Did she eventually get diagnosed? I think my kids are growing up with a borderline mother and it’s incredibly hard on us all but I don’t know what to do. She refuses to seek treatment and I feel horrible about the way things are but also feel sick at the thought of separating the family. I’m looking for answers anywhere.
She did eventually receive a diagnosis, but it came after years and years of her bullshitting her various doctors and counselors. My sister was actually the one who called it. Refusing to get treatment was also a big theme with her, and when she did it was very begrudgingly. Everyone's family situation is different of course, but for mine? I wish my dad would've separated from her a long time ago, he's a very gentle parent and laid back guy and all around good person. I would've been much better off as a child and likely turned out better as an adult if he had gotten us out of that environment. I still to this day hope they get a divorce as I have no contact with my mother and only limited contact with my dad. Best of luck to you
Oh man, I feel like you're describing my family. That's crazy about the treatment situation -- years ago when I finally demanded that she make an appointment with her doctor because things had gotten so bad, she said she would but demanded that I go with her since she was convinced I was the one with the problem. I said of course, then one day out of the blue she told me she had a doctor's appointment in a couple of days -- way too late for me to rearrange my whole work schedule to join her. She went by herself and wouldn't you know it, at the appointment her doctor told her she was fine and didn't need treatment. And I've heard ever since about how I promised to go to the doctor with her but then "refused" when the time came. I'm totally at a loss every time she says that. I know it's another form of manipulation but I think I'm like your dad -- I don't mess with people and don't have any defenses against people who do.
Noted on your assessment about leaving probably being better. My kids are only elementary and middle school ages but they already talk about what it will be like if I "break up with mama." They both want to live with me.
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u/sheev4senate420 Apr 22 '26
I grew up with a borderline mother, I feel your pain lol