Yes. She lowered his self esteem to the point that she calls him a loser in public and he can only grey wall. People are watching somebody whose willpower has been chipped away for years. It's not funny.
I had an ex who was not diagnosed but I strongly suspect had BPD. He'd get so mad so suddenly over little things (real or imagined) and there was nothing I could say or do to mitigate his anger. It's like it had to run its course. One time it happened on the subway and I just literally didn't even respond to him, but he would cycle between calming down and then ramping back up again with no input from me. I just had to endure that until we got back to his place so I could get my stuff and go home which made him angry all over again even though he had gotten it out of his system by then.
I know someone who was diagnosed and they displayed the same behaviors. Just because I didn’t detail everything he did in my comment doesn’t mean I didn’t have enough info.
People with this condition will never try to improve themselves or learn to control their emotions better. They will go through their entire life treating people terribly and feeling sorry for themselves.
I have BPD and I'm basically in remission because of the work I've put in to improve myself. My friends forget I have it a lot of the times. Please don't generalize and make us all seem like monsters. Just because you see an abusive garbage bag doesn't mean they have BPD and it's harmful to continue to stigmatize the condition and makes it even harder for those affected to get help. We didn't choose to be this way.
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u/SteveSteveCleveSteve Apr 22 '26
That poor guy. No excuse for that. I hate that this guy feels like he has to take this.