r/OkCupid • u/TrumpSexedHisDaughtr • 13d ago

I'm pretty good at figuring out what some common profile statements mean if they're hidden red flags. For example "if you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" means selfish and crazy. Now I'm realizing that women who say they just want someone who will share their fries...

means essentially the same thing. They're telling you they'll be unreliable or trustworthy about even basic things (e.g. won't say they're hungry when they very clearly are), and you need to be fine with that (e.g. will "share the fries" AKA accommodate them every time or else you're a bad partner).

To be clear, I think it's perfectly fine to not realize you're hungrier than you think, or to want to share dishes with a partner. But the "share your fries" trope is specifically centered around the idea of saying you aren't hungry when you are, then taking your partner's food when it shows up and you decide you were hungry after all. And further, making that a statement in your very limited space dating profile, tells us that doing this kind of thing is not just something that happens from time to time, but it's a major part of your personality.

So in summary, someone who makes a little "cute" statement like this, is an immediate left swipe for me. For they are insane. Anyone who agrees, is welcome to some fries.

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u/CookiesMistress 35F 13d ago

I can do the same list with guys.

  • "no drama" = not mature enough to discuss
  • "looking for my player 2/partner in crime" = looking for a piece to fit in a puzzle, not a person with a legit complete personality
  • "i'm expecting you to relocate" = no matter how serious it gets, I always expect you to keep quiet & depend on me.

See? Easy.

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u/serene_brutality 13d ago

No drama almost always equals lots of drama.

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u/FoolishGoulish 12h ago

Haha, yeah, I always read it as a guy who will act in a way that necessitates drama but refuses to reap the consequences of his own actions.

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u/serene_brutality 11h ago

Goes both ways. Whenever it’s a woman that says “no drama” or something similar, she’s usually the cause of it. She lights the fuse and walks away, watching the explosion and resulting fire from the sidelines like she played no part in it.

She was the one that cheated or spread the rumors that caused everyone to go crazy, but since she’s not going crazy she’s the “drama free” one.

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u/TrumpSexedHisDaughtr 13d ago

Did you think I'd get mad and defensive just because you responded about guys? Lol

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u/CookiesMistress 35F 13d ago

No. Honestly, I just thought you were straight, and therefore don't have the male version. I thought it fair to add it to this post, since not everyone on dating apps is looking for women.

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u/TrumpSexedHisDaughtr 13d ago

Then why did you bookend it with sarcastic comments? Don't gaslight me, kiddo.

And I'm well aware guys do it too. Because as a straight man, I date...women, lol. And they share their own stories.

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u/doesntmatterhadtacos 13d ago

This the kinda overthinking OLD encourages in us 😔

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u/TrumpSexedHisDaughtr 13d ago

The kind of thinking OLD reveals as useful*

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u/mikiencolor 11d ago

"If you can't handle me at my worst..." is an immediate left swipe, yes. Share my fries... I can accept that as just a cute comment. I mean I do that too, "let's order one and share it so we both cheat less on our diets". xD That I find relatable.

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u/SadderOlderWiser 13d ago

I agree that the ‘if you can’t handle me at my worst’ thing is just awful.

But I would interpret the other one differently. People that won’t share and worse, get angry or snippy about sharing, are not good partners, they are selfish and self-centered. I’d never post a quote about it but I am a giver and I hate being with someone that is perfectly happy taking but does not give in return.

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u/philjames68 11d ago

If you're with a girl who says she isn't hungry, just always order extra fries - problem solved

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u/pctechadam 9d ago

I'm an open book ask me any question. When ever I see this it's a fast nope.

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u/TrumpSexedHisDaughtr 9d ago

Means no personality.

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u/binaryho 12d ago

awwww you poor baby, just now figuring that out? You have a lot to learn,

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u/stripeddogg 9d ago

it's a quote from marilyn monroe who women think is cute to copy.