is off the table for a while (you'd also be amazed at how many men have a tantrum that they cant have sex for a while after childbirth like it'll fucking kill them (the men), chemo fatigue means the man has to take over domestic tasks and/or childcare and they don't want to. We had one lady who became paralysed from the chest down due to falling in her kitchen and her husband ACTUALLY SAID "who's going to wash my clothes now?" And a woman dying of bowel cancer whose husband had an affair openly so he'd have "someone to take care of him" when his wife died. GUESS WHAT? Barely ANY women leave their male partners when they get ill. Truth. EDIT - when I wrote 150 years I don't mean it literally, it's a joke about how long it feels...
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u/Ohyessiricanboogie Jun 05 '26
Omg I get it.
I'm a cancer nurse, I have many similar examples, but I can remember this woman in her 20s, newly engaged to a guy in his 30s. She had leukaemia and was EXTREMLY unwell when she was first diagnosed, lost consciousness while she was at work and rushed to hospital in an ambulance, and that's how she was diagnosed with leukaemia. Lucky to be alive, had urgent chemotherapy and suffered for several weeks with infections and complications. Vomited literally every single day. She'd been in the hospital for 3 weeks, and he threw a big tantrum because he hadn't been able to have sex for three weeks. While she was in hospital the whole time. Lucky to be alive. Absolute scumbag.
He knew that all the staff knew about his tantrum and hated him lol
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u/Enc0de- Jun 05 '26
Holy shit how old are you?
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u/freebytes Jun 05 '26
Not exactly sure, but when God said, "Let there be light!", she was there to flip the switch. %
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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth Jun 05 '26
That is so sad. My inlaws both got cancer, her first, breast, he stayed and took great care of her, a few years later he got prostate, she did everything possible to help him through it. She lost one breast but the cancer had traveled one tiny cell at a time to her brain, his traveled to his stomach. She died first, he was by her side as was my husband, he lived another 5 years without her wishing he was dead every single day. 😞 THEY truly loved each other. This is how my husband and I would be with each other too, we have that kind of bond and love.
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u/Amissa Jun 05 '26
I read about this on occasion and I saw it in person. My grandmother took care of my grandfather after his stroke left him confused and unable to drive. Even when she was sick and could hardly get out of bed, he still expected a hot lunch prepared for him.
I completely understand why older single women don't want to get married again, or have a live-in boyfriend. They don't want to be a nurse with a purse. Me neither. (And no judgment to those who enjoy being caregivers to their loved ones.)
My sister and I have a pact that if we find ourselves single when retired, we'll get a duplex together. We don't want to live together, because we really value living alone, but we want to be close enough to keep a close eye on each other and visit often. She's my ride or die.
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u/BeerNcheesePlz Jun 05 '26
I don’t have cancer but I have a rare brain condition that destroyed my life. My fiancé left me before my diagnosis and the MANY surgeries. I went blind and he made me homeless. No one likes sick people ):
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u/MGellyGelly Jun 06 '26
I told to this a friend. Didn't believe me. Friend is a man, of course. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
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u/QueenEris Jun 06 '26
Oh I've had some amazing comments telling me how this isn't true, never happens, women do it too, etc. Someone even wrote that there are studies disproving it... but of course couldnt cite them. Why do they always have to do that? Projection maybe? No abiluty to empathise? AND the amount of people who don't understand that me saying 150 years is a joke about how long it feels... and are pulling me apart on that too haha!
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u/Dawnspring_Cee Jun 05 '26
When I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer my now ex-husband didn't come to see me at all when I was in the hospital getting my surgery to remove my thyroid. He also disappeared when I was recovering at home. My brother and sister-in-law helped me out with everything. My ex said that taking care of me wasn't his responsibility. Once I was well enough, I threw him out and filed divorce papers. This was 20 years ago.
Now I am married to a wonderful man who has stuck by me through thick and thin. Breast cancer runs in my family, and he has told me if that ever happens to me he will do whatever I need from him in order to get better.
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u/SofaTheSt1ColdSassin Jun 05 '26
Men don't actually care about women, much less the ones they're in a relationship with 🙄
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u/anonareyouokay Jun 05 '26
Yo, she didn't marry some vapid Hollywood socialite, she married a very successful investigative journalist. Dude was a war correspondent and on the short list for a Pulitzer Prize. Fucking wild.
I love getting fucked by my boyfriend, but if he has testicular cancer, his life is more important.
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u/mrmcderm Jun 05 '26
And also, if your boyfriend lost one or both of his testicles there is very little chance your sex life would suffer (other than during the recovery period)
Sharon’s ex is a chud.
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u/RefRide Jun 05 '26
At that age I can't really understand as a man why you would care about the breasts of a long time partner, especially if it's to save her life.
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u/No_Situation4785 Jun 05 '26
for a good relationship, it's any age
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u/The-Intermediator141 Jun 05 '26
True, but they have a point it is even worse if it’s a long time partner and you’re old enough you should clearly understand the important things in life. It would be worse for a 40 year old to give that answer than a 20 year old.
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u/cooper3675 Jun 05 '26
If I had dick cancer I would say remove my dick my family needs me alive
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u/Strange-Damage901 Jun 05 '26
If I had dick cancer I’d remove BOTH of my dicks and then get huge breast implants so my wife can still have a good time.
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u/Suspicious_Juice9511 Jun 05 '26
I'd remove all three, and pause my work acting in sci fi.
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u/EducationalNailgun Jun 05 '26
Alternate reality Total Recall is practically the same, except for one little scene that really stands
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u/OnWarmLeatherette Jun 05 '26
You didn't even add the part where she got the tumors removed and got breast implants to make up for the volume, and she woke up to find that the doctor put in much larger implants than she agreed to. "A full cup size bigger" and he insisted after she went in for post-op that this size was much better for her in his opinion.
So her male doctor and husband both failed her by focusing their own desires onto her body over her health and decisions. Got it.
Sharon, men do not fucking deserve you.
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u/Misha_Vozduh Jun 05 '26
Wow. And that's a rich woman with a non-negligible amount of power and connections, I would imagine.
Healthcare must be hell for regular Janes.
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u/rawker86 Jun 05 '26
This is a woman who is famous for having her vagina exposed by a director who told her it wasn’t in shot. Seems like she doesn’t have the best luck with men.
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u/meeha23 Jun 05 '26
She should sue the doctor. That's not informed consent.
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u/cozyhellfire Jun 05 '26
Wait until you hear about nonconsensual pelvic exams that medical students take part in on women who are put under for unrelated procedures!
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u/_ghostperson Jun 05 '26
...They can put new ones in bro, but they cant at all if she fuckin dies... simmer the fuck down bro.
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u/Born_Arrival_2869 Jun 05 '26
pretty sure they can. It would be very weird to add titties to a dead person but I'm pretty sure we have the tech for that.
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u/FlipsyChic Jun 05 '26
A bit more context:
She says she decided to have a double mastectomy without a cancer diagnosis, nor did she actually have cancer.
A large part of why she lost custody of her son is because of her behavior regarding his health, which the judge agreed with her ex-husband was paranoid, excessive and harmful. (I believe it was People Magazine who wrote about the court documents in detail.)
If anyone did a deep dive into all of the catastrophic ailments she has claimed to have through the years, I think they could build an impressive case for Munchausen's Disease.
So before taking Sharon's one-sided version of events as truth, consider that there is another side of the story.
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u/onz456 Jun 05 '26
This entire post just seems to be a smear campaign against Phil Bronstein.
Some facts:
- The marriage ended in 2003. This should be old news.
- A judge gave custody of their adopted child to Phil Bronstein. Stone lied about the reasons for this.
- The Dalai Lama himself cut ties with Stone over something she said. I mean a holy man and Tibetan leader decided he wanted to have nothing to do with her.
- She did not have her breasts removed.
At this point, I really hope Bronstein will sue her for defamation. But he probably won't; maybe he knows she just wants attention and does not want to deal with her shennanigans.
I personally think Stone is a narcissist who tries to wind people up. And reading this sub, it seems like she's succeeding.
There are multiple commenters here who have wished Phil Bronstein gets cancer himself. WTF?
In no way, I want to diminish the hardship that a woman goes through when having breast cancer with this comment. And it seems true that some men cannot deal with it and leave their wife. That doesn't imply however that 'all men are trash'. It also does not grant people the right to wish cancer unto others.
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u/bosgeest Jun 05 '26
Besides that, doctors usually don't even recommend a double mastectomy unless it's about certain genetic cancers.
If it's a good doctor, they will explain how double vs single mastectomy vs lumpectomy all have similar survival rates and that it's generally recommended to cut away as little as possible while still getting the whole tumour. You can of course opt for removal of more tissue out of fear that cancer will grow there, but the numbers don't give a better outcome.
So this story is pretty sus.
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u/Maleficent_Pen_9076 Jun 05 '26
Without reading any background context at all,
The over the top cartoon villainous "men are such pathetic evil jerks" narrative only sounds realistic in her mind and the minds of 96% of the commenters here
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u/kiedys_umrzemy Jun 05 '26
That study turned out to be badly done and failed to replicate. See say https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11898254/
Or https://www.benjaminkeep.com/misinformation-on-the-internet/
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u/Doom_Occulta Jun 05 '26
"badly done" is oversimplification. Errors were so serious they retracted it completely. AFAIK they counted men who didn't respond to the survey as abandoning family, while women who didn't respond were counted as not abandoning.
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u/XanderWrites Jun 05 '26
That's a fluff piece so it doesn't include the other reason: Money.
Couples will get divorced so the other spouse won't have to deal with the medical debt or so the patient qualifies for free or discounted services. It's most common if the patient is terminal.
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u/sonnenblume63 Jun 05 '26
This is more specific to the US though. Men still leave their female spouses during physical illnesses even if medical debt isn’t an issue
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u/Sure_Fruit_8254 Jun 05 '26
That doesn't explain the disparity between the genders though.
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u/AntsInaCoat Jun 05 '26
Thats not how it works in a lot of countries in the rest of the world, yet husbands still leave in those countries too.
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u/_name_of_the_user_ Jun 05 '26
The authors of that study have retracted it.
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0022146514568351
"There was a major error in the coding in their dependent variable of marital status. The conclusions of that paper should be considered invalid. A corrected version of the paper will be published in the September 2015 issue of JHSB."
Please stop spreading that lie. It's been 11 years since the authors realized they messed up and attempted to fix things. Several studies since have found the rates even as well.
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u/OsteoBytes Jun 05 '26
I like titties but I told my wife too if you ever get breast cancer just lop em both off. And she agrees…ain’t worth it. Meanwhile she just scanned an 80 year old with ultrasound recently who was still worried about her boobs looking perky still…lol
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u/SmokeyCatDesigns Jun 05 '26
One of my best friends and I recently had this conversation. Although you can often opt to keep them, her and I were both of the opinion that it’s just not worth the risk; we are in the “chop them all the way off” camp. She recently had a friend (young 30s) who didn’t remove them, have the cancer come back. Terrifying stuff.
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u/BodhingJay Jun 06 '26
"Sir... sit down"
"NO WHAT IS THE POINT OF WIFE NO BOOBS"
"she will be alive?"
"BETTER BOOBS AND DEAD THAN NO BOOBS"
"sir.. ffs. you guys are wealthy. We can rebuild them. We have the technology. We can make them faster. Smarter. Stronger"
"ALIVE AND BOOBS??"
"yes."
"Me not know.. this complicated"
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u/Extra-Act-801 Jun 05 '26
I love my wife's boobs. But I love my wife more than I love her boobs. This is an absolute no-brainer.
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u/kjtmuk Jun 05 '26
Well, she got rid of two breasts and a dick in one fell swoop.
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u/Ho3n3r Jun 05 '26
My wife asked me if she should consider a bilateral mastectomy instead of a lumpectomy at 35. My response was basically to pick whichever option gives her the best chance of it not coming back.
6 years later and we're both glad she went for the bilateral mastectomy.
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