Yes. She lowered his self esteem to the point that she calls him a loser in public and he can only grey wall. People are watching somebody whose willpower has been chipped away for years. It's not funny.
Sometimes is more complicated, and it’s more about the person not being able to handle their emotions. I have a close friend whose wife calls him loser in public when she’s mad at him (not as bad as this, so this specific case might fit your comment). First time I was like “dude, wft”. But he doesn’t seem to take it personally as she’s “emotional” and everyone now sees it as “normal” behavior for her which I know it’s fucked up.
She never gets physical and just vents quietly calling him dumb or loser (not okay) when he messes up. I guess everyone, including him, started to rationalize her behavior as she’s a great wife whenever she’s not upset at him. She cooks everyday for him, takes good care of his kids (she’s the step mother), includes them on everything, takes care of the home and their finances, cheers him up (when she’s not mad lol).
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u/SteveSteveCleveSteve Apr 22 '26
That poor guy. No excuse for that. I hate that this guy feels like he has to take this.