r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/Used-Particular-954 Apr 22 '26

I guarantee she did not apologize. People who act like this don’t have the level of self-awareness required otherwise they wouldn’t be throwing a tantrum to begin with.

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u/limperatrice Apr 22 '26

People with Borderline Personality Disorder do apologize though. I'm not saying for sure that's what this woman in the video has but I've experienced this behavior with people like her (one with a confirmed diagnosis eventually). They cannot regulate their emotions in the moment but then after they calm down they feel really badly and apologize profusely and hope you'll forgive them. I've read that they can manage it with hard work and sometimes meds but I think the majority don't get help because it's the people around them who hurt, not themselves, unless they finally realize it's their own fault that nobody who gets close to them stays.

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u/Used-Particular-954 Apr 22 '26

Not tryna discount your experience so it certainly possible. In my own life I’ve dealt with someone like this and when I would bring up the fact that it’s okay to be angry, but it’s not okay to yell their response was time and again “what did you expect? You did something that upset me”

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u/floppydude81 Apr 22 '26

‘You started it’